Husband in Supmarket.

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Sent him off with a small list. He just called and said 'I'm here, I've lost the list and I don't know what I'm doing'. He is 43 and not generally incompetent. He usually sits in the cafe if we go shopping together.

I've had to stay on the phone and walk him around the supermarket, telling him where to turn and what items to pick up.

What will he arrive home with I wonder .

I'm hoping this is strategic incompetence otherwise I'm wondering how a man who can't even cope with a supermarket shop managed to find someone to marry him.

My husband is not a natural food shopper, but because he's an adult, he has taught himself to "get something in for supper" perfectly adequately.
Occasionally he will call me to double check if he needs to get a store cupboard ingredient, but then I do the same if he's at home.

Your husband just needs more practice!

I work PT, DH work FT, so I do the food shopping on one of my days off. I HATE it when DH does it/comes with me. He's perfectly well able to do a shop, buy what's on the list etc, but he also manages to buy a load of unnecessary shite and pushes the average weekly bill up by at least £20.

Bloody hell its a supermarket. Not exactly asking him to bring back the second drop of dew harvested from the 5th buttercup to open at dawn underneath the shadow of Kilimanjaro, is it!

Strategic incompetence at its best. Anyone who plays that game should be sent back to the supermarket as many times as it takes for them to realise that grocery shopping is not just someone else's responsibility.

OP why did you post this? It isn't remotely funny, your DH is clearly a bit of dick head that he can't walk around a supermarket to do a bit of shopping. You clearly get a kick out of enabling him by thinking it's funny and cute. I can't actually believe he sits in the cafe whilst you shop.

Next time text him the list and leave him to it. If he comes home without the stuff/wrong stuff/crap stuff ask him why he is such an incompent twat and then serve up some of the crap stuff for dinner.

What's a 'natural food shopper'?! Oh yes I forgot most women fall into that category and some men who are living in 2019 and not 1950.

You should have texted him the list, silly man

What decade are we in??

Him sitting in a cafe is not "going shopping together"

www.anylist.com/

He should download this app. I use myself and it makes everything very easy. Just cross items off as you go. You can also share lists with it!

Bloody hell, I send my teenage boys to the supermarket all the time and they can usually manage to get what they went for. Sometimes they forget stuff, but then so do I on occasion!

They also come with me for the weekly shop, we do the meal planning together.

I'm not letting them get away with this poor helpless man bullshit.

Stop enabling this moron OP. I think the shopping should be his job from now on.

He sounds like a twat and you're enabling him imo.

Then he needs to go back and keep being sent back until he gets it right.

It's all very funny, BUT to anyone whose dp, dh are useless shoppers, please get them trained up.

I should have text the list...of course, I genuinely didn't think of that.

Nah, he's not a man child but he can't cook and I really don't mind him and the DCs grabbing breakfast in the cafe after he's been working away all week. I don't find it funny that he phoned me and lost the list just annoyingly incompetent and I literally couldn't believe he asked me to guide him round the supermarket. I'm no shrinking wallflower believe me.

Of course he can bloody cook!

Anyone who needs food to survive can cook. They just don't need to learn, if they have someone constantly doing it for them.

Equally, he can shop but again, he just doesn't need to as he has someone constantly doing it for him.

You may not be a 'shrinking wallflower' but you do come across as a complete mug, due to your gullible way of thinking.

Do you want your kids to grow up 'not being able to cook, or shop'?

If not, why not?

Just tell him you find incompetence at a basic life skill seriously unsexy.

Keep sending him to do the shopping til he can manage it and treat any mistakes as disappointing that he can't understand a simple task. Don't step in to help him. As pp have said he just thinks if he does a crap job you'll do it for him.

And if you died tomorrow, do you think he really wouldn't be able to shop and cook?

If so, I hope you've thought about who'll look after your children.

If he can read he can cook.

I find deliberate uselessness deeply unattractive.

Even if he can't read, there are millions of cooking tutorial videos on the internet.

My husband is perfectly capable of supermarket shopping, but if I want something specific, I always text it to him. It really is the way to go. It's the same vice versa , who wants to be messing about with pieces of paper.

I am always leaving the flippin list at home - I get whoever is home to photo and send to me. DH would do OK but would spend too much as he shops with his belly- lol

“I've had to stay on the phone and walk him around the supermarket, telling him where to turn and what items to pick up.”
Oh, bollocks to that. He’s an adult human being. You don’t “send” an adult human being to the supermarket. An adult human being goes to do the shopping. First checking the fridge and the cupboards and asking if there’s anything specific anyone else living in the house wants/needs.

I hate the "he can't cook" - it is ridiculousness. There are books, recipes in magazines, online recipes, online tutorials. I'd be embarrassed to be married to someone who claimed "they couldn't cook" How can they not cook? Do they have an allergy to flames or. heat?