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Valentines Day do you expect anything?

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justasking111 · 12/02/2019 13:43

OH walked in with a lovely bunch of flowers at lunchtime. "Bought them while they were still cheap" he said. I had to laugh, he has ranted about this rip off day since we met. So does your OH or you like a big fuss made on this day for lovers? Or are you more low key?

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mummyhaschangedhername · 13/02/2019 09:48

We don't acknowledge it. Isn't it aimed at couples dating really anyway? Anyway, I don't like the commercialism of it, never have. We have never celebrated it.

popcorndiva · 13/02/2019 09:52

We do cards. I love cards and spend a while finding one that relates to us. I have also bought him a personalised toblerone. He usually gets me flowers but this year we are doing balloons as they last longer and our baby loves them too

Crappywife · 13/02/2019 09:58

I’ve got my dh a card and a big bar of chocolates.
If going by last Valentine’s Day, our wedding anniversary, the arrival of our ds, my birthday and Christmas are anything to go by I’ll get sweet FA.

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UserUser123 · 13/02/2019 10:01

We don’t acknowledge it. My choice, as I think it’s a day full of forced romantic gestures. I’d rather he done something romantic for me on a random, non specific day.

We have been together 3 years and DP was actually shocked when I said I didn’t do Valentine’s Day as his ex’s were very big on it. When I explained my reasons though, he understood. We’re both in our late 30’s and I’ve always felt the same about Valentine’s Day since I can remember.

caperplips · 13/02/2019 10:02

We do! We always have cards for each other and we often get the M&S meal deal. Sometimes dh gets me my favourite handmade chocolates and / or wine / flowers. However my birthday is the week before so usually have these things from then anyway..

This year I am on a healthy eating plan and have lost 9lbs since the second week of Jan so I have asked him not to buy food or drink.

I have 3 bouquets of flowers at home (LOVE flowers!) AND I had a very special piece of jewellery for my birthday so I think we will get nice steaks and a bottle of red and just have a lovely quiet night (with dd!) and have cards.

UserUser123 · 13/02/2019 10:03

Sorry - before the grammar police come along - I’d rather he did, not done!

caperplips · 13/02/2019 10:04

I meant to say I often get him his favourite whiskey but I just bought him that. Or the dark chocolate cherry liquoirs he loves. In case people accuse me of one sided celebration!

I have breakfast in bed every single day anyway

UserUser123 · 13/02/2019 10:12

@Eminybob

Asda have Terry’s Dark Chocolate Orange for £1!! 😉

DontCallMeCharlotte · 13/02/2019 10:16

Normally we exchange cards and he'll send me flowers and I'll buy him a little something. We do go out to dinner but avoid the actual day (mostly because I don't want their over priced Valentines set menu!).

This year though he's booked tickets for a concert and a hotel Shock so I've had to up my game and buy him more than a little something!

We've been together 20 years and of course it's just a silly day but he tends to honour the "silly" days very well - probably so he can relax for the rest of the year knowing he's done his bit Grin

UserUser123 · 13/02/2019 10:16

Asda groceries website - but I got some in store the other day as DD loves them!

Valentines Day do you expect anything?
HoldMeCloserTonyDanza · 13/02/2019 10:33

If making a cup of tea and booking a dinner reservation qualifies one as an alpha male, I must be Arnold Schwarzenegger Grin

We’ll exchange cards and have a nice dinner. I said I don’t want my usual flowers as we are away all half term.

SeraphinaDombegh · 13/02/2019 10:45

No. It may sound terribly old fashioned, but I still think Valentine's Day should be for people who are just beginning to fall in love, not established couples. Plus, it doesn't feel very romantic if you're socially obliged to do it on that day. I'd far rather have an unexpected spontaneous romantic gesture on another day.

CherryPavlova · 13/02/2019 11:08

If making a cup of tea and booking a dinner reservation qualifies one as an alpha male, I must be Arnold Schwarzenegger

Hah, no, I said it makes him feel like an alpha male not that he was one. Who would actually want more brawn than brain?

mydogisthebest · 13/02/2019 11:47

Seraphine, I don't agree at all that it's not for established couples.

Couples are NOT socially obliged to it but many choose to because they want to.

As I already said, me and DH both do spontaneous romantic gestures on other days of the year but think it is nice to celebrate Valentines Day.

DontCallMeCharlotte · 13/02/2019 11:47

It may sound terribly old fashioned, but I still think Valentine's Day should be for people who are just beginning to fall in love, not established couples.

Well yes, but then, being even more old fashioned, I thought Valentines was to send an anonymous card to someone you fancy so aren't even with yet.

WildFlower2019 · 13/02/2019 11:48

No, though DH will probably buy me some moderately priced flowers from Tesco as he gets off the bus there.

I've promised to bake him some Guinness chocolate brownies.

DH wants to do cards though, even though I said not to bother!

Zoflorabore · 13/02/2019 19:12

Eminybob it seems us Asda shoppers have sourced it, I bought one for my dp earlier today and they were actually alongside the cards and gifts upstairs where the clothes/house stuff is. Our local Asda is a huge double decker one but I'm assuming that all stores will have a valentines section somewhere. I was expecting to have to look in the chocolate aisle and they were just there, by the cards, looking at meGrin

Eminybob · 13/02/2019 19:24

I saw the Asda messages too late sadly, we don’t have one in my town so didn’t get a chance to get one. Never mind, maybe I’ll get him one next year.

Eminybob · 13/02/2019 19:25

(And thank you for the info)

BasedInDublin · 13/02/2019 19:28

We usually buy each other some small chocolates, share with the kids, etc. It's no big deal...but I feel it is nice for our family rather than just DH and I (but I do acknowledge it's just a huge commercial event for many businesses, etc)

DaphneFanshaw · 13/02/2019 19:33

I asked DP if he wanted to do anything for Valentine’s Day earlier, his reply was “we don’t usually bother do we” we don’t, but I always check every year incase he gets me something.
We’ve been together for 20 years and we have never celebrated it I suppose our only tradition is our pointless conversation about it, because I ask every year without fail.

Aria2015 · 13/02/2019 19:38

Yes! We do cards and presses and a nice meal either in or out. It’s just a bit of fun and who doesn't like a bit of romance!?

LucheroTena · 13/02/2019 19:39

We do cards and get DD one. Sometimes I get flowers but I tell DH not to waste his money. One year early on we went for dinner and after waiting over an hour for each course swore never again.

I have fond memories of being at school and people pushing cards in lockers and all the group hysteria about it. Plus there was always a show off with a massive padded card. But it’s all a bit naff in adulthood.

FrenchyQ · 13/02/2019 19:43

Not really...I've bought him a card , i'm hoping hes just got me a card and not made an effort otherwise I'll look bad!

PickAChew · 13/02/2019 19:46

Nah. Can't be arsed.

We've bought a couple of meal deals, though. We ate our strawberry mousse hearts with our dinner, this evening.