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What have I done??😱

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Auslander · 19/02/2019 14:48

To cut a long story short.
In a fit of childish temper I have thrown out load of my OH clothes.
My OH works away in the Middle East. He goes for 3 months and comes home for 3 weeks. When he comes home he brings his ' good' clothing to launder.
He then takes a different set of ' good ' clothing back with him, leaving the ones he brought home behind.
Early this morning I began to do the ironing and my iron packed up. I tried the fuse, nothing.
Now anyone else may have claimed down, applied a bit of logic and bought a new iron. This is where the childish temper took a grip of my logic and common sense.
I threw the iron AND my OH clothes in the bin. Then the bin men came while I was still stropping to myself.
Now I'm panicking and pissed off at myself. These clothes were expensive, think Fred Perry, Lacoste and Levi etc.
So what do I do?? He's back in 2 weeks! Being as there isn't a poll option I will throw it out there and go with whatever gets the most votes. So........

A. Pay penance by the way of spending upwards of a grand to replace the items?
B. Say nothing and hope he doesn't notice?
C. Own up but blame the washing machine for ruining everything?
D. Own up and accept that he's not going to be pleased?
E. Leave a note and leave home?

Over to you wise women.

By the way I enjoy ironing, so I always tell him to leave his and I'll sort it.

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explodingkitten · 19/02/2019 14:50

A+C. It's your fault, you should make it right again.

EstrellaDamn · 19/02/2019 14:52

I'd say I bagged up the wrong things by accident and sent it off to charity.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 19/02/2019 14:53

What exactly were you angry about?

Nesssie · 19/02/2019 14:53

Hmm. I'd do C because although you are obviously in the wrong, he is happy to let you do his laundry every time.
D would just leave to an unnecessary argument as he won't understand how frustrated you were in that moment.
Plus no one needs that expensive clothes. Replace with (cheaper) items so that he actually has clothes to wear.

Nesssie · 19/02/2019 14:54

Also this is hilarious! Its such a petty, unreasonable act that is also really understandable

PinkHeart5914 · 19/02/2019 14:55

That’s really awful I’m sorry but it is. Not childish, spiteful

You need to go and buy replacements, you threw them out in your spiteful fit so you find the money to replace

NotMyUsualTopBilling · 19/02/2019 14:56

Why can't he "launder" his own clothes if he's gone for 3 months at a time and what was the point of throwing his stuff away?

I'd be LIVID of DH done this to me and would expect him to replace stuff.

MrsCollinssettled · 19/02/2019 14:57

F: his problem. If he complains LTB.

He's home for 3 weeks - WTF can't he do his own laundry? If he can't be arsed to do it that's the risk he takes.

PinkHeart5914 · 19/02/2019 14:58

Plus no one needs that expensive clothes. Replace with (cheaper) items so that he actually has clothes to wear

No maybe he doesn’t need expensive clothes but no doubt his hard early wage fucking paid for them and his partner threw them away so no she can’t just replace with cheap crap.

Seriously your partner throws away you expensive clothes and only on mumsnet is that ok becuase you can just replace with cheap crap

Babygrey7 · 19/02/2019 14:58

Why are you his ironing service? What is that all about?

What a way to live, buy him a travel iron and he can do his ironing in the Middle East or wherever he is, or he can get it done there

It sounds like a ridiculous system, him traveling home with multiple suitcases of dirty clothes, you then providing laundry service, him travelling back with clean clothes

Surely he can sort laundry and ironing where he lives!!!

formerbabe · 19/02/2019 15:00

Go out and buy him lots of new stuff. When he comes back, tell him you thought his wardrobe needed a clear out and some sprucing up.

Meanwhile, what on earth were you thinking?!

TellItLikeItReallyIs · 19/02/2019 15:00

Take it a step at I time.

I vote first step:

B. Say nothing and hope he doesn't notice?

It's not clear if its everything he owns or just a selection. If it's plausible he may not notice, just keep quiet and see what happens.

Second step (if he does):

D. Own up and accept that he's not going to be pleased?

but you may need to have a serious sit down chat about why you were so angry. It sounds like he is using you as a laundrette. This is not nice or respectful behaviour. Just stop doing it. Tell him if he wants clothes washed/laundered he needs to use a collection and delivery service.

MrsIronfoundersson · 19/02/2019 15:16

I would do a variation of (c) - set fire to the washing machine and say all his clothes were in it at the time. Then off to the shops for new iron, washing machine and clothes.

ALargeGinPlease · 19/02/2019 15:20

F - they were hanging on the washing line and were either stolen, or a freak guest of wind blew everything away.

JRMisOdious · 19/02/2019 15:22

Completely understand throwing the iron. Not so sure about throwing the clothes too though....
I don’t do paid work now but I won’t iron my husband’s work shirts, they’re 100 per cent cotton (he can’t cope with sweaty synthetics) large size, pigs to iron. He takes a batch of washed ones off to the local laundrette every Saturday morning, where they machine press them, £5 for 5. Harmony is restored.

ALargeGinPlease · 19/02/2019 15:23

Or G - buy yourself a fabulous new collection of clothes, then explain that you decided that your image as a couple need updating, you've done yours, started on his, (is disposed of his old, outdated stuff), but obviously want him to have some input into his new wardrobe. Maybe even book a few days away in a city, as a shopping trip for you both.

SayMehToTheDress · 19/02/2019 15:30

I would do a variation of (c) - set fire to the washing machine and say all his clothes were in it at the time. Then off to the shops for new iron, washing machine and clothes

😂😂😂

Pinkyyy · 19/02/2019 15:30

Hmm, I'd go for C too. But please do not set your washing machine on fire as a PP suggested.

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Auslander · 19/02/2019 15:56

I don't know what i was angry about @GreatDuckCookery. That's what makes it worse. The iron blowing up wouldn't normally send me into such a hissy fit. It was just one of those moments I think.

His laundry is done by the laundry service where he is when he's away. He brings his ' good ' clothes home so they are worn in rotation. As I said in my post, I like ironing so I tell him to leave it for me. He would be happy to do his own ironing if I didn't want to to do it. Plus, I have three months to do it in. After this fiasco he would probably never let me near his stuff again.
On the advice of you all and looking at the ' You stupid cow o meter ' it looks like I'm replacing it. 😭

You can all give me a whopping telling off, I deserve it.

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Auslander · 19/02/2019 16:00

Pipes up again to say...
He doesn't bring a large amount back, a medium size hold all.

Wipes eyes, blows nose and offers the chocs round

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Marylou2 · 19/02/2019 16:02

I think an infestation of moths might have got into your wardrobes. DPs clothes were badly affected but possibly imply that you lost some favourite items too. Strew mothballs everywhere to let him know you’ve been battling them bravely while all alone. 🙂. Go shopping together. Fixed.

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Auslander · 19/02/2019 16:04

That's an idea @MaryLou. Offers chocs.

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Stayawayfromitsmouth · 19/02/2019 16:04

You wierdo. No one likes ironing.
I think there maybe a bigger issue than the clothes buried deep down. Do you resent him travelling maybe?

ComeMonday · 19/02/2019 16:05

I don’t understand. Why does he have to wear his good clothes in a group rotation like that? Why wouldn’t he just take it all and wear what he wants in an informal rotation like everyone else everywhere ?

JRMisOdious · 19/02/2019 16:06

“possibly imply that you lost some favourite items too”

Which will require replacements too, obviously 😁

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