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Meghan's letter to her dad in The Sunday Fail

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IdaBWells · 10/02/2019 06:06

Shock really? Is this for real? She sent her dad a letter last August and he said she hasn't tried to contact her. He just gave the letter to the tabloids. If this is real he hasn't told the truth about anything.

Grab the popcorn.

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MissMaisel · 11/02/2019 11:37

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SchadenfreudePersonified · 11/02/2019 11:41

I saw the original photo. A whole string was unnecessary, one chipolata would've done...

Grin

I'm glad I'm not the only one who saw that picture and thought the same. IIRC there was about 10 yards of sausages . . .

Puzzledandpissedoff · 11/02/2019 11:50

Not at all, MissMaisel. FWIW I'm another who absolutely backs a woman's right to choose, but I'd suggest there's a bit of a difference between regular modelling - a fashion shoot, say, or a mainstream advert - and the contents of that seedy video

It's true she couldn't have known she'd meet and marry Harry, but having done so it might have been wiser, knowing what was in her background, to row back a bit on the feminist claims

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Puzzledandpissedoff · 11/02/2019 12:23

still don't understand how an ancient video of her in denim shorts and a shirt means she's not a "shy wallflower" and therefore can't object to emotional abuse from an estranged relative

IMO it doesn't. The two aren't mutually exclusive and it's entirely possible to regret some of the choices Meghan's made and also feel - as many of us have said - that nobody deserves relatives like this

SaveKevin · 11/02/2019 13:18

Surely the Queen has some power with the Press Association?
I think she does in this country, but i think with this being of interest to the American press this is where the issue is.

I think Harry did prepare Meghan and it had been well publicised that he not all of his ex's were prepared and wanted the job, Meghan was up to it and and up for it.
However, i would imagine neither expected her family to be quite the shits they have been. It must be truly heartbreaking to have as much mud thrown as they have at her, and for it to be going on a year later.
But i don't think it reflects on her, she has appeared to have thrown herself well and truly into the role and appears to want to use her profile to make a difference. .

As for the letter, if i was writing a letter to my family (who i am NC) i do chose my words carefully knowing they will be poured over, sent on to friends and analysed to within an inch of their life. So i am sure she did write it knowing it would probably be printed. That said, they have to run out of stories soon?! Shes not going to be in touch inviting TM or SM for tea at Frogmore soon are they? He isn't going to be invited to meet the baby as he can't be trusted not to sell it. So it has to have a limited run, surely?

Puzzledandpissedoff · 11/02/2019 13:50

they have to run out of stories soon?!

I'm really not sure I'd want to assume that ... not given the family's talent for invention and appetite for a quick buck Hmm

WhentheRabbitsWentWild · 11/02/2019 14:13

TinkyWinky is a cereal killer. She finds her victims, Shreddies up the bodies and then buries the evidence in a bag of Granola. She is a very Special K iller.

(Misses the point of the thread again)

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BeautifulName · 11/02/2019 14:14

I feel really sorry for MM. The dad and big sister are horrible. I’m hopeful she will be having a shit ton of excellent expensive therapy and is able to look forward to her first baby arriving in a nice calm atmosphere with her lovely mum and Harry by her side.

SaturdayNext · 11/02/2019 14:18

Relevance = she’s clearly a fan of the attention and so it comes as no surprise that she’s still getting it, in whatever form.

I never understand this sort of moan. She has no need to try to get attention: she has hordes of reporters and photographers following her whenever she steps out of the door, particularly while she's pregnant.

As I said earlier, the letter looks like it was written with publication in mind and both her and her dad are as bad as each other.

Shock horror, woman needs to communicate with her father, knows that he'll sell her letter to the highest bidder, so picks her words accordingly. How does that make her as bad as him?

XmasPostmanBos · 11/02/2019 14:25

How sad is it if she wrote a heartfelt letter to her Dad asking him to stop talking to the press, knowing he would go straight to the press with it? If that is the case who wouldn't feel a bit of sympathy for her? He really has betrayed her trust and should be ashamed of himself.

