How attractive do you consider yourself to be

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For your age, have you aged well, given up, had help, feel inner beauty, always felt ugly, means a lot to you, means nothing to you? Do you have good days, bad days?
Also any tips and advice to share.

I’m ok. I’m often told I’m very striking. I’m pretty tall, good hair and “pale and interesting “ colouring. I don’t think I’m pretty or attractive and I hate to be photographed. Easily embarrassed and quite shy. More attention than I’d ever expect especially from my mid twenties onwards. Men seem see something that I don’t.

I'm 48, overweight (but a lot less so than a few years ago - work in progress).

I do have a classically pretty face - was gorgeous & much fancied in my 20s & couldn't see it at all, but looking back at old photos, yes I was rather beautiful.

I'm tall & tend to come across as imposing - I've lost count of the number of male friends who've said they rather fancied me back in the day but found me scary.

I'm also horribly unphotogenic if caught at the wrong angle!

I'd give myself a 7, mostly because I'm kind & funny & people who get to know me describe me as attractive, but a 4 to strangers &/or when slobbing around in pjs.

Songforsal you don't sound like a twat at all, if you're hot, be proud of it But it's not as simple as saying This, however has added no value to my life or self worth. and I'd rather have a conversation about something that matters. So would I, but if I go out people usually blank me or literally push past me to get to my more attractive friends. A bit hard to have a conversation about anything when that happens.

I think I blossomed in my 20s, but braces and accompanying jaw surgery had a lot to do with it. I also learned to do my make up and started caring a bit more about what i wore. Almost 32 now, about a stone heavier than I'd like to be but would probably rate myself a 7.5. Might shove that up to 8.5 if I get that weight off!

Butteredghost
I’m sure you are not ‘ugly as sin’ very very few people are the true definition of ugly, most people are just ordinary, which is fine.
My weight issue just makes me feel annoyed for ‘letting myself go’. ( for want of a better phrase ) my clothes no longer fit & i find I’m hiding under big baggy jumpers, which is fine in this weather! I just need to lose a stone for the summer.
I want to feel good as well as look good.
But I know people who actually look better slighter over weight, it suits them. It just doesn’t suit me.

Sorry, but that's so sad to read.

No, it's fine. We can't all have everything right? No one is going to find a person that's 3/10 attractive, but does that mean those people shouldn't have partners?

No surferjet you are right, I'm just normal looking, just not particularly attractive. And I agree it's completely fine - which is why I think it's OK to say "I'm not particularly attractive". Not everyone is or has to be and thats fine.

I’m pretty ok. But it’s not important. I’m happy and well and loved.

Up until about 5 years ago, I was really quite stunning. It sounds awful typing that out, I'm cringing.

However, motherhood/stress has taken its toll. These days I'm about 2 stone overweight, my hair was thick and glossy and has now thinned and is greasy on the top and like straw at the end. I used to have amazing skin and now the lines are showing and it's red and patchy. My lips have thinned and my eyes seem to have shrunk!

So yeah, I feel pretty shit about myself most days. I'd say a 3. My best years are definitely behind me!

I have a face like a potato and was bullied at school (all girls) for being ugly. That said, I was always considered attractive by men. I’m guessing attractive and pretty are very different and think attractive is more down to how I carry myself/ expressions etc.
I used to get called beautiful in my 20s and 30s, now all my compliments are vicarious: people tell dd11 she’s beautiful “just like your mum”, but no more compliments for me! I’d guess other people think I was better looking then, but I’m happy with how my cheekbones have become visible with age, and people tend to assume I’m a decade younger than I am. For me, confidence seems the source of any attractiveness. I’d rate myself at 6.

Logically I doubt that I’m as ugly as I feel. I’m not particularly attractive and I haven’t aged well. Mostly I can just not think about my appearance, but I hate Skype calls where I know the other person has to endure looking at my face filling their screen and I feel quite sorry for my dh being stuck with me. I’d never say that to him just in case it would cause the scales to drop from his eyes and he’d recoil in horror. I’ve no idea why I feel so ugly. I find it very difficult to wear make up or make any great effort because it makes me more self conscious. Logically I know that people don’t actially flinch when they look at me so I’m not as repulsive as I feel, but it doesn’t change the feeling. I’ve never told anyone about this.

These days I’m a right big head with loads of confidence. I think I’m pretty. I feel gorgeous when I go for a night out. I do get ‘checked out’ quite a lot but I think that’s because I’ve gone blonde.
Thing is, unlike other PPs, no one has told me I’m beautiful since I was 17! (22 years ago!). So God knows why I think it! I am told I look young for 41, but doesn’t everyone get told that?
When I was younger I had low self confidence. It’s only recently that I’ve felt like this.
If I analysed myself, which I don’t (!), I have acne scars, those 11 lines, a not petite nose, some extra weight that I can do without plus loads of other imperfections.
I choose to ignore those things and focus on my lovely eyes and smile. I am vain, I admit it and I should focus on my looks less. I’m vain, but not shallow.

I think I look 20. I am most definitely not 20. I suspect I'm the only one who believes this

I think I look 20. I am most definitely not 20. I suspect I'm the only one who believes this

I also refuse to talk via Skype or FaceTime. I could handle it if my face was in the little window, but the person you're talking to gets the blown up version. Urgh.

I'm quite petite with a little tummy thanks to pregnancy but I can deal with that. Awfully thin hair but I have an appointment to sort that out in a few weeks (hopefully). Straight teeth but still hate them, huge nose and black circles under my eyes no matter how much sleep I get. Somehow I still have confidence in myself. Not the most attractive but at least my husband thinks I'm pretty amazing.

I think that I look good . I’ve always been a very slim build don’t have any lines around my eyes /forehead . I had a few lines around my mouth so had fillers done . I also had lip fillers . I’ll get it done again when they wear off.
I think it’s in the genes plus never smoked . All my brothers and sisters look young too . My mum is 82 and looks about 20 years younger .

I was absolutely stunning when younger, but just didn't know it. People would stare at me in the street, traffic would come to a standstill, men would follow me around, I would get into clubs for free, queue jump. I just though all of it was very strange. Sometimes friends would tell me that I was physically perfect, but I thought they were just kidding.
Now I finally see it. I still don't understand what is so great about being beautiful. I would rather people just liked me for my personality - which is a definite 10

Someone told me today that looking the way I do I must be used to getting everything I want.
I'm 46, tall, slim and I'm good looking rather than pretty. I'm sexy and confident, maybe I think I'm "it"!
I consider myself a 8/9.

About a four

0/10 but I'm quite at peace with it now.

Overweight, pcos so have facial hair, boon hair, stomach hair and receding hairline (fab on a woman ) bad dress sense and crappy haircut, cut my own as why bother paying out cash when your balding like a guy. I've moved to the middle of nowhere recently so I can look like the troll someone pulled out of the cave and no one will see apart from some cows thankfully!

Two pigs wrestling in a sack.

And proud of it

Fat frumpy fifty but flawless wrinkle free skin.

1/10

I'm...too sexy for my love, too sexy for my shirt...

I have always had nice eyes nice teeth but always felt conscious of my short dumpy legs and never ever confident with my appearance .Ironically my daughter was scouted as a model and has done some very high profile jobs. This has been the biggest surprise for me (although I've always considered her beautiful and clever-funny that. Basking in reflected glory has strangely made me feel better about myself