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Husband in Supmarket.

90 replies

LucilleBluth · 03/02/2019 12:42

Sent him off with a small list. He just called and said 'I'm here, I've lost the list and I don't know what I'm doing'. He is 43 and not generally incompetent. He usually sits in the cafe if we go shopping together.

I've had to stay on the phone and walk him around the supermarket, telling him where to turn and what items to pick up.

What will he arrive home with I wonder .

OP posts:
pictish · 03/02/2019 16:28

He has never tried to cook you mean. If he did, he would find it straightforward. So he can cook...just doesn’t.

SilverySurfer · 03/02/2019 16:29

He can't shop and he can't cook but isn't a man child - ok then.

Justaboy · 03/02/2019 16:34

Husband in Supmarket

Umm.. shirely hes in a public house with a name place like that OP?.

bigchris · 03/02/2019 16:56

What lovely role models you both are

Did he move out of his mum's and straight into yours ?

SuziQ10 · 03/02/2019 17:13

How silly. He's a 43 year old man lol.

He needs to wake up.

HolgerLowCarbingLoser · 03/02/2019 17:19

And teaching your children the same idiocy too...

KikiMadeMeDoIt · 03/02/2019 17:22

Read this out to DH who said, “Men like that give us a bad name.” DH does food shopping and will get the things I ask for, the things he wants to cook with and anything we might be getting low on - because he’s an adult.

I don’t understand how an adult can be confused by supermarket.

Wearywithteens · 03/02/2019 17:23

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Tasadoro · 03/02/2019 17:24

I've had to stay on the phone and walk him around the supermarket, telling him where to turn and what items to pick up.

How ridiculous.

As for he can't cook, he's unable to follow basic instructions?

halfwitpicker · 03/02/2019 17:26

Ain't nobody got time for that shit

gamerchick · 03/02/2019 17:28

Ah the deliberate do a shit job and I'll not be asked again thing.

Just means he needs more practise so he can do each one until he's got it nailed Wink

53rdWay · 03/02/2019 17:32

How did he manage before you married him? Surely he’s had to do his own shopping at some point in his life before?

Wolfiefan · 03/02/2019 18:09

He’s been working all week so he deserves breakfast in the cafe? And what exactly do you do all week? Laze around on fluffy pillows being massaged by tiny elves?
No. Didn’t think so.
He’s not incompetent. He’s opting out of what he considers women’s work and so beneath him.
I’m raising a son who won’t expect his wife to mother him and a daughter who won’t stand for this shit.

HelmutFrontbut · 03/02/2019 18:51

Eurgh this reminds me of perfectly capable women who say they 'can't drive on motorways' or 'can't drive at night' or 'can't drive somewhere they've never been before' Hmm Partner jumps in and saves the day!

Just waiting for someone to defend OP's husband and suggest he has ADHD/BPD/HFAS/CBALBS Grin

BertrandRussell · 03/02/2019 19:03

To be fair- and on this point alone- when ours were little and dp worked away during the week, he might well have taken the children for breakfast while I shopped. They always had soooo much to tell him and they got a captive audience over a full English!

Raven88 · 03/02/2019 19:04

If he does that again hang up and text him the list or safe the list in his phone before he goes.

Sarahandduck18 · 03/02/2019 19:09

Well he obviously needs more practice in supermarket shopping.

Tell him he’s doing all the shopping until he learns to get it right.

VenusClapTrap · 03/02/2019 19:13

And if you died tomorrow, do you think he really wouldn't be able to shop and cook?

Well you say that, but dm died fifteen years ago, and df is still a shopping/cooking refusenik. He eats in Ikea or various cafes, every single meal.

He’s in his seventies, mind. A man in his forties should be ashamed.

(Disclaimer: In case I have outed myself in any recent threads, anyone reading this who knows me will be spitting out their tea at my hypocrisy, as I am a woman in my forties who doesn’t shop/cook. I leave it all to dh. But, on the occasions I do have to go to the supermarket and throw together a meal, I can do it and I do it without drama - because I am a forty-something adult)

Nicpem1982 · 03/02/2019 19:14

I email a list to my dh and if he brings random off list items home he deals with them or goes back out

Schmoobarb · 03/02/2019 19:16

Wtf? And why have you facilitated this rubbish for years as well?

Schmoobarb · 03/02/2019 19:18

How embarrassing.

I can send my pre-teen sons to go round the supermarket for me and I have been able to do for a couple of years at least!

AlsoBling2 · 03/02/2019 19:31

I wouldn't care about usually sitting in cafe with dc. Unusually stays home with dc while I do shopping. Divide and conquer works.

And I do 90% of shopping. I don't mind and quite like browsing for specials and ideas.

But.... if dh does need to do it, he can. He might buy a brand I wouldn't buy or, because he's not reallh much of a cook, make different decisions on say, steak (I always buy quite thin steak for example because I find cooking a big fat rump hard). But we will be more than able to eat for the week off his decision making.

longtimelurkerhelen · 03/02/2019 19:34

@MonoClue I've had this too, comes home with the cheapest nastiest food (that you wouldn't feed to a dog) and looks proud and superior that he has saved money (like I'm buying caviar and champagne Angry), I tried to explain that as nobody would actually eat it, including himself after tasting it, he was actually wasting money.

He now sticks to the list.

hiddeneverythin · 03/02/2019 19:41

Online shopping? Life changer!!!

Rtmhwales · 03/02/2019 19:43

My friend downloaded an app on her phone with family sharing for grocery lists so her husband couldn't pull this crap anymore. Now he has all access to grocery lists, medical appointments and things to do with the children. And he can't claim he's lost his phone since it's permanently attached to his hand it appears.