Be honest long term couples how often do you DTD

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Asking really people who are in a long term relationships with children how often? Had a chat with some friends recently who admitted its a lot less than you would think. Thought people might be more honest on a Anonymous forum.

Had a bit of a drought due to gynae issues but id say normally 3-4 times a week for morning quickies. Anything requiring more effort every week or so.

Been together 25 years

@CakeNinja we're the same, got 3 teenagers roaming around at night 🙈 I'd be absolutely mortified if they heard us 🤦🏻‍♀️

2-3 times a month. We both have busy jobs and also a toddler so generally when we get into bed at night we have a cuddle and relax rather than get to it! It does get me down as i know if I had more time away from DS and to myself generally we'd do it far more. I'm not a night time person but mornings and daytime are out due to DS!

Me and DH have been together 16 years and we dtd 2/3 times a week on average. Longest we’d go without is probably a week, DH has a pretty high sex drive though

I have been with my husband 3 years. We have four kids, 3 are from a past relationship and one together. Honestly, we do have sex almost every night. We both have high sex drives though and we'll give it a miss if I'm too tired.

2 or 3 times a week, but we often went weeks or even months without it when the kids were babies and toddlers

Most nights, if I’m honest 😊 But DC’s are still small and when in bed, they stay in bed, so the evenings are our own. I’m sure it’ll change when they are older though and we have teenagers roaming the house! 🙈

2-3 times a week, sometimes more. Longest gap between DTD (apart from post C-section) has been 2 weeks. We've been together for 18 years. Things have got even better since DH had a vasectomy & we feel freer to experiment (and we discovered the lovehoney website) It was roughly once a week before.

Varies month to month. Can be multiple times a week or we go weeks without any.

The longest dry spell was 3m+

Maybe once a fortnight on average but it would be more if we didn't have various kids and teenagers around all the time.
On the rare occasion we find ourselves alone in the house (at any time of day), we invariably do it! Neither of us can relax when the kids are home.

Approx 3/4 times a month at the moment. We could easily get by on less as we are both exhausted with 2 dc, one with ASD and who doesn’t sleep well. I’d love it to be more regular as we definitely get on better, communicate better and feel more connected when we have a more regular sex life.

OH says we dont do it enough. Some weeks once a week other weeks it could 2/3 times a week. I explain he may bot get it every day like friends if ours, but he's dam lucky he gets it so good when he does get it, which he agrees on 😂

Once or twice a month

1-2 times a week.

Sometimes nothing, then next week maybe 3 times. So an average of 1.5 probably.

More on holiday and when it's sunny.

One persons "not much" is another's "shit loads".

I'm on the 3 times a week on average but sometimes more, sometimes less. Married 8 years, together 11 years.

It's never a marathon and always a sprint though, I've no interest in hours of shagging. I like instant gratification and if that means I have to do it more than once a day then fine...

Once a week and/or fortnight (this can vary and sometimes it's a little more frequent e.g. on holiday), and on special occasions

Almost never. Last time was a couple of years ago. Have a 6yo and 1.5yo who often end up in our bed at some point in the night, and I'm still breastfeeding which kills my libido. DC2 is a shite sleeper so DH and I are permanently exhausted. He doesn't initiate, nor do I. It makes me sad sometimes but I think it'll get better when DC2 is older. I hope!! Been together 11 years.

Once or twice a month. Only at weekends as week nights are just a whirlwind and we’re knackered. Extra times any day or evening we have a babysitter but that’s rare.

Chocolatecoffeeaddict but you are only 3 years in to a relationship!! That's still the beginning

Now divorced, but up to the end it was at least a couple of times a week, once a week at worst. That was a routine we settled into after about 20 years

3 times a week on average, married 10 years with 3 children (3-8) and if they cannot see me at all times they start calling my name as if they are being murdered. Maaaa-(strangled cry)-maaaa, which is a massive mood killer.

My libido is very up and down - in a good spell, 4-5 times a week! Then we can go ages (longest was 2 months!) without. All depends

Once a week, occasionally twice! We've been together 10 years and have DC age 3 and 6 and both work full time so this is best we can do!

It varies, sometimes 3 times a week, sometimes we go 2-3 weeks without it. We definitely didn't make the most of our time together before having children, to my eternal regret, but the pill absolutely killed my libido. DH has got used to it I think (he'd prefer more) which makes me sad. I'd prefer more too, but we've barely had a full night's sleep since DS1 was born nearly 8 years ago. I'm hoping once the DC sleep all night, things might improve. Together 14 years, 2 DC (7 and 2).

This thread makes me sad. Once a month or less at the moment. We have been together 23 years and in our late 30's. We have 4 dc between 6 and 14. We are both exhausted but actually I have no sex drive anyway. I loathe myself. I feel hairy and fat. I'm paranoid about my breath smelling. I have a prolapse. I am disgusting.
Sex can never be spontaneous as I always want to shower and shave my legs first etc.
Those of you who DTD in the morning, do you wash first? Is a spontaneous act?

Currently only done it twice this year 😥 Been off work sick so not really been in the mood. It’s normally every other day and at least twice at the weekend. Definitely a dry spell at the moment.