I'm going to get sacked tomorrow

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That's just it really. Shitting myself

Had a miscarriage in November so had 2 weeks off for that work were not happy at all at that but couldn't help it.

Was in and out of hospital over Christmas because it turned out to be a molar pregnancy so I had to go to Sheffield for tests and chemo . All over now but definitely had more time off over Christmas than I should have but couldn't help that.

Then on thursday 3rd January my mum killed herself and I've been off work since then sorting out her affairs and the funeral. I'm 27 and now have no one apart from my DH, I'm going to get sacked tomorrow because I've taken so much time off work and I couldn't give a shit.

I really don't want to face up to it but I can't not go in again, even though I could do with another few days to sort some more stuff out.

Things will get better soon right? I can get another job if I tell the reason why I got sacked?

That's good news. So sorry to hear about both the miscarriage and your Mum. That's a hell of a lot for anyone to go through (either of them, let alone a double whammy). Please be kind to yourself.

That's good, and quite right. I hope you can feel a tiny bit better and concentrate on everything else you've got going on.

You poor love. Look after yourself, so glad you have one less worry about work. Your GP will look after you, by the sounds of it. Two weeks isn't long to even begin to attempt to deal with what you're going through. RIP your mum.

So relieved for you re the work situation.
One day at a time, OP.

I WAS fired from the NHS for a very prolonged period of illness and trust me it was a long process. I’m not certain how different it is if you have recently joined the trust but I imagine they still have to follow due process.

I know you have sorted things out for now but it would still be a good idea to put in writing the reasons for your absences and keep them up to date with such certification etc.

I do hope things become easier for you soon. What a dreadful time you have had.

I did wonder if you want to keep this job.....at one point you said you didn't care if they sacked you. Having gone through everything, are you just feeling like you can't face work so don't care if you don't have it. That said, you've now had a positive response from them to your sick note and everything else, so sound like you're feeling more positive about it.

The NHS is a big employer and won't randomly sack people. There is a long and detailed procedure for that and they will have to go through it and you sound like you've had an awful run of terrible things, which won't be on the sacking list!

It's difficult to do this when you're dealing with awful things happening, but all I'd say is to make sure you keep them updated by email with everything that's going on at each stage. Yes you've had lots of absence, but if it's documented that you've always contacted work and explained why and provided things like sick notes or any other evidence, then you're okay. They won't ring you every day because that would be harassment but when they do contact you, do get back to them and try to be proactive in keeping them up to date with what's going on. I know that's difficult when your mind is on these other awful things going on.

You don't need to live in fear of losing your job or them contacting you or having to speak to them. Being honest is key and having a terrible run of events does sometimes happen to people and a large organisation like the NHS can cope with it. As long as you're not taking the piss, and you'll know yourself if there have been any incidents amongst your absences which have been iffy or not properly communicated and dealt with, there really is nothing tops worry about.

I know it's hard to think about now with all you've been through, but can you actually imagine going back to work? Do you think you might be developing a phobia about it and will really struggle to get back in - not now, but at a point in the nearing future after your sick leave expires? I do wonder if you are feeling that you won't be able to face it.....and that may well be related to the things you've faced and pass with a bit of time, or might be a longer term issue? Just wondering, and you yourself might not entirely know at the moment.

I’m so sorry OP
I would say though please don’t listen to what people on this thread tell you your employer can or can’t do- they are unlikely to be HR advisers or employment lawyers.
I do think that you need to get to your GP though and see if he can sign you off with stress. This should at least delay any action your employer might take and it sounds like you shouldn’t be at work at the moment.

It sounds like they've got wind of whats happened and just didnt want to poke their nose in.

I'm so pleased for you

Wonder if the personal h'offcier there reads MN;?.

Was aksed for a reference for an ex employee of ours the other she was called a ;

"Talent Procurment Executive Officer!"..