Am I pregnant?!

[broodymareisnotmystyle]

Going through my bathroom toiletries section. Found a pregnancy test, I'm ruthless and just wanted rid of the thing so I can bin it. Due on today, took it literally just to use it up.

Looks like a faint line!

What do you think?

The test doesn't expire until 2022.

Thank you

There’s no need to squint at the lines, the final test is an obvious positive and much darker than the others. Not sure why you’d pretend otherwise, but your thought processes seem a bit mixed up.

Thanks all, really not taking the news well.

Not looking forward to the chat with DH. I want a termination 100%, I don't want to be lumbered with another child.

DH is desperate for another baby.

Omg OP!! This is exciting ..surely you can see that?!! ..if you can't see it yet, you soon will when you can see thru the fog of the initial discovery. I was exactly like this. So what are your reasons for not wanting another DC? What does DH think about how you are feeling about it? Can I ask how old you are? I was 41 when I had DS and def feel too old now for another although we've been kind of trying for years. We have issues with jobs and money so another would be crazy now. Best of luck OP x

Maybe see a bpas counsellor before you terminate? It's a shock to discover an accidental pregnancy and I would say from experience that you need a chance for the shock to wear off before you make big decisions. You're only very newly pregnant and you've got time to think it through.
I'm not saying don't terminate I'm just saying give it a little time seeing as you've just found out and it's a surprise.

Omg OP!! This is exciting

Stop projecting. The OP is struggling to come to terms with this unexpected pregnancy. She doesn't know if she wishes to continue it or not yet.

OP, ideally you need to discuss this with your partner, but at the end of the day, the choice is yours alone. Discussing it with someone impartial is a good idea also. There is no wrong choice, but you need to be happy with whichever option you choose to follow.

Boosey how do you think your comment is appropriate in anyway? Someone states they don't want a baby and you bang on about how exciting it is?

Concur with the above - unwanted pregnancies and terminations are in no way "exciting"! OP please ignore this ridiculous post. Hope you are ok and get the right support in whichever decision you make

Definetly darker

Thank you

Boosey I don't want another baby because I just don't want any change it our lives.

DC I have now is fantastic and really portable. I have a great balance of mum, working me and personal me. I like that I have everything organised, clean house, all my ironing sorted. Everything in order generally. I love how I can give my DC one to one and he never has to share me, yet I see him with other children and babies and he's amazing and loves company.

I like what I can afford by having only just the one child. And also, I had a horrific pregnancy for 9 months with DS. Sick every day, nauseous constantly. There's no way in hell I want to chance being like that again. And DS is so small, it would take so much out of me. He would lose out in some way or another if I was constantly ill again, which isn't unlikely.

I've had a lot of losses, some early and some later. I was sick with those too but much milder

It only seems to get worse

No one can tell you what to do, but do think about how it would affect your marriage. If, after counselling, you are sure you want a termination then you need to consider whether telling your husband is a good idea. But please do get counselling before you decide.

OP this happened to me (pregnant despite being on the minipill, 15mo DS at home, had a horrible HG pregnancy first time round). I also POAbout100Ss before I could believe my eyes.

Unlike you I did want a second child so we went ahead. I’m now 3 weeks off giving birth and the HG has been equally horrid this time around BUT it has been survivable with medicating earlier etc. And DS is excited.

Just to say that it is doable if you wanted to do it. And if not, you have options to terminate, thank goodness

Py Can I really get a termination and not tell DH though? Isn't that beyond the pale?

stealthbanana Can I ask what anti sickness tablets you started taking early on? I'm already feeling nauseous this morning

Why wouldn't you tell him? It's still your choice...

I started on metoclopramide as soon as I found out and now also take cyclizine and ondansetron. It’s a bit of a cocktail but i can’t keep anything (and I mean anything) down if I don’t take them - doesn’t fully remove the nausea but much better than barfing the whole time.

stealth Thank you so much

Can I ask why you stopped the metoclopramide and then took cyclizine and ondansetron?

Sorry am still taking the metoclopramide - just added the other two. Added them as by 17w the met wasn’t enough on its own!

Is it beyond the pale? Maybe. But if it were me I would consider whether telling him would be the best thing if I were determined to terminate either way. That probably makes me sound like a total cow but the fact is that if I knew it would really hurt him, and potentially ruin the marriage, would it help him to know? You werent pregnant before and wont be pregnant afterwards, I would be questioning if telling him would just be causing him unnecessary pain. I am just being honest about how I would feel, you must do what is right for you of course. I wish you all the best

Py I think I agree with you 100%

I do think counselling would help, BPAS offer it pre termination and may help you get your head on straight about it all.

Take care love

Oh gosh OP, it sounds like your mind is made up, @PyongyangKipperbang is always very wise, perhaps the counselling would help

@HashTagLil and @WithAllIntenseAndPurposes..rein it in please! This isn't Jeremy Kyle ..or maybe it is! I was only agreeing with tomhazard..
When I was newly preg I felt exactly like the OP in that I wanted to terminate. I was immediately attacked by several people saying I was murdering a new life. So don't attack me for being positive and wishing the OP all the best. She may feel very different later down the line. She has a supportive DH which is great.
OP ..I apologise if I offended in any way. Thank you for explaining your reasons for not wanting to go ahead. Rest assured I won't attack you for wanting to terminate the way others did to me.

I disagree about having a secret termination to avoid a marriage rift. Forever is a bloody long time to keep a secret that enormous. I’m sorry for your unhappy situation, op, but I think it’s much better to deal with it together.

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