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What have I done??😱

110 replies

Auslander · 19/02/2019 14:48

To cut a long story short.
In a fit of childish temper I have thrown out load of my OH clothes.
My OH works away in the Middle East. He goes for 3 months and comes home for 3 weeks. When he comes home he brings his ' good' clothing to launder.
He then takes a different set of ' good ' clothing back with him, leaving the ones he brought home behind.
Early this morning I began to do the ironing and my iron packed up. I tried the fuse, nothing.
Now anyone else may have claimed down, applied a bit of logic and bought a new iron. This is where the childish temper took a grip of my logic and common sense.
I threw the iron AND my OH clothes in the bin. Then the bin men came while I was still stropping to myself.
Now I'm panicking and pissed off at myself. These clothes were expensive, think Fred Perry, Lacoste and Levi etc.
So what do I do?? He's back in 2 weeks! Being as there isn't a poll option I will throw it out there and go with whatever gets the most votes. So........

A. Pay penance by the way of spending upwards of a grand to replace the items?
B. Say nothing and hope he doesn't notice?
C. Own up but blame the washing machine for ruining everything?
D. Own up and accept that he's not going to be pleased?
E. Leave a note and leave home?

Over to you wise women.

By the way I enjoy ironing, so I always tell him to leave his and I'll sort it.

OP posts:
WFTisgoingoninmyhead · 19/02/2019 17:21

I think YABU leaving it 10 weeks to start on his laundry, if you have three months to do it and he is back in 2 weeks!!!

sweetpeach91 · 19/02/2019 17:22

I can't believe some on these posters saying the Op shouldn't do his ironing?Hmm

I iron my partners clothes and do the majority of housework even though I'm a full time student because I love my partner and take pride in our home. I don't always iron his stuff (he may do it if he needs something quick) but as his work is time consuming and he provides for the both of us (I have a small student maintenance loan that I use for things) I don't mind doing the majority of the housework! Doesn't make me a doormat😂 I could easily not do it one day and he'll happily do it! It just helps him out and he helps me out vice versa.

Oliversmumsarmy · 19/02/2019 17:25

Why are you ironing.

I don’t own an iron. Dp gets his work shirts done at the local laundrette and everything else is folded or hung up straight from the tumble dryer

10 weeks to do laundry?

Sallycinammonbangsthedruminthe · 19/02/2019 17:26

Just to say OP when I need to grovel Fred Perry bless em always seem to bring out a new range! Just preparing a grovel fest of my own and noticed the most delish cadbury purple fred perry top has just come out! Think I will start there!! Do you want one ordering while I am at it?!!!! Grovelling is so expensive!!!

pinkgloves · 19/02/2019 17:28

I'm also horrified so many of you are advocating lying about it.

When a woman posts about a man lying everyone is up in arms!

If I'd been ridiculous enough to have done this I'd also be adult enough to own up and respect my dh enough not to make up some bullshit story.

formerbabe · 19/02/2019 17:30

I do all the laundry and ironing too including my partners. I don't work. Do people really go through the laundry basket picking out their partners clothes and refusing to bung them in the washing machine?! Confused

sweetpeach91 · 19/02/2019 17:31

@pinkgloves EXACTLY! It's unbelievable really. Obviously those posters have no respect for their partners.

White lie (e.g yes your ugly yellow shirt looks incredible darling!) is fine.

Bad lies are a definite no go for me!

sweetpeach91 · 19/02/2019 17:32

@formerbabe I know, it's bizarre right? You'd end up running the washing machine more or having half empty loads too if you did that.

pinkgloves · 19/02/2019 17:32

I do all the laundry and ironing too including my partners. I don't work. Do people really go through the laundry basket picking out their partners clothes and refusing to bung them in the washing machine?! 

A woman I know does this. She even take his laundry out of the machine and throws it on the floor if she needs to do hers or the kids and yells at him for not getting it out quickly enough. She's a peach.

Original poster
Auslander · 19/02/2019 17:35

No I'm not bored!!!
What I am is ashamed of myself!
I did say I was happy to take a whopping telling off from everyone.
I would like to say thanks for everyone's input. Even the people having a go at me, which they're quite right to do. If it was someone else, in would probably be having a go too.

