What have I done??😱

[Auslander]

To cut a long story short.
In a fit of childish temper I have thrown out load of my OH clothes.
My OH works away in the Middle East. He goes for 3 months and comes home for 3 weeks. When he comes home he brings his ' good' clothing to launder.
He then takes a different set of ' good ' clothing back with him, leaving the ones he brought home behind.
Early this morning I began to do the ironing and my iron packed up. I tried the fuse, nothing.
Now anyone else may have claimed down, applied a bit of logic and bought a new iron. This is where the childish temper took a grip of my logic and common sense.
I threw the iron AND my OH clothes in the bin. Then the bin men came while I was still stropping to myself.
Now I'm panicking and pissed off at myself. These clothes were expensive, think Fred Perry, Lacoste and Levi etc.
So what do I do?? He's back in 2 weeks! Being as there isn't a poll option I will throw it out there and go with whatever gets the most votes. So........

A. Pay penance by the way of spending upwards of a grand to replace the items?
B. Say nothing and hope he doesn't notice?
C. Own up but blame the washing machine for ruining everything?
D. Own up and accept that he's not going to be pleased?
E. Leave a note and leave home?

Over to you wise women.

By the way I enjoy ironing, so I always tell him to leave his and I'll sort it.

Do you left them there for two hours and during that whole time you were raging?!!

Honestly, and I'm not saying this to be a snidey prick, I'd get help for hormone imbalances or anger problems. That's not right just because the iron broke.

And I'm saying this as someone who suffered from horrific rage when I was pregnant. I threw dh's iPad in to a puddle because he woke me up chainsawing. I rightly got my arse handed to me on here for it though. And owned up immediately, apologised profusely and bought him a new one.

If it was OH I'd just tell him. After plenty of FFS-ing he'd most likely make a stupid joke and keep it as a running joke for years to come. Then I'd replace most of it cause I felt shit and he'd get some stuff too plus buy me a new iron

Yep. Agree 100% with this

This is what would happen in our house. Except I don’t iron DH’s clothes because I am shit at it. So it probably wouldn’t happen in the first place!

I agree that if a man had posted about doing this to his DW’s or DP’s clothes there would be uproar, not laughter or suggestions on how the OP can lie her way out of this.

Woman up, explain what happened, take responsibility and put it right.

sweet peach and pink gloves - totally agree.

I sometimes wonder what kind of home life some of the posters on here have tbh.

I've had lots of hissy fits. More than most, because of depression. But I've never thrown anyone's stuff out or broken anything. I'd actually be worried about myself if I'd done something like this.

You need to replace his clothes.

I don’t know if I could bring myself to come clean about throwing the clothes out if I did this because I’d be feeling so ashamed of myself. But you’ve got to do what you can to make this right.

And also, this is an extreme overreaction to an iron breaking. I can understand throwing the broken iron in the bin, but actually taking all the clothes to the outside bin on bin day, and leaving them there for several hours until the bin’s emptied? Way, way, OTT. Worryingly so. Might be worth considering what pp have said about looking into getting help.

Why are so many people advocating lying? If it was the other way round and your husband impulsively destroyed some of your clothes what would you think if his mates told him to absolve himself of responsibility and concoct a devious lie? If you found out he’d destroyed your clothes and lied about it, how would you feel?

The truth is bizarre but I imagine the husband would forgive if she just came clean. Whereas if he finds out his clothes were destroyed and his wife lied about it, he may well have serious questions and serious concerns about the relationship.

On top of that, the OP has stated several times that she enjoys doing the laundry – that the husband is willing to do it but she prevents him from doing it when he offers. So why are so many replies labelling him lazy and disrespectful, and "can't be arsed", calling the OP his servant?

Can’t you people respect the OP enough to actually read what she says?

One things for sure, you can count on Mumsnet for dismal comprehension, spiteful kneejerk nonsense and genuinely terrible advice!

Why are so many people advocating lying - because whats done is done. Telling him she threw them out will just lead to a huge argument.
The op obviously regrets her actions and is going to replace the clothes. No point making it in a big deal that he won't understand.
A white lie to keep the peace. Its not going to destroy their marriage ffs.

A white lie to keep the peace. Its not going to destroy their marriage ffs.

You don't know how bad some people can be at lying.

And presumably the husband cares about his wife's mental well being. We're there to support each other, that's what marriage is about. If it's reached the stage where she's destroying valuable items for no apparent reason, don't you think he'd want to know? Won't his first instinct be to provide comfort and support?

It's funny that the thread condones lying to him, making him feel guilty, making him buy HER more clothes, calls him lazy, disrespectful and even suggests leaving him if he complains, yet there's virtually nothing said about his ability to support her, if only she could tell him what's going on!

The op obviously regrets her actions and is going to replace the clothes

Is she? I saw this on page one but some of the comments that followed don't actually make that abundantly clear that she is:

On the advice of you all and looking at the ' You stupid cow o meter ' it looks like I'm replacing it. 😭

And she doesn't exactly appear happy about doing it, if she is doing it, does she?

When I read the OP I assumed it was posted by someone in their late teens/ early twenties and it was a relatively new relationship. Finding out that it was a poster in a seriously long term relationship who must be in their fifties I admit that my jaw dropped.
Either you are very sheltered and immature for your age or menopause is one hell of a bitch. I hope you are going to be very honest about this and seriously consider medical help/therapy if anything like this happens again.