Be honest long term couples how often do you DTD

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Asking really people who are in a long term relationships with children how often? Had a chat with some friends recently who admitted its a lot less than you would think. Thought people might be more honest on a Anonymous forum.

For the last few years only once a month. More recently it's increased to 3 or 4 times a month.

Might do other stuff in between too.

Once a week now: DH is away 4 days a week, and peri menopause has killed my libido. Once a week is a bit of a chore, if I’m honest, just trying to keep DH happy.
Together 30 years.

Over the last year it's been as little as once every couple of months and as much as 4 or 5 times a week. Depends on so many things - MH, opportunity, time of month, state of relationship, levels of tiredness...
Just got to roll with it really

( been together 15 years if that's relevant)

I'd say on average twice a week but depends on lots of things! Right now it's probably more, two years ago when dh was working all the time and stressed then it was every other week.

All the women DTD regularly, do you love it? Do you get the tinglies and feel horny or do you just lie there while he gets on with it?

Every few weeks because he’d rather sit up playing on his Xbox until 3am than actually come to bed while I’m awake

Lie there while he gets on with it?! Blimey I'd hope most people have sex and they are both enjoying it! Don't get me wrong every now and then I'm too tired or whatever and dh is in the mood I might go for it anyway (no pressure from him you understand - if I don't want it he says ok) but I know that once I get going I'll enjoy it. Pretty much always do. We're not swinging from the chandeliers all the time, don't get me wrong, it's often a quickie or our favourite position or whatever but we've got it down to a pretty fine art over the last 18 years . I do believe the more you have sex the more you enjoy it though (well maybe not if you were at it 10 times a day but you know what I mean!).

Been together over 30 years, probably once a week on average. Can go weeks without it but on holiday 3 or 4 times a week.

Once or twice a day currently (together just under 3 years, married just under a year, and we have a newborn). We used to have sex twice a day pretty consistently before and during my pregnancy, but now we have a baby we sometimes only manage once a day. I don't orgasm every time, though - breastfeeding has definitely meddled with my hormones! But I love being close to my husband, so I don't need to come to get plenty of benefit from being intimate.

About twice every three weeks. Meds are affecting my libido but I'm ok once I get going. Ages 66 and 70.

Mainly twice at the weekend rarely during week / long hours. Ten years together two young dc.

Been together 6.5 years. Both got DCs but not between us. We spend 3 nights a week together and dtd every time, often twice in an evening. If we’re both free at lunch time he will pop over for lunch and ‘lunch’ once a week or so.

If we lived together full time it would probably still be 5/6 times a week, but we work on the assumption that we will every night unless one of us doesn’t feel like it, so it’s an ‘opt out’ rather than ‘opt in’ scenario, which I think helps keep it frequent!

Blimey LadyB49 - not being patronising but that's amazing! We are late 40's- on holiday it's every other night - but with a roaming and slightly insomniac teen in the house combined with me being menopausal it had dropped off as late. Doesn't help with DH being a workaholic either!! Hoping we get back to 1/2 times a week soon! That is fine with me for now although I hope in future every day is a holiday. I think it might be! Love him to bits and still fancy the arse off him -it's just circumstances!!

Depends really can be every night one week to nothing the next then 3/4 times at the weekend.

Dh work shifts so is permanently shattered. 2 kids, together over 10 years.

Since I’ve had my coil out I’ve been like a horny teenager sex drive has well and truely come back to life

Once, maybe twice a week and that's after 25 years together.

Uhm....once a month if that? I think the last time was about 5 weeks ago and it was a half arsed attempt but we got too tired!

Work full time, two toddlers who are pretty much in our bed every night, even when we have them watched overnight we tend to just Netflix and NOT chill. Comfy jammies and bed really.

Kind of sad I think but I'm hoping that as we have more time to ourselves (hah) we'll be more regular.

Been together 20 years. We average 1-2 times a week

How long is long term? Married together 6 years with a toddler. Minimum twice a week.

do you just lie there while he gets on with it?

yep it is 2019, not 1919. In other news, women also have the vote.

At least once a week, usually twice. Been together 9 years. Have a 3 year old and a 4 month old. Didn't have any during pregnancy from about 20 weeks onwards, got our mojo back 8 weeks post baby ish.

1-2 a month - dh works away from home and tiredness are the main reasons - we are still physically very close.

Regularly 2-3 times a week!
Depending on shift patterns/health...etc.

We plan to TTC this summer though so .... I’m sure it will change!

Once a month or less. I never feel the urge, though always enjoy it when it happens. We both like a quite long-winded session with a long time spent on foreplay so it needs a decent chunk of time set aside for it 😂 I know my OH would like it a bit more often but he accepts the situation as it is, as he knows sex is complicated and intense for me.

We’ve been together 20 years and have two DCs; teen and pre-teen.

About once per week. We've been together 20 years and married for ten.
We have had spells where we didn't have sex for over 6 months because of work, stress, poorly DC. But for the last year, it's been about once per week.