To the poster who asked....we have been married 37 years, he has always worked away all our marriage.

OP posts:
Elfinablender · 19/02/2019 17:37

Settle down, people were posting excuses long before it was obvious the op was female. In fact, the only thing that suggests that the op is female is the length of the marriage, but given the loose way the word marriage is sometimes used by long term couples who haven't actually got married, the op could still be male.

GhostBustersFavouriteMum · 19/02/2019 17:41

Have a good charity trawl, look for similar items same brands.

RemindMeToMoveTheElf · 19/02/2019 17:45

You could say you left them slightly damp for ironing and forgot about them; then when you went back to them a few days later, you noticed damp/mould spots all over them Shock such a tragedy.

WorraLiberty · 19/02/2019 17:47

What I am is ashamed of myself!

Yeah of course you are. So much so that you had to ask such a stupid question like 'Should I replace them'?

I also can't believe how some people are advocating lying about it and making excuses for the OP's temper tantrum.

CurbsideProphet · 19/02/2019 17:49

It sounds an unnecessarily complicated system, especially as he is only home for 3 weeks out of every 15/16 weeks Confused
How does he keep track of which "good" clothes are in the UK and which are in the Middle East? Is there a spreadsheet?!

Elfinablender · 19/02/2019 17:49

Tbf worra I think the only thing more unlikely than Steph McGovern nicking them is that the bin men arrived the moment the op shoved the clothes in the bin.

3out · 19/02/2019 17:50

Just tell him that they didn’t spark joy and Marie kondo made you do it? 🤷‍♀️😂

Chocolateheaven123 · 19/02/2019 17:53

A woman posts on MN that her DP hasn't taken the bins out or washed the dishes while he has the Flu....she's practically told to the LTB and her partner is a waste of space who clearly disrespects her.

This scenario, and you're defending the OP or focusing on the fact that OP is ironing. So what if the husband likes expensive clothes. You've thrown out your husband's clothes over...I don't even know what. Just because you had a tantrum. It's disgusting. I would be incredibly livid and upset if my partner did this. It's HIS property, you had no right to throw it away. Don't lie, be honest, apologise and offer to buy him new stuff.

Jesus wept. MN is fucking like twilight zone sometimes.

TacoLover · 19/02/2019 18:01

Are the people who are suggesting that the OP needs anger management trying to make out they they've never thrown a hissy fit? Everyone has done at some stage and most of those people will have done things they regret. It's some clothes it's not the end of the world.

She's thrown away £1000 worth of clothes that aren't even hers, because the iron wouldn't work. Are you being serious?

Gina2012 · 19/02/2019 18:05

She's thrown away £1000 worth of clothes that aren't even hers, because the iron wouldn't work. Are you being serious?

This

She has issues of some sort - maybe a health problem or maybe some serious life events occurring

No one has this reaction because an iron breaks unless there are extraneous happenings

Original poster
Auslander · 19/02/2019 18:08

The bin men didn't arrive until a couple of hours after!
Yes, I'm female. Well, I was the last time I looked.
And yes, ashamed. I put the poll to try and make myself feel a bit better about it all. Which actually I don't.
Which is why I'm actually glad some of the posters on here are giving me a kicking, because it's deserved.
Sorry I can't make you believe otherwise, specially WorraLiberty who I have a lot of respect for.

OP posts:
lerrimknowyouretheyir · 19/02/2019 18:09

Would you not just move out there too, OP? I hear it’s lovely and warm at this time of year.

B or C.

user1494055864 · 19/02/2019 18:14

For future reference, my iron broke the other day. I ordered a new one from Argos, and paid 3.95 for same day delivery, so I had a brand new iron in less than 4 hours after the first one broke.

YourSarcasmIsDripping · 19/02/2019 18:16

If it was OH I'd just tell him. After plenty of FFS-ing he'd most likely make a stupid joke and keep it as a running joke for years to come. Then I'd replace most of it cause I felt shit and he'd get some stuff too plus buy me a new iron.

RandomMess · 19/02/2019 18:24

You poor thing this was clearly a menopausal moment, they happen. Be kind to yourself and see how long he takes to realise the clothes are missing, then go out shopping together!