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Valentines Day do you expect anything?

109 replies

justasking111 · 12/02/2019 13:43

OH walked in with a lovely bunch of flowers at lunchtime. "Bought them while they were still cheap" he said. I had to laugh, he has ranted about this rip off day since we met. So does your OH or you like a big fuss made on this day for lovers? Or are you more low key?

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punishmepunisher · 12/02/2019 13:49

No, it's a total bollocks day. We don't acknowledge it.

Or one of us might do a sarky "Happy capitalist rip off day!".

Sparklingbrook · 12/02/2019 13:51

No, we don't acknowledge it either. Would rather spend our money on other stuff.

SparklyMagpie · 12/02/2019 13:52

But isn't it valentines day on Thursday?

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Bubblysqueak · 12/02/2019 13:53

Nope we don't do anything here.

SneakyGremlins · 12/02/2019 13:53

I'd love it if the cat could get me a gift but unfortunately that's not possible. It's always me who treats him Sad

Loulzze · 12/02/2019 13:54

Hope so or he'll feel awkward when I give him his gift 😂 We choose to acknowledge the day, there's no harm in dedicating a day just to us and it's an excuse to get each other a prezzy

inchoccyheaven · 12/02/2019 13:56

Yes we celebrate every occasion including valentines with a meal and cards and gifts.

ohmywhattodo · 12/02/2019 13:57

Yes - frankly it’s a miracle given the stress we’ve put ourselves through the 22yrs we’ve been together that we are still together...there have been years when we’ve not been able to afford presents (even cards - I’ve made them in some years) but we ALWAYS use these marked days to show in some way that we are a couple and do something a little bit more than usual. It’s all too easy to get lost in the humdrum of everyday life and days like Valentine’s Day are a simple way of just reminding us of our partners. Of course, we show each other in other ways everyday - but it’s not quite the same!

Tryingtogetitright · 12/02/2019 13:59

We enjoy Valentine's Day, just do a card and a little pressie and we always get a bit dressed up at home and have a take away or an M&S meal deal. Two small DC and we don't go on dates much so we enjoy enforced romance when we remember!

Ribbonsonabox · 12/02/2019 14:02

My husband will be at work 12 hrs which is sad as my son happens to be at nursery all day on valentines for once so we could've gone out for lunch or something for once!

We havent really done gifts for many years. Seems a waste of money now we've got two children!
But we usually get each other a card and last year he brought me flowers.
I personally love cards. I know many people think they are a waste of time. I dont blame people for not doing valentines I dont think you need to really. It's a bit of fun when you first get together with someone... but when you have kids or other responsibility together it does seem like unnecessary pressure and waste of money.
Idve gone out for lunch with my husband if he was off but just to a cafe nothing fancy.

ohtheholidays · 13/02/2019 03:38

We always buy each other a card and some pressents and we usually go out for a nice meal for lunch(we have 5DC and no babysitters)we also buy a little something for each of our DC as well.

MissLanesAmericanCousin · 13/02/2019 03:49

It's a big day for us. We get dressed up and we've got reservations at our favourite restaurant and we are exchanging gifts there. I'm giving him a black Brera watch and he is giving me a 18k bloomed gold 2 pendant necklace from the Victorian era. Smile

coppercolouredtop · 13/02/2019 04:15

We do cards

And have a meal booked . ❤️

Shoxfordian · 13/02/2019 05:49

Yeah we do cards, presents and dinner.

Dimsumlosesum · 13/02/2019 05:52

No we don't do anything.

blamethecat · 13/02/2019 05:54

A card is as far as we go. Dp rants about how unfair it is for single people despite having been together 21 years. Hmm

ChangingStates · 13/02/2019 05:56

Nope, I really dislike the whole thing.

cricketmum84 · 13/02/2019 05:59

We usually just cook a nice meal for us and I might crack out some sexy underwear once the kids are in bed 😳 other than that we don't bother with cards or gifts although would I be a hypocrite if I said flowers would be nice??

MaverickSnoopy · 13/02/2019 06:00

Yes and no. We don't do cards or presents but we use the excuse to have a bit of a nicer meal at home and a bottle of wine (without pyjamas on and at the table - disclaimer currently have small baby). Whether it's for valentines or any other reason we think it's important to put some effort into maintaining a relationship and trying to occasionally have a nice meal etc (which is hard with 3 kids). So valentines is often a poke in the direction of finding some time to do that.

Zoflorabore · 13/02/2019 06:01

Valentine's Day changed for us 8 years ago when dd made an appearance 2 weeks early!
It's also our anniversary.

I'm sort of glad that dd gets all of the attention though as it takes the pressure off doing stuff or spending silly money on things we don't need.

We do cards for Valentines and our anniversary and a token gift but tomorrow will be about dd ( and she knows it! )
We do look very popular though with all of the cards :)

Aebj · 13/02/2019 06:02

We send cards. It also happens to be our wedding anniversary.
We will not be doing anything as the navy have wonderful ideas about keeping us separate!!! 15 years married. 4 celebrated on the day since then!!!

Robin2323 · 13/02/2019 06:07

That's lovely have your anniversary on Valentine's Day :)
I've got a card this year.
I hope dh remembers but he working long hours no I won't worry he forgets.

frogbull · 13/02/2019 06:48

I really dislike Valentine's Day. DH on the other hand loves it. So I indulge him a bit.

If he forgot one year, I'd be delighted.

BibbityBobbityEars · 13/02/2019 07:13

Nothing. Never have. Would love to though.

Sausagefingers9 · 13/02/2019 07:17

Dh insists on buying something every year but I hate it! It’s so impersonal, and then I feel bad for not getting him something but it’s all just crappy presents in the shops.

I’ll probably get him a card and a blowy this year.