I went out for coffee with a friend of mine today. We got chatting about holidays and I mentioned that I was going to France with family in summer for a wedding. Which led to me confessing to something that I’d lied to dh about.
When dh and I went out on our first date over a decade ago I thought he was completely out of my league academically and looks wise and felt rather intimidated. For reasons I still don’t understand, but probably because I didn’t think we’d end up married, I told him I spoke fluent French. I cannot do this. I got an A at GCSE so I can fairly confidently ask where the cathedral is and talk about my family but that’s about it. Since then I have made a habit of suddenly needing the loo if anyone starts speaking French on TV and have always found reasons for us not to go to France for family holidays. But it’s never really been an issue and I think if I did in fact come clean DH wouldn’t be too cross, he’s more likely to think I’m just a bit of a div.
It gets worse in that since I found out we were going to this wedding I’ve been going to the local uni once a week to have French lessons. Dh has been coming home from work early so I can do this, I’ve been telling him I have a gym class 😳. Except I’ve been struggling to find time to do the homework. Since new year I’ve been using my 90 minutes out of the house to go to Sainsbury’s, get a crappy magazine, a cup of tea and some pick and mix and sit in my car. Dh is more likely to be pissed off about this as this is me actively lying to him and he’s been coming home early to allow me to do this.
My friend was absolutely shocked and said if her dh did that to her then she would immediately end her marriage. She said he doesn’t have form for lying at all but he knows it is something she won’t tolerate. I know my behaviour has been far from exemplary but I really don’t think dh would be that pissed off with it. I just don’t want him to think I’m an idiot!
Please be gentle