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Valentines Day do you expect anything?

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justasking111 · 12/02/2019 13:43

OH walked in with a lovely bunch of flowers at lunchtime. "Bought them while they were still cheap" he said. I had to laugh, he has ranted about this rip off day since we met. So does your OH or you like a big fuss made on this day for lovers? Or are you more low key?

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Mmmhmmokdear · 13/02/2019 07:17

We get each other a card and might get a takeaway & watch a film or something. Or equally might do nothing.

CostanzaG · 13/02/2019 07:32

We do cards and a token present. We have a small DS and have only actually had one V day together when he wasn't with us so we always do something for the three of us. We go for an early tea at our favourite restaurant which is walking distance from our house then we have a family movie night.
I love it. We're pretty romantic and loved up most of the time so I love our chilled night which is about our little family rather than forced romance.

Ffsnosexallowed · 13/02/2019 07:35

We just do cards. As I point out to him the only reason I've stayed with him 20 years is to be guaranteed a valentine's card each year.

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ReaganSomerset · 13/02/2019 07:35

We'll do cards.

tartandreams · 13/02/2019 07:38

Just a card, better things to spend money on 🤷🏻‍♀️

Littlechocola · 13/02/2019 07:38

We make cards (he’s not artistic but the effort is lovely!). That’s all we need.
Both working 13 hour shifts so won’t see each other.

GreenEggsHamandChips · 13/02/2019 07:43

Nope.

He always said valentines was ridiculous commercialised crap. One year i rebelled. Said it didnt have to be expensive but i wanted something. Ok says he....

I agonised, nothing was right and in the end got him a card and bit of random tat i was most dissatisfied with

He had literally no money at the time but he came up with the most fabulously smulchy present ever. Very very personalised, cost less than £1 and i still treasure it now many years later.

Frankly im never going to top that!!! Way too much pressure. And I've never regretted not doing Valentine's day since....

E20mom · 13/02/2019 07:43

We do cards, pressies and dinner Smile

Seahorseshoe · 13/02/2019 08:03

34 years into my relationship, no - Valentine's Day is for the youngsters. You can have romantic gestures all year round, even though you don't celebrate Valentine's Day.

I remember it took me the best part of a day to pick the right first card for DH.

CherryPavlova · 13/02/2019 08:12

We do and always have. I my morning tea in bed will, I expect be delivered with a card and hand picked flower from his run. Then I’ll get flowers delivered later unless he’s changed completely. We’ll go out for a meal in the evening that he’ll have booked. I’ll get him a card and if he’s very lucky I’ll put some lipstick on to go out.

BeeMyBaby · 13/02/2019 08:14

@GreenEggsHamandChips what did he get you???

No, we don't acknowledge it. We always buy each other little presents and make time for each other, we don't need to look forward to a single day in a year.

KeptTheBeachesShipwreckFree · 13/02/2019 08:20

No. We don't bother. It's my birthday next week and to me that's more important!

RedForShort · 13/02/2019 08:30

No. Do usually give each other a card. (I bought his whilst doing the food shop in Aldi, I'm a romantic sort.)

This year though might be different. We need a new iron and are currently in competition to see who can figure out the best buy. The winner gets to give the other an iron as a Valentine's present (see above about being romantic) 😁

[Ps I've started a thread looking for iron recommendations - any suggestions will help me win!!]

OrcinusOrca · 13/02/2019 08:32

Don't do anything. We have both our birthdays and our anniversary and Christmas in the six weeks leading up to Valentines so it's just too much.

MamaDane · 13/02/2019 08:33

Yeah. I'm really nauseous at the moment because of pregnancy. So while we tend to go out, we most likely won't tomorrow. But I arranged for flowers, truffles and a card to be sent to my DP's workplace tomorrow.

elQuintoConyo · 13/02/2019 08:37

I may be woken up by a bit of turkey slapping in the morning, but that's it Grin

toomuchtoolittle · 13/02/2019 08:37

It's our anniversary on Valentine's Day so yes we celebrate it

ShatnersWig · 13/02/2019 08:47

We do and always have

No, @CherryPavlova - HE always has, you do fuck all but accept it by the sounds of things.

RonaldMcDonald · 13/02/2019 09:00

Yes. I will get roses, chocolates and LPR from my ex husband
I always have and I suppose ? Always will

mydogisthebest · 13/02/2019 09:05

Yes we have always celebrated Valentines Day in the 39 years we have known each other.

It varies each year what we do. Some years its a nice meal out, some years a meal at home, some years we go away for a couple of nights. We always buy each other a card and sometimes a present such as a book, cd or dvd. DH often buys me flowers too.

Before the usual posts of " we show each other love every day" and "we don't need to be told when to show love", we do always show each other love and respect and we also buy each other small gifts at other times, have nice meals etc. It's nice though to celebrate on Valentines Day

MsSquiz · 13/02/2019 09:16

I don't expect DH to give me anything.

That said, we usually do cards and a token gift (I've got him a box of his favourite gin sweets) he usually buys me flowers. And DH will usually cook dinner on Valentine's Day as I cook 90% of the time or we get a takeaway

But nothing is expected. I think it's the expectation that causes problems when it comes to occasions like Valentine's Day

Eminybob · 13/02/2019 09:16

I’d be surprised if I get a card. Dh knows I’m a fan of fancy chocolates, which, if he asks, is all I would like, but he won’t so I’ll get nothing.

I, on the other hand, need to track down a shop that sells dark terrys chocolate oranges as they are his fave and we can only seem to get them at Christmas time. He will be over the moon if I present him with one tomorrow. So if anyone knows where sells them year round, please let me know!

CherryPavlova · 13/02/2019 09:39

ShatnersWig . I guess it seems like that but he enjoys pretending to be an alpha male provider and I facilitate that by accepting with good grace. Relationships are complicated when looked at from the outside.
Was his supper waiting and his PJs warm when he arrived back tired and cold from work at 9pm yesterday, having been away for two days? Of course they were. Marriage is about the other considering the needs and wants of each other. It’s a two way thing.
He wants to make me happy. That’s nice and I acquiesce.

ErickBroch · 13/02/2019 09:46

Cards, also go out for dinner (nowhere crazy) or have nice food in. We don't do gifts, I usually get DP some chocolate etc as he pays for dinner.

ComtesseDeSpair · 13/02/2019 09:47

No. I was saying this to colleagues yesterday, who were amazed: but nobody ever has ever bought me flowers or jewellery or cooked me a ‘special meal’ (in a romantic partner sense - obviously I’ve been to dinner at friends’ houses, but I’ve never been cooked for by a partner to celebrate an occasion) or celebrated Valentine’s Day in a relationship. I’ve never really thought about it before, but it would be quite nice to celebrate it, I think.

I know people always say “it’s just a made-up day, we express our love for each other without needing a capitalist day for it” etc; but I think too often it’s easy to just roll along wrapped up in day to day life and take your loved one for granted, and the nudge of a designated day to celebrate them can be good.