Husband in Supmarket.

[LucilleBluth]

Sent him off with a small list. He just called and said 'I'm here, I've lost the list and I don't know what I'm doing'. He is 43 and not generally incompetent. He usually sits in the cafe if we go shopping together.

I've had to stay on the phone and walk him around the supermarket, telling him where to turn and what items to pick up.

What will he arrive home with I wonder .

Tactic 101, make a pigs ear of it and then I won't be asked to do it ever again.
I never fall for that, next week it should be your turn to go and relax in the cafe. Time for the 43 year old to take the plunge.

Typical deliberate incompetence. Next time, get him to write the list on his phone, then put it on slient whilst you stay at home/in the cafe.

Put your phone on silent, that should be.

He's home...with extra tissues and lemsips but no carrots. I didn't ask for any apparently. Knob head.

He's deliberately acting like an idiot. List on phone, if he 'accidentally' deletes just resend it with no conversation until he gets the message that he is an adult doing a basic adult task. He's perfectly capable of asking where am item on the list is.

Yet another professionally incompetent man, incapable of doing anything like housework or shopping, in the hope you become exasperated and do it yourself - win/win for him as you will never ask him again. You enabled him by talking him round the supermarket instead of texting him the list and letting him get on with it. Shame you married a man child instead of an adult.

Text him a list

How embarrassing.

I get my oldest to text me a list of anything he wants, when I’m at the supermarket, as I can never remember and can quite easily walk out without the list. Next time, text the list to him.

My ex offered to go shopping “for me” as I was the sole wage earner at the time. I was asked to write him a list, which I did.
He came home thrilled with himself as he’d “spent a lot less than I usually did” (£20).
On my list I’d put meat, vegetables, potatoes etc. He bought 4 small pork chops, 1 tin of peas, 1 tin of carrots and a bag of frozen chips.
He sulked for a month because I didn’t fall to my knees and offer a gratitude blow job and instead asked what we would eat for the rest of the week.
The best thing was, NONE of us liked pork.

Yep strategic incompetence

"If I do it badly enough she won't ask again"

Nope! Clearly he needs MORE practice so now - it's his job every week!

Text him a list or I read on here of a shopping list app where you can even put pics of the item so they know what they're looking for.

No excuses

Good old strategic incompetence.

If I make a hash of it on purpose the wife will get pissed off and do it all herself. It’s her job really anyway, just doing her a favour!

My husband has a very responsible professional job which if went wrong would have quite serious consequences - tell him to go to the supermarket? It would look like a teenage boy has been with his parents bank card far too many £££ spent on things like Pringles and sweets and no actual tea!?
He's found his way round forgien cities no trouble - tell him to go get on a bus to our local city he wouldn't have a clue.
I have a galary of random food pictures that I send him when i want something in particular.

ah men

tell him to go get on a bus to our local city he wouldn't have a clue.

How is that possible? It just isn’t. If he can manage it in foreign cities he can manage it at home.

Jesus Christ, he should be ashamed.

Not ok. Lots of amused eye rolls. But I would be incandescent if my 40 something husband couldn't do a basic food shop.

He usually sits in the cafe if we go shopping together.

Why?

I take a picture of my list. So they know and add prices too...
Even use it myself

Exactly Bling, it's pathetic.

The amusement I mean, just as much as the DH and actually the OP (since she considers it ok for him to sit in a cafe while she does the 'wimmin's' work).

And I still don't understand why the OP didn't just text him the list that he lost.

Why the need to stay on the phone and walk him round?

He usually sits in the cafe if we go shopping together.

Another woman enabling a man-child.

I used to deliberately doing the washing up really badly as a child hoping my parents would stop asking me to do it.

I don't know why you wouldn't be more annoyed that he's made such a melodrama out of a very simple task.

Would you like him to do more? If so, suggest you do one week he does next, but don’t make a list or meal plan for his week, that’s a big part of ‘the work’. Put it away (if that’s what he does for you) and don’t criticise or comment on what he’s got (you can get in some store cupboard basics that you like but he doesn’t). Ignore ‘oh gosh silly me I’m so bad at this’ comments until he actually gets ashamed. Meet ‘but you’re better at it’ comments with, yes I’ve had to learn but would prefer we both shared the drudge jobs.

i once asked dh to get a bag of new potatoes, 'how do you know if they are new ones' i told him to ask the ladies at the veg section, should have given them a good laugh! bloody idiot!