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Am I pathetic for staying in on NYE??

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Gemi33 · 30/12/2018 19:36

I am 35, single and most of my friends and family are married with children. I don't have a huge number of friends and most of them are staying in with their children/partners and I haven received any invites to anything so I will be in on my own on NYE. I don't particularly like NYE and suffer with anxiety so don't really mind being in and not having the hassle of going out but when people have asked me what I'm doing the reaction I get makes me feel like a complete loser and look at me pityingly. It makes me feel pressured to have super exciting plans and like I must be really boring because I haven't.

Am I pathetic? Is anyone else in a similar boat? Have you planned how you'll spend it?

xx

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PushHop · 31/12/2018 08:23

We are staying in too. Takeaway for an early dinner, DS(2) will go to bed at normal time, and then DH, DSS(9) and I will play Xbox and top trumps and Cluedo (all games picked by DSS) and if he's still awake at midnight we will toast the New Year with a glass of shloer.

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Gemi33 · 31/12/2018 08:34

I've loved reading this thread - what lovely people you all are and you have all made me feel less alone.

bettyblueeyes83 what an interesting post - that book sounds interesting too, I'll have to look it up. The pity is something I struggle with. Even though I'm not really happy with my situation, other peoples pity makes me feel worse. I half expect to get a message today from a friend or sister asking what I'm doing tonight and if I say I'm staying in they make me feel bad about it (even though they do the same and are quick to say they hate NYE but because they stay in with a partner it's ok apparently!).

xx

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Sigh81 · 31/12/2018 08:51

Am staying in tonight too with the cat. NYE is like any other evening as far as I am concerned. Will be lovely to have a bath, read a book and not wake up with a hangover :)

I agree with PP who said that the millennium felt like a 'jumping the shark' moment for NYE. I haven't done anything big to celebrate it since - either spent it with a few friends or solo.

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MissTook · 31/12/2018 08:52

About 9pm I'm having a *swig nip of whiskey and honey liqueur,
a coughing fit and off to bed - alone. Perfecto. Grin

ManchesterMum63 · 31/12/2018 09:03

Another one here staying in with DP - either one or both will be asleep well before midnight... Used to go out for the 'forced overpriced jollity' that i think a lot of NYE is... Happy to watch trash TV/read and have a 'normal' evening... And wish for a peaceful healthy 2019...

TartedUpYard · 31/12/2018 09:06

I'll be in bed at 9pm as usual. I used to love NYE but can't be bothered with it now. Overcrowded pubs, no taxis, taking ages to get served at the bar, hangover etc. I have a 'been there, done that' attitude to it now.

DontCallMeCharlotte · 31/12/2018 09:12

I'm so desperate to stay in tonight but my lovely friend is having none of it. Even more so as I'm hungover to the teeth this morning Envy

toastfiend · 31/12/2018 09:16

I hate NYE. Even back in the day when I'd go on nights out every day if I could I still hated NYE. We're going to friends for dinner. Very casual and quiet and it'll be a lovely evening. If we weren't I'd stay in quite happily, eat junk food and watch movies. I'm pregnant and knackered so may even leave DH with said friends this evening and head home before midnight if I'm feeling rubbish. You couldn't get me 'out out' at New Year for love nor money. Enjoy a peaceful evening to yourself, have a glass of fizz (or tipple of choice!), eat your favourite food, watch some great films and revel in the fact that you're not at some sweaty club or house party, ducking and diving at midnight as some drunken letch lunges at you.

Bloomini · 31/12/2018 09:27

Of course you're not pathetic for staying in alone on NYE. People who 'pity' you and make you question your choices are!

They're probably just jealous Wink

Have a lovely time doing what you want.

PhilomenaNewYearButterfly · 31/12/2018 10:53

I'll celebrate on here if I'm still awake.

chocoholicanon · 31/12/2018 10:59

I’m the same as you, long time single most friends are partnered up and have children. I’m staying in on my own. Heading off to M and S to buy some nice food and I’ve got a big bottle of Baileys and probably won’t last till the fireworks on tv at midnight

CrimpBrunette · 31/12/2018 18:17

How is everyone's pathetic NYE going? I'm currently lazing on my sofa with infinite quantities of cheese and gin at my disposal Grin

JacquesHammer · 31/12/2018 18:21

I had a go at a new recipe for dinner which was ridiculously easy but delicious! Tried it tonight as I know DD won’t like it.

Now reading trash 😁

CrimpBrunette · 31/12/2018 18:53

Ooh, now very intrigued to know what the dinner was!! Grin

Rassy · 31/12/2018 18:57

Not only am I not going out but I'm not drinking as on driving standby as DD1 (19) and DD2 (15) are both going out. Taxi booked for DD2 but I feel happier if I am able to drive if required! I will also wait up until DD2 gets in Shock. Was easier when they were younger and didn't go out!!

Sigh81 · 31/12/2018 20:33

Had a super long bath while listening to an audio book and now about to do some knitting while the cat curls up next to me :) feeling very content. Happy New Year, all!

Norugratsatall · 31/12/2018 20:43

2018 has been shit and when I think of how I partied and celebrated last NYE, I feel sick. I had no idea what was coming. Xmas was manic and I'm still recovering from an accident in November so no, I won't be going out. Kids (grown up) have gone out. Hope they're having fun. But it's not for me this year. May or may not make it to midnight to see the fireworks with a glass of Prosecco.

Have had a bath, am in my PJs. Had a few nibbly things to eat and started a new jigsaw that arrived this morning. Bliss!

Norugratsatall · 31/12/2018 20:50

Oh and I'm (not!) loving listening to the thump thump thump of the neighbour's music. Every fucking year...

Santaclarita · 31/12/2018 20:52

Nah. I'm not one for parties, get too nervous and I don't drink. Plus I'm feeling like I'm getting a cold so staying in to get better.

Happy New year all Smile

WickedGoodDoge · 31/12/2018 21:37

We’re just lounging around. DH and DD are watching the Haunting of Hill House. I hate horror so am trying to not look at the TV. DS is online gaming with friends and the dog is asleep. Grin I’ll stay up to midnight but will be in bed by five past.

hmmwhatatodo · 31/12/2018 22:08

I had a bath and now I’m working my way through the last few episodes of emmerdale (only watch it around Christmas time really) and I’m bizarrely tempted to work my way through the ironing, not sure I will but it would be good to get it out of the way. What I really want is crisps but I have none Angry

Ollivander84 · 31/12/2018 22:16

I'm catching up on Corrie with the cat asleep on me. And I've eaten so much chinese food that I can't move Grin

secondarymincepie · 31/12/2018 22:23

I had plans to go out but they fell through at the last minute so I'm on the sofa in my pyjamas watching Bridesmaids. It's my first new years alone after the end of a long term relationship and I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself truth be told, it seems like everyone else has got someone special to share new years with but even my cats have buggered off out and left me on my own!

gower4 · 31/12/2018 22:36

I never go out on New Year's Eve! Never have, never will! Married with kids nor, but even when was a wild 20 something I stayed in. All the best people are in watching BridesmaidsGrinWink

hmmwhatatodo · 31/12/2018 23:37

Well I’ve watched a load of emmerdale and the latest episode of coronation street, washed up and ironed. Hmm what to do now. Outside I can hear fireworks and people’s irritating over the top laughs. Still want crisps.