PenguinFeathers · 12/02/2019 01:17

How sad is it if she wrote a heartfelt letter to her Dad asking him to stop talking to the press, knowing he would go straight to the press with it? If that is the case who wouldn't feel a bit of sympathy for her

See I can't imagine ever trying to lead my father down that awful path. It is clear that they at one time had a very close relationship. She has never claimed him to be an abusive or toxic person. Writing a letter to almost bait him into releasing it reflects just as badly upon her character as it does on his to actually release it.

Looks like quite shabby behaviour all round. Including from the Royal Family.

CallaLilli · 12/02/2019 06:56

Wow there's a LOT of victim blaming on this thread. I hope some of you are never on a jury!

Obloodyhell · 12/02/2019 06:58

And that some of you are never in this position with a father who betrays you.....

Puzzledandpissedoff · 12/02/2019 09:14

Looks like quite shabby behaviour all round. Including from the Royal Family

Well said, Penguin

The difference is, only one of the families has the resources and quality contacts to come out of this smelling of roses, and you can bet your bottom dollar that's what they'll do

As I said, if the marriage turns out to be a hasty mistake and goes south, they'll cast Meghan aside with the speed of light

derxa · 12/02/2019 09:35

I can't imagine not going to see my father to tell him that I was getting married. I can't imagine not introducing my future husband to my father.
This is the bit I don't get. TM's behaviour has been disgraceful though.

AFifthOfKoolAid · 12/02/2019 09:54

I can imagine not seeing my father to tell him I'm getting married, or introducing him to my future husband, because he is a selfish, narcissistic bellend. She had no obligation to do those things.

derxa · 12/02/2019 10:00

I can imagine not seeing my father to tell him I'm getting married, or introducing him to my future husband, because he is a selfish, narcissistic bellend. She had no obligation to do those things. My father could have written a book on how to be a narcissist and we fought like cat and dog but I would never have rejected him like this. Meghan saw him as an embarrassment and couldn't imagine as part of her future life in the RF.

AutumnCrow · 12/02/2019 10:50

I just watched that grilling video and its very different to what I expected. The way people were banging on about it, I thought she got her tits out or something. But as pp, said, she's fully dressed throughout.

To me, the video has 'irony' written all over it - like it's taking the piss out of its audience about all the expected stereotypical memes: woman tosses her hair; woman eats food; woman licks thumb. MM looks like she wants to burst out laughing.

But, even if there's a clever sub-text in there, it's still imagery for the male gaze rather than good old satire I suppose.

AFifthOfKoolAid · 12/02/2019 10:51

More power to her to not allow a narcissistic to be in her life.

Daisypie · 12/02/2019 11:07

Apparently the Palace is looking at legal action. Whole thing is a big old mess.

Obloodyhell · 12/02/2019 11:22

Good for Meghan.

FirstOfHerName · 12/02/2019 11:38

My father could have written a book on how to be a narcissist and we fought like cat and dog but I would never have rejected him like this.

But that's you @derxa. Your way is not everyone's way. I have plenty of friends who've cut their narc parents out of their lives and are the happier for it. How does that put them (and indeed) Meghan in the wrong?

derxa · 12/02/2019 12:26

I have plenty of friends who've cut their narc parents out of their lives and are the happier for it. How does that put them (and indeed) Meghan in the wrong? They tell you they're happier but I'm sure the problem still weighs heavily on them. My father had a narcissistic personality but he had many positive traits as well. If he had been a violent man or a sexual abuser then of course it would have been different. I suspect that narcissism is an inherited trait. I'm pretty narcissistic myself. How will your friends feel if their children cut them out of their lives?

justasking111 · 12/02/2019 12:29

Legal action against whom though. The trolls who post vile stuff, the media who print it. Would this set a precedent in law if they did. The ramifications for said trolls would be interesting to see. I do seem to recall a woman on twitter who was prosecuted. The DM does not even moderate the boards for the nasty stuff or give you a reporting button. They are lapping it up as are many others. A class action would be the way forward. I think there is a # movement something about kindness going on somewhere.

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