Help... At ILs on my birthday

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And I'm sat here bored shitless, anxious and paranoid.

FIL, DH and I had a falling out a few years ago and I feel like I'm in eggshells constantly. And my paranoia is working overtime.

FIL asked DH did he want wine. DH said no as he needs to drop the car at the hotel. And that's it. No asking me. BIL (golden boy who cant do wrong) is wandering around with a drink and I just feel shit

I want to be at home with my parents.

It's my birthday and it may as well be any other fucking day. I basically got a bar of soap for my birthday from them...

fucking argg

Can you drive?

Just tell DH you're sick of being treated this way and leave. You do not have to put up with this you are not a child!

Leave. Just get up and say time to go.

Bloom Yes but not DHs car. I'm 159 miles from home.

I've always understood that my birthday is a bit overshadowed by Christmas and I get that. I do.

But I thought they might have made an effort.

And I'm too polite to say "Oi where's my wine"

That sounds grim. Just go.

We arrived this morning. Staying in a hotel tonight and back home tomorrow eve.

Perhaps it's just them. They never offer a brew for example when you first arrive. To me that's just manners and the norm.

Happy birthday OP! I’m sorry you’re having to spend your birthday like this!!! Why do you need to be at IL’s today? Is it a regular Saturday thing or is it pre-Christmas visiting in place of an actual Christmas get together?

If it’s the former, can you not leave early and spend some time doing something lovely instead?

I feel quite annoyed for you :0(

When can you go to the hotel? Have you got plans for the afternoon / evening that don't involve the ILs?

Send DH to get you wine?

That should highlight their insensitivity to them.

HIt DH with a Christmas candle and tell him to get you a bottle and don't share

We can check in from 3... Have already rung and asked if the room is available early.

It's just so different to what I and my family do. But I should know better... weve been together for 15 years.

I just feel like pants

@GreenTulips... If only I could find a candle lol

Sod that for a laugh!
Get a taxi, hightail it to the hotel & order something lovely to eat /drink from room service! 💐🍸

That’s crap, send DH to get wine.

Happy Birthday

I'm sorry if I'm being daft or maungy

Just fed up.

We are down now for Christmas (we go home tomorrow night) due to the way Christmas and work falls. FILs cancer has returned so I "forgo'ed" my birthday as it was important to me that DH sees his Dad.

Just jestfully shouted at MIL for eating my carrot batons and said I want gin. She said I need to see "the man of the house"

Happy Birthday!
Aren't you pregnant and that could be why they are not offering? (Unless I am mixing you up with someone else and than sorry!)

PonyOh no God... not me!

Sorry
They are not being very hospitable!
I would sneak into the kitchen and drink some gin. It will make your evening go faster!

@PonyPals Yep... and numb the pain. MIL has gone into the garage... Here's hoping

Ah no.... cola (for golden boy no doubt) and roast puddings.

And dinner isn't ready til 2.30. I'm starving

Why can’t you drive your DH’s car?

Pouty Its an estate car. I drive a little hatch and hate big cars

Time to learn! Always have an escape plan.

Where are you when you’re sending these messages? It’s oretty rude to be ignoring them while you sit on your phone.

3pm cant come quick enough.

MIL has just offered DH a drink. Not me. FML...