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Am I pathetic for staying in on NYE??

134 replies

Gemi33 · 30/12/2018 19:36

I am 35, single and most of my friends and family are married with children. I don't have a huge number of friends and most of them are staying in with their children/partners and I haven received any invites to anything so I will be in on my own on NYE. I don't particularly like NYE and suffer with anxiety so don't really mind being in and not having the hassle of going out but when people have asked me what I'm doing the reaction I get makes me feel like a complete loser and look at me pityingly. It makes me feel pressured to have super exciting plans and like I must be really boring because I haven't.

Am I pathetic? Is anyone else in a similar boat? Have you planned how you'll spend it?

xx

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Joanne721 · 30/12/2018 22:31

I decided that when i am home from work tomorrow night about 8pm,its shower,hairwash,wine,catch up with the soaps,wine,see whats on tv,wine then as i love 70`s music i will be listening to that,might even have a dance if i can stand lolGrin

GreenDinosaur · 30/12/2018 22:33

Lucky you.
My heart sunk when we were invited to a party, busy thinking of reasons not to go...!

Topseyt · 30/12/2018 23:45

You're not pathetic at all. We will be staying in too. We have for years. We will stay up to watch the fireworks on TV, have a few nibbles and some wine. That will do nicely.

I don't do New Year. Christmas I am OK with, but I am not really a party animal, so I don't do New Year. I'd rather stay in and read my book.

I was another who was delighted to have the "no babysitter" excuse as my "get out of jail free" card when my first DD was born. Said DD is almost 24 now and I haven't returned to the drudge of the enforced NYE jollity. Nor do I intend to.

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FredaFox · 31/12/2018 00:06

I stay in. I hate NYE for several reasons but it's forced fun, it's not the best night of the year, bars are busy, you pay to get in, no seats, bar is 3 deep, idiots who don't usually go out and thus can't behave and over do it are everywhere

I used to stay in alone but now my dad's no longer here I'll be staying in with my mum. Some years I'm in bed by 10.

Get some nice food/nibbles, something lovely to drink. There will be plenty of people in the same position on here tomorrow night 😊

hmmwhatatodo · 31/12/2018 00:26

I honestly don’t see what all the fuss is about.... and tv is rubbish late Ito the night. I don’t want to watch jools or fireworks! All I want is for my neighbours/randoms in the street to make a load of racket.

ILiveInSalemsLot · 31/12/2018 00:31

It’s just another evening. As it’s also the end of the year, mark it if you wish it or don’t. It’s really not a big deal.
I’ve stayed in on nye for years and most people I know have too.

MarcieBluebell · 31/12/2018 00:36

I'm in. I'm happy about it.

anonanonanonanonanonanon · 31/12/2018 00:43

I'm 19 and staying in, so on the bright side you can't be as pathetic as me Wink not that it's sad to be in on NYE anyway!

mrbob · 31/12/2018 00:46

I am happily staying in! The only fun way to spend new year out I think is camping in the middle of nowhere and being in bed by 10 and that is not an option this year. Instead I shall stay at home, have an early night and then in the morning get up early with the sunrise and go for a run and feel REALLY smug. It makes me happy and that is what the start of a New Year is about- do what you want and something to set the new year positively

Kylieemilyj · 31/12/2018 00:49

Im also staying in alone but I have got work at 730 the next morning and im almost 22 weeks pregnant! My partner has invited our friends round for a few before they disappear up town to see the new year in at the pub! Honestly NYE celebrations are overrated imo... its just another night, or perhaps thats me telling myself that?

Loveweekends10 · 31/12/2018 00:51

We fled the country to avoid it. Unfortunately the hotel are having a celebration. We met a German couple last night so will see the night in with them. Will probably avoid the Brits at all costs! My dh is a night owl. I’m a lark. I’ve always found it really tricky to stay up. Just hoping that I can make it till 12!

