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Worried Sick! Please calm me down

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Quiltedflossy · 24/02/2019 05:24

I've started a thread to try and calm myself.
Admittedly I'm a worrier but I'm panicking.
DS went out with mates last night. He has before stayed out till 3/4 am but it's not a regular thing. He's pretty good and usually txts to say he's in a taxi or whatever. This morning I went to the loo 3am, he's not back.
4am he sends me video of him and some others in a car, loud music playing, screaming and laughing. I assume it's not a taxi because of the music/noise.
I reply and ask where he's going but had no reply. No WhatsApp activity since the car video.
I'm so worried Sad

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Quiltedflossy · 24/02/2019 05:25

I should add, I need to be up at 6 for work so I'm getting up now anyway

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Decormad38 · 24/02/2019 05:28

Text him and say your calling the police. That will make him respond

Alondonleerie · 24/02/2019 05:32

He might not see it, though. Police aren't going to go out looking at this early stage anyway. Chances are they're either still going, or winding down somewhere. He's been out til 4 before, so this isn't a massive behavioral change. Give him a day to sober up a bit. Do you know any of the ppl he was out with?

RogueV · 24/02/2019 05:32

How old is he?
In all honesty he’ll be fine. But I do like what Decor has suggested

Decormad38 · 24/02/2019 05:33

You don’t actually have to ring the police! Just tell him you are!

SneakyGremlins · 24/02/2019 05:34

Maybe his phone's just died.

Sanguineclamp · 24/02/2019 05:37

Poor you. No wonder you are worried. My sister has just been through the same thing with her ds.

Not easy but try and focus on the likelihood that he is fine and fast asleep in one of his friend's houses.

How old is he? Tbh, after this I would be having stern words with him about consideration for others (ie come to some agreement about when and how he lets you know he is ok) and safety ie driving around screaming in cars at 3am with your mates and loud music not being the most sensible of activities.

Hope you hear from him soon. Flowers

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Quiltedflossy · 24/02/2019 05:39

He's 20, it's just strange how he sends the video in the car and now silence. I txt hi. back a minute after he sent the video so I can't see how his phone died so suddenly.
I don't really know who he's with, not enough that a have numbers for them or anything like that
I've just rung his phone, it rings and goes to voicemail.
Grrr why do I worry so much!! He's not my first born so you'd think I'd be used to it!

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Quiltedflossy · 24/02/2019 05:40

Thankyou samguine

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ivykaty44 · 24/02/2019 05:40

He’s probably not seen the message, I’m sure he will when he sees the text.

He’ll be fine

Don’t message threatening the police

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Quiltedflossy · 24/02/2019 05:42

I'm going to be a nervous wreck at work until I hear from him.🤨

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Sanguineclamp · 24/02/2019 05:46

Crikey well he should be old enough to know that sending you that sort of video is not very reassuring and that it would worry you sick. I suspect alcohol may be affecting his judgement! Hopefully keeping busy at work will help to distract you from the worry. Lads of this age are not known for their ability to think of others.

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Quiltedflossy · 24/02/2019 05:49

He knows I worry which is why he sends a txt saying he's in taxi or whatever. This is out of character and worrying me that he didn't reply a minute after he txt me.
I'm off to make a cuppa.

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Abibranning · 24/02/2019 06:05

Remember videos take a while to send, particularly if the signal is bad he may have sent it a while before you got it. So although you responded immediately he could easily have moved on since or fallen asleep etc.

Llioed · 24/02/2019 06:09

Didn’t want to read and run. I hope you are ok, OP. I’m sure he will be in touch soon. I don’t have teenage/adult DC so don’t have any advice (Sorry) but just wanted to give a calming hug Brew

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Quiltedflossy · 24/02/2019 06:13

Thankyou llioed I will try his phone again before I leave for work. He never intended on staying at a mates. said he would be home

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oatmilk4breakfast · 24/02/2019 06:23

Hope all well you just be so worried. Sometimes taking and sending a video causes my phone to just give up and lose battery even if it had say 10% left before. Hope it’s just that. Fingers crossed home soon.

Insomnibrat · 24/02/2019 06:26

Honestly it sounds like his phone's died. Yes, they can die that quickly... especially after taking and sending a video if they're low

Strange thing for him to have done though, sending my mum a vid of me drunk in a car at the end of my night out wouldn't have been high on my list of priorities at 20...

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 24/02/2019 06:27

Hope he turns up soon OP, I have a 20 yo too and I’d be worried. I’m sure he’ll be fine, but you need to know that.

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Quiltedflossy · 24/02/2019 06:28

if his phone has died would it ring when I phone him tho? it does about 7 rings then goes to voicemail

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SneakyGremlins · 24/02/2019 06:29

Mine does OP.

He's probably just asleep! He'll be very sheepish when he next sees you Grin

ChishandFips33 · 24/02/2019 06:32

I'm with the phone dying idea (with a dash of alcohol too).

Videos can take up a lot of battery to make and send and if he's anything like a friend's son, his phone may not have been fully charged when he went out

Hope you get some activity from him soon - but he may then be sleeping it off!

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Quiltedflossy · 24/02/2019 06:34

He will be more than bloody sheepish when I see him! he's lucky I'm going to work!Angry

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Dohee · 24/02/2019 06:37

My wild guess is on cocaine.

youwouldthink · 24/02/2019 06:38

If the phone is ringing out it means he still has battery.
He's probably spark out on a friends sofa but can totally understand your worry.
Hope you hear from him soon.

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