Be honest long term couples how often do you DTD

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Asking really people who are in a long term relationships with children how often? Had a chat with some friends recently who admitted its a lot less than you would think. Thought people might be more honest on a Anonymous forum.

All the women DTD regularly, do you love it? Do you get the tinglies and feel horny or do you just lie there while he gets on with it?

I'm not in a LTR but had to comment based on the above post alone! I wouldn't do it unless I wanted to.

My exh and I were together for 14 years and probably did it no more than a dozen times - my exh had some 'old fashioned' ideas about women and sex.

I've been single for a while and have recently met someone but we're not at the sex stage yet.

I'd generally want it 2 - 3 times a week. I wouldn't be with someone if we had hugely mismatched sex drives anymore - life is too short!

All the women DTD regularly, do you love it? Do you get the tinglies and feel horny or do you just lie there while he gets on with it?

80% of the time I’m like YES!
The other 20% I’m like ... oh go on then!

But I ‘enjoy’ myself without fail every time (guessing this isn’t common as I never had that before DP) ... DP is very diligent and persistent in my ‘enjoying’ myself .... I can not complain!

15 years together, 11 married, 2 DC under 5 - we average every other day except for period week.

Every second night so let's say Monday, Wednesday and Friday then usually morning and afternoon on a Saturday or definitely twice depending on what's going on and then usually Sunday night and start again on a Monday.

I am 24 with no dependants & we live in our own place so that plays a part.

We have busy social lives so sometimes it's just 2 or 3 times. Depends on the week.

21 yrs together. 17/15/10 yr olds. Once a week? Really sometimes i just do it to get it over!

When he's not away with work, every day. Unless illness dictates otherwise, which thankfully is rare. There is no set time or place. It could be in bed when we first wake up, equally it could be on the couch in the evening. Twice a day if I'm lucky. He's a skilled and considerate lover. I love it. We always have dtd daily, right from getting married 36 years ago.

do you just lie there while he gets on with it?

Do you just lie there while he gets on with it?

He probably wishes I would sometimes, it would spare his bruises 😂

Does two or three times in the morning at the weekend then once at night count as 3-4 times or 1?

3x a week sometimes more.we have children so it is harder to make time ,wait until they are asleep etc but we make it work kinda get used to it.

It's feast or famine. My fast receding fertility has a "last gasp" week where DH gets sleep deprived then it's back to bedsocks, ugly pjs and an electric fence.

Together 25 years. 4 dc between 20 & 12. Probably averages out at once a week. It's much harder as the dc get older - wandering around at midnight etc! I just can't relax.

I've been with OH for 10 years we have 4 boys 6,5,3 & 1. We usually dtd 3 times a week and I sort him out atleast once in that week too! He has a very high sex drive and we'll after 4 kids I don't have one at all but I try and do my best to please him. He never gets stroppy or forces anything and occasionally I am just like no don't want to for a week or so. But this Is usually how we do things.

Twice a week minimum, sometimes just oral sex, lots of affection daily

On average once a week I would say, sometimes less or more. Currently pregnant and has been a couple months because I've had bad pain but even when I suggest it DH is freaked out by the baby kicking/moving. So will get back on track after the birth hopefully!

Once or twice a week. We'd both like it to be more but our 3 year old DS likes to know where I am at all times ha (hoping it is a phase)

Once or twice a year, not for about 9 months now... Together 10 years, married 9, 2 kids, we’re early 30’s. Even in the early days it was about once a month, he just said it was because he wanted our relationship to be about more than just sex. Shouldn’t have married him really. When we were ttc it took us months from decided to start a family to actually getting pregnant, not because of any problems but because he wouldn’t actually have sex with me

He’s slept on the sofa every night for over a year and when he brushed past me in the hallway the other week he looked absolutely horrified and apologised as if I was a stranger. To be honest it would be weird to have sex with him now, like sleeping with a stranger. Pretty miserable really, but he’s a good, loving father, a good provider, the children are happy...

Before we had a baby a few times a week. Now it's more like once a month and neither of us think it's enough lol! Once baby is in his own bed it'll be more again (we hope!!)