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Worried Sick! Please calm me down

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Quiltedflossy · 24/02/2019 05:24

I've started a thread to try and calm myself.
Admittedly I'm a worrier but I'm panicking.
DS went out with mates last night. He has before stayed out till 3/4 am but it's not a regular thing. He's pretty good and usually txts to say he's in a taxi or whatever. This morning I went to the loo 3am, he's not back.
4am he sends me video of him and some others in a car, loud music playing, screaming and laughing. I assume it's not a taxi because of the music/noise.
I reply and ask where he's going but had no reply. No WhatsApp activity since the car video.
I'm so worried Sad

OP posts:
Harmonyrays · 24/02/2019 06:52

Does he have find my phone?

Original poster
Quiltedflossy · 24/02/2019 06:54

cocaine?! that's a big step from a few beers! he's never touched drugs and I'd like to think he wouldn't start now. His old school mates brother died of an accidental overdose 3ish years ago. He was really shaken up about it. Thanks for the suggestion thoConfused

OP posts:
MadisonAvenue · 24/02/2019 06:57

I hope you hear from him soon. He’s probably on a friend’s sofa.

I’ve got an 18 year old who has caused me similar worries, in not coming home when he says and having a dead phone battery so I know how you feel. I’ve had several sleepless nights since he turned 18!

speakout · 24/02/2019 07:09

OP don't worry.

I have a 21 year old,

Your DSs mistake was sending a video.

I am sure my son gets up to all sorts, I don;t believe he is into heavy drugs, and he always makes it home safe.
He did have a year working abroad and survived, I think I worry less as a result.
I was wild at 20 - many of us were and we survived.

Your son will now be asleep at a friend's somewhere not realising that little cushion is half a pizza.

He will be back at lunchtime, tired and thirsty.

Don't worry.

whiteroseredrose · 24/02/2019 07:22

Hoping you've heard by now and that all is well. Just a horrible hangover. Bloody DH did this to me once (years ago). Didn't call as he didn't want to wake me (??!!) He'd stayed at a friend's place because he'd run out of money for a taxi and was going to get a bus in the morning.

Original poster
Quiltedflossy · 24/02/2019 07:26

He's txt! I've just arrived at work. He's at his ex's (who dumped him 18 months ago)Confused he has apologised and said he fell asleep as soon as he got there.
I will deal with him when I get home!
Thanks for the hand hold everyoneFlowers

OP posts:
Whereareyouspot · 24/02/2019 07:27

Kids!
He will be fine but your worry is normal and horrible
I’ve been there several times and the heart racing never gets any better

Fingers crossed he wakes up before lunchtime and can contact you

Whereareyouspot · 24/02/2019 07:27

Crossed posts!
Phew!

Wowserme · 24/02/2019 07:29

Not a helpful comment Dohee!
He’s probably fallen asleep somewhere flossy. You would have heard if something had happened, so enjoy your tea and get ready for work, Unfortunately you’ll probably be going through this a few more times over the next so many years. I did!!!
Sending you a big comforting hug. X

Wowserme · 24/02/2019 07:30

Crossed posts too!
I’m so relieven for you 🤗

MadisonAvenue · 24/02/2019 07:39

So relieved for you Flowers

Llioed · 24/02/2019 08:57

Relieved for you OP Smile

Sanguineclamp · 24/02/2019 09:03

Thank heavens he's ok! Yay!

(Fit enough to give him a good talking to when you get home anyway Grin)

Kittykat93 · 24/02/2019 09:16

I'd go fucking apeshit if my son sent me a video at 4am of him drunk blaring music and screaming in a car!! What the fuck is that about??

Glad he's ok op.

Wakk · 24/02/2019 09:17

Glad he's ok. When they are late teen/young adults is the hardest parenting time imo.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 24/02/2019 09:18

My wild guess is on cocaine

I was going to say the same. Glad he’s texted you OP but I would be having a chat with him about whether he or any or the others were taking drugs.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 24/02/2019 09:19

That’s a relief.

LostInShoebiz · 24/02/2019 09:29

My wild guess is on cocaine.

On what basis are people surmising this?

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 24/02/2019 09:34

Erm maybe the fact that he sent his mum a video at 4am of him and his mates screaming and laughing in a moving car with music blaring is just a hunch Confused

ChishandFips33 · 24/02/2019 09:35

Phew! At least he was good in texting you SmileFlowers

SneakyGremlins · 24/02/2019 09:36

I've done that and I'm completely sober.

Ffsnosexallowed · 24/02/2019 09:38

You'll deal with him?? He's an adult.

LostInShoebiz · 24/02/2019 09:50

That doesn’t necessarily mean cocaine as opposed to excessive alcohol consumption. The woman has come here looking for support not baseless scaremongering.

IncrediblySadToo · 24/02/2019 09:53

I’m glad he’s fine.

I completely understand why you were worried. Totally.

However, he is 20. You need to stop insisting he sends you texts all the time. It’s not fair on him to have to report in all the time, it’s too much. Then when he forgets or gets drunk/falls asleep or ends up in bed with a girl he’s in trouble with his Mammy for not telling her.

There comes a time when you need to accept they’re adults and you’ll hear bad news quicker than good if in the very unlikely situation that anything bad was to happen.

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 24/02/2019 09:54

Put a tracker on his phone! 😉

I know he’s 20 but tell him how worried you were and ask how he’d feel if you went awol. I know we’ve all done it but these days everyone is so connected it’s more worrying when people don’t respond.

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