How attractive do you consider yourself to be

[thinkingisharderthandoing]

For your age, have you aged well, given up, had help, feel inner beauty, always felt ugly, means a lot to you, means nothing to you? Do you have good days, bad days?
Also any tips and advice to share.

Pretty average, a little overweight. 47 with no grey hair and no noticeable wrinkles. I could probably look a bit above average if I put much effort into my appearance, but tbh I'm not that bothered.

Do you feel insignificant in the presence of so called confident, in your opinion beautiful people?

Not at all. I'd much rather be considered intelligent, confident, kind, organised, interesting etc etc than beautiful. I don't think beauty is very important, and being really beautiful can probably be a very mixed blessing. People on MN have talked about the terrible blow of finding they no longer turn heads. Much easier if you never turned heads in the first place!

I'm 64 and mostly fairly happy with how I look. I'd say I'm 'ordinary', not ugly and not beautiful, but I've reasonable skin and I'm pleased with how my body's lasted 😁 (I eat well and take regular exercise).

There are days when I look in the mirror and see an old woman looking back, but that just makes me head for my make-up drawer and book a hair appointment. I do think the confidence and 'don't care' attitude that comes with age helps. I also think that when I was in my 30s (which is probably the average age of Mumsnet posters), there was far less emphasis on looks; no Instagram or Botox, no Facebook to make us feel inferior. I don't remember ever really thinking about whether I looked groomed, or beautiful or camera-ready, I just dressed and had my hair in a style I thought suited me and got on with life. Pretty much like now!

Erm weird one. I get lots of glances and glad eyes and people ogling and told im pretty but its not something I ever think about. I know i look younger than 30 and have a good figure but wouldn't say I'm good looking. Only thing that matters to me is my dp thinks Im perfect. Not really bothered if other people do or not

As a kid I was told by family I was ugly and they still make hints they think that so I'll never feel anything but ugly.

But I do notice people second looking at me and I've never had to work to get a boyfriend I've always been flooded with offers but I think that's a new generation thing and being blonde.

On a night out I get about 3-4 guys talking to me but even then I think that's a drunk thing.

I'm funny so that's all that matters 😂

I actually feel more attractive and confident in my looks now (nearly 40) than I did in my late 20s/early 30s when I had tiny DC. I felt frumpy and never knew what to wear to hide the baby weight, so just wore shapeless baggy things. Nowadays despite working full time and being a single parent I have a bit more time for myself as the DC are older, I’m happier with my size and kind of know what suits me and what doesn’t. Although now I’m approaching 40 the wrinkles and dark circles are suddenly catching up with me

I’m ugly. Always have been. Hasn’t stopped me getting everything I want in life 🤷🏼‍♀️

Seems so sad that so many look back and realise they were attractive when at the time thought they wasn't..... If only you'd of realised I wonder if it would of impacted your life differently?

Does anyone want botox/surgery/non surgical procedures?

Does anyone regret botox/surgery/non surgical procedures?

Oh and one more question, if you had the choice would you change your looks or your weight?

26 and feel ugly. Had so much confidence when younger. I actually appreciated my inner beauty, but now I'm a bitter crow. Can you tell shit has happened in my life?

Regarding the last question I would absolutely choose to change my weight over my looks but not for vanity reasons at all.
I have quite severe fibromyalgia and am struggling to lose weight. My doctor has said I will see a significant reduction in pain if I lose weight so that's my reasoning.

I don't want Botox. I have a fringe which is like free Botox

Lastly, if I could have any procedure then I'm going to be totally honest and say I would have a designer vagina.
After 2 horrific births 16 and 8 years ago
I've never felt the same and that's probably where most of my insecurities lie.

2/3

With make up I look like a drag queen; without, very plain and blokey.
I wouldn't have a clue if a guy fancied me. I assume they don't. Never get asked out. What does attention from men even mean?

My exDH refused to have sex with me.

Not looking promising at 42. Saddens me tbh because I'm told by friends I'm thoughtful, generous, clever, witty, beautiful, a warm and loving mother etc. My parents tell me I am good-looking (they would .....)

I know they see my spirit and that's lovely...but I don't want a relationship with them.

I hope I can work to change my perspective this year.

I'm a 4.

Objectively, I’d say I’m a 9

I'm 30 and get told by random selection all the time I have beautiful dimples!!!!

They should see the ones on my arse!😂

Is this a sponsored thread @thinkingisharderthandoing? When is your deadline for the daily fail?

You've not said anything about yourself funnily enough dude.......

By random strangers**

4/10 on a bad day, when I'm bloated with an extra chin and spare tire, am spottier than the average teen should be (but they aren't these days??), and my eyebrows are determined to merge, 7/10 on a good day/with a bit of effort.

Before kids - 9
After kids - 5

I think I have aged 10 years in 3 and I want Botox. Am 36.

Teaaddict.
I'm so not and wouldn't know how to be a dm whatever.
I'm 40's and resonating with so much all the posters are saying
I've equated so much of my life with my looks and still do. I can't seem to 'just be'
Trying to fathom it a out

I'm 31 years old... when are all these acne spots on my face going to disappear?!? :(

...apart from that, I'm not bad :)

I reckon I'm a 7 on a good day... I wear makeup & clothes that suit my figure, & have pretty nice hair. Also have a witchy nose & chin and am a size 14, so never going to be your typical 10/10.

When I’m done up with nice makeup and have styled my hair etc I think I can be an 8/9.
When I’m in my natural state then i’d say I look completely average and no more than a 5

I'd say grooming (eyebrows/nails) brings me up to a 5, making an effort with my hair and clothes, and wearing jewellery a 6. Full make up 7. If I were skinnier I could maybe manage an 8, but I don't have the clear skin, bone structure or symetrical features needed to be a 9 or a 10.