Moonstoned · 31/12/2018 00:51

We tend to stay in the village, usually at friends’ parties, but last year DH and DS were ill, so we stayed at home, and DH was in bed by nine, feeling awful. I ended up climbing over the wall into the field next door with a picnic rug and a bottle of port about 11.30, and rather enjoyed myself drunken stargazing. We have an invitation to some neighbours’ party, but I might do it again.

Infinity11 · 31/12/2018 00:53

So much better to stay in and relax than piss money up the wall getting wasted and suffering he next day

everywhichwaybutt · 31/12/2018 00:59

Honestly I’m jealous!!! I’ve got plans for NYE but I’m now regretting not choosing to stay in. The rest of my family decided to stay in and I have serious FOMO haha. Staying in isn’t pathetic at all! It’s cheaper, less of a hassle and can sometimes be more fun than going out Smile

WhatwouldCJdo · 31/12/2018 01:02

I think NYE must be one of the worst nights to go out into bars etc. But I am over 40.

My boys and I are going to mske a Chinese banquet for early evening, then when they've gone to bed I am going to write what I want to a achieve and do in 2019.

It is one night. It is hyped up. - make the others count.

LuluJakey1 · 31/12/2018 01:06

Me and DH are staying in by ourselves. We've got it all planned. We do it most years and since DS was born 4 years ago it's become our thing.

We go out for a walk and have a late lunch in our favourite local Italian restaurant - take DS and DD. Then walk home along the sea front at dusk- if it's still light DS can run along the beach with DH. Home, kids snacked, bathed nad in bed and we have the whole night to do what we like.

We have a drink - but I'm pregnant again (7weeks) so I'll just have one- and some cheese and biscuits, olives, celery, grapes, crisps etc, might play cards, music we like, do the quiz from The Guardian, sometimes we have a dance and a laugh. We always go to bed by midnight with a mug of tea and see in the new year cuddled up.

If he wasn't here, I'd quite happily do the same by myself, including the dancing. Grin

WhenLifeGivesYouLemonsx · 31/12/2018 07:18

I'm staying at home tonight as well.

Wingingeverything · 31/12/2018 07:31

I love staying in on NYE! I can wear my pyjamas, have lots of nice food, watch what I want and go to bed just after midnight. No crowds, saves money and no hangover or tiredness the next day!x

Somersetlady · 31/12/2018 07:34

Cover charges
Drunk people
Long ques to get in
Long ques at the bar
Impossible to get a taxi
Terrible hangover with small DC next day

What’s to love?

I think you have the right idea! I am going out for lunch this year will probably be home in bed by 9 pm!

bertielab · 31/12/2018 07:42

Absolutely loathe it - always have.

They are a number if my friends who for various reasons are in the same boat. The village hall is free and warm. So we take duvets etc over there. Films on for kids on big screen. Games for those that want. Hot chocolate etc kids flop out when they want. No one on their own. At 12.05 lights off and sooe obviously is locked earlier on. The first year we did it wondering what the kids in the village would be like but actually everyone slept until 10am and so we were all a bit amazed As many of us have non sleeping kids. But after an evening of chilling and playing they sleep like the dead! It works so we do it every year now

Chocolatecoffeeaddict · 31/12/2018 07:59

It's just another night. I've stayed in the last few years as I've got kids but I'd probably want to stay in even if I didn't. I hated going out on New Year Eve.

maddiemookins16mum · 31/12/2018 08:01

We’ll be in bed watching a box set by 10pm counting down how long we have to wait until the noisy fireworks stop so we can get to sleep.

pineapplebryanbrown · 31/12/2018 08:03

The best thing is being up and out early dog walking on New Years Day feeling smug and chipper.

It's not cool to be cool!

Jellyonawonkyplate · 31/12/2018 08:12

Always stayed in, when I was younger might have gone to a family party but hated it. Met DP, stayed in, nice food and mostly an early night. Then DC arrived and obviously stay in now. Will never go out for NYE again and very very happy with that!!

Enjoy your evening, OP.

Tiredemma · 31/12/2018 08:14

I am at work until about 9 and feel surprisingly pleased that I have a valid excuse not to be out partying.