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My husband is a nob and if he’s not careful i wont marry him again.

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WhyTheLongFace · 09/02/2019 19:41

Wedding vow renewals.

I feel they are a bit - someone’s had a fling and this is a bit of a brave front - sort f thing.

However. when we got hitched it was on a very short shoe string, 2 babies, a dog and a new mortgage. And we’re coming up to 20 sodding years and i really think i’d Like to do it properly. In a church. I want a big meringue ffs. And a marquee.

So ive decided i want to do it all again. And he bloody wont. Dickhead nob. He ‘can’t see the point’. Bloody fun sponge.

So you know what i’m Going to do. I’m going to bloody do it anyway. And if he doesn’t show up to the church he isn’t invited to my party. And its going to be bloody epic.

OP posts:
Weezol · 09/02/2019 20:05

Go buy a meringue with my blessing. Have a big party, book a band etc.

I do insist you have cheese and pineapple onna stick along with sossidges on sticks in a foil covered potato hedgehog though. It's my only condition.

I would also suggest several massive bowls of Skips and Twiglets - I am prepated to be flexible on this if I must.

Redglitter · 09/02/2019 20:07

My parents renewed their vows for their silver anniversary. Dad arranged it & surprised Mum. It was lovely but it was just them, me & my brother. No fancy outfits. No party. We just went out for dinner.

Personally i think the whole big wedding dress full on reception type are cringe worthy and un necessary.

OP have a nice party. Buy a really nice outfit and celebrate that way.

I bet your wedding was lovely. Its about the commitment and marriage not about dressing up

PoliticalBiscuit · 09/02/2019 20:11

Have an anniversary party, celebrate your marriage - don't start a new one. I'm 9 years away from mine! #countingdown Grin

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Mummyoflittledragon · 09/02/2019 20:12

I totally understand you want the reafirmation because you didn’t have the meringue the first time around. I did. If Dh and I did it again, that would be immature and indulgent. If you’re not asking for gifts, I don’t see it as grabby and I think you should bloody well do it.

Original poster
WhyTheLongFace · 09/02/2019 20:13

Otterturk. You’re on.

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Windgate · 09/02/2019 20:14

Have the most amazing anniversary/ whoopee it's Friday party, skip the vow renewal.Gin Gin Gin

ArmchairTraveller · 09/02/2019 20:14

You sound fabulous, have your party and your frock and all your friends. If you feel your nob should be present, you could have a smiling cardboard cut out made.
Makes way more sense to me to do it at 20 years than at the wedding, it’s something to celebrate. MN is crammed with relationship failures that had a big wedding and crashed and burned before they got to double figures. My OH can be a nob of similar character when it comes to righteous frivolity rather than practical puritan, but I’ve got used to him after 36 years.

Original poster
WhyTheLongFace · 09/02/2019 20:14

Can i also elope to Las Vegas? Or is that a bit much?

OP posts:
Seaseasea · 09/02/2019 20:15

He’s not the only fun sponge about today I think Grin
Do it OP, who cares just have a big huge party. Maybe make a banner saying ‘No ones cheated’ or even better just uninvite him completely and do it alone by choice.

Kintan · 09/02/2019 20:15

Agree with the pp - why not just have a massive anniversary party!

MotherForkinShirtBalls · 09/02/2019 20:19

I know how you feel, OP. I was 6 months pregnant when we got wed. Fucking ridiculous state of affairs - everyone just talked about the baby and I was still vomming all day so could hardly enjoy my very expensive dinner. Planning a huge, fuck off, very-not-pregnant party for our 10 year anniversary. Dh can come if he wants.

topcat2014 · 09/02/2019 20:20

Isadora2007 - the insult used to be 'nob' without the K, to imply a member of the Nobility - in a sneering type of way, IYSWIM

Meowandthen · 09/02/2019 20:21

Knob = penis
Nob = someone upper class

That said, vow renewal is seen by many as somewhat déclassé so maybe he is a nob?

FlibbertyGiblets · 09/02/2019 20:22

Cardboard cutout husband. Guffaw.

Do it.

Chewbecca · 09/02/2019 20:24

In your position I'd have a big party, but no vow (or vowel) renewal - they just serve no purpose.

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WhyTheLongFace · 09/02/2019 20:24

Oh he is a nob of the worst sort. \

Whereas i’m A bit welsh and there’s no hope for me. And i want a bloody big frock. And canapés.

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BaronessBomburst · 09/02/2019 20:26

Just go medieval and use a stand-in.

Aridane · 09/02/2019 20:26

Are you drunk🔫??

Aridane · 09/02/2019 20:27

Where on earth did that pistol come from ? Blush

leftear · 09/02/2019 20:28

Could you have a big birthday party? You could spend a fortune on a beautiful dress/outfit, invite all of the people you love, have some fantastic food and dance the night away. Then you do not need your DH to be involved at all if he does not want to be.

I hope you have a wonderful celebration whatever you decide to throw a do for.

PoppingBubbles · 09/02/2019 20:31

I think @Judge has it.

TheFaerieQueene · 09/02/2019 20:31

Just have a flipping party. The renewal of vows is odd tbh unless you have an OK! Magazine deal or someone has cheated (or both!)

GabsAlot · 09/02/2019 20:34

what u missed out on getting attention?

GabsAlot · 09/02/2019 20:35

i got married in vegas btw

BartonHollow · 09/02/2019 20:36

Love this OP so funny

Have you seen the episode of Glee where Sue Syvlester marries herself ?

Just do that!

I @WhyTheLongFace take me @WhyTheLongFace to be my lawful wedded self! Grin

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