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DD Aged 5 wants her ears pierced!

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PFB1 · 17/12/2018 20:37

DD is asking me to have her ears pierced. I initially said she can once she's older but she's really keen to have it done.

Is 5 way too young? My mum was extremely strict so I don't feel like I have any guide as to what is reasonable and what's not.

Would appreciate some advice.

Thanks.

OP posts:
GaraMedouar · 18/12/2018 06:35

5 is too young. My DD will have to wait until 16. Lots of little girls in her class have their ears pierced, probably 80% of them.

OliviaStabler · 18/12/2018 06:48

Is 5 way too young?

Yes, way too young. It would be a firm no from me

WanderingTrolley1 · 18/12/2018 06:55

Too young.

When she’s older.

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WeAreSailing · 18/12/2018 07:18

I was finally allowed to have my ears pierced the summer I went to secondary school and it will the same for DD.

I remember my DM getting so fed up with my nagging she said every time I mentioned it she would delay the piercing by 6 months.
Brutal that woman Grin

Angrybird345 · 18/12/2018 07:22

Too young.

Juanbablo · 18/12/2018 07:41

Dd started asking at 5. She had her ears pierced for her 6th birthday. I was allowed when I was 11. I felt that as dd had been asking for a year and knew what it entails then she was ready.

SushiMonster · 18/12/2018 08:16

Her body her choice hun, take her to Claire’s and get her something pretty Hmm

Costacoffeeplease · 18/12/2018 08:18

Way too young, and it looks hideous on small children. 10 years old minimum

DonkeysEars · 18/12/2018 08:20

No.

Racecardriver · 18/12/2018 08:22

It’s a bit naff at that age but that aside I don’t really see the harm if she has asked for it and understands that it will hurt. Be warned that it can go wrong though. I had mine pierced around that age. They didn’t heal properly and kept growing over the earnings and I had to go to the doctors to get ratings removed from my ear lobe. Eventually they did settle but there was a stud backing in my ear (which I didn’t tell my parents about) for about a year.

MakeAHouseAHome · 18/12/2018 08:29

No way I would let mine. For all the pracriacal reasons (aftercare, likely to get ripped put etc.)

But aside from that I personally thimk it looks tacky as hell on young kids.

jessstan2 · 18/12/2018 08:49

I think five is way too young.
Eleven is young enough, when she is going up to big school.

(In some cultures it's quite usual to have a baby girl's ears pierced but that really is different.)

TeaByTheSeaside · 18/12/2018 09:13

She's too young. Mine had hers done this summer and she's 9. It was still a pain in the arse with all the cleaning. At 5 she won't remember not to touch her ears and to always wash her hands before cleaning / turning them.

Then once the 6 weeks has gone you'll have the hassle of changing the earrings and her saying it's sore etc.

Just tell her she's too young and wait a bit longer.

Original poster
PFB1 · 18/12/2018 11:33

Thanks everyone. I spoke to her this morning and explained how the position of the piercing could change when her ears grow & she understood what I meant so she suggested she waits.

Since my mum was so strict, I suppose I've taken the opposite approach where I'll give her the information and sort of trust her to come to the best conclusion (within reason obviously since she's still only young).

Thanks for all the helpful posts.

OP posts:
AngeloMysterioso · 18/12/2018 11:42

I was 6 when I got mine done. No drama or screaming involved

JacquesHammer · 18/12/2018 12:10

I’m a big fan of piercing, have many.

My rule with DD was “as soon as you can get them done properly”. I.e with a needle by a properly trained piercer.

She had hers done at 10 which worked for us.

AlphaJuno · 19/12/2018 07:26

I second what a P.P said and if you do decide, go to a proper piercer and not Claire's. that's what we did. She did use a gun but we went to a proper piercer who I know who works in a tatooist. I think they have better hygiene and experience. Everyone we know who went to Claire's ended up with problems and infections plus it was massively overpriced.

NeverTwerkNaked · 19/12/2018 07:38

My 5 year old is pestering too. She’s obsessed with being glamorous and “fabulous” (ie the total opposite of me). I’ve said not until junior school (at 8) and she’s happy with that at the moment. In reality when she is 8 and we start talking about the practicalities she may well want to wait!
Her step sister has been told she has to wait until 18 by her mum, which seems a bit extreme.

DD has settled on stick on earrings for now and even finds those uncomfortable anyway Grin

Birdsgottafly · 19/12/2018 07:48

My nearly four year old GD was asking to get hers done, so my DD let her.

She loves her earrings. She's picked My Little Pony ones for Christmas. She knows she won't be able to wear them until March. It depends on the child, whether they will follow hygiene rules, as with any rules.

"5 is too young. My DD will have to wait until 16."

She should be able to make decisions before 16. Legally she can ans if you do the whole "not under my roof", like most of MN, she'll leave and won't look back.

Like shaving, ear piercing isn't going to lead to a life of Whoredom. As with clothes, it has no connection to sexuality.

tomhazard · 19/12/2018 07:53

So does my 6 year old DD. Answer is no, she can have them done in the summer before secondary school.

gamerwidow · 19/12/2018 07:56

Good decision OP it really depends so much on the child as to how soon is too soon. DDs were done age 7 and it was such a mistake because she used to have a panic attack everytime I tried to touch them. In the end I took them out when she was asleep and left them out because they were upsetting her so much. other girls in her class had theirs done at the same time and had no problems at all.

Costacoffeeplease · 19/12/2018 08:05

ear piercing isn't going to lead to a life of Whoredom

Who said it did? What a weird thing to say

They look tacky on young children and they’ll probably be unable to look after them properly - nothing to do with ‘whoredom’ Hmm

Thirtyrock39 · 19/12/2018 08:10

Not read full thread but I was told by a beautician who pierced ears that this is one of the worst ages to pierce as they'll fiddle with them and get infected. A lot of my daughters friends had them pierced in years 1 or 2 and there were a lot that ended up closing up after removing the earrings due to infection (and this was after paying £50 at Claire's)
If you do go don't go to Claire's it's a total rip off- try a beauticians

mydogisthebest · 19/12/2018 08:16

5 is far too young to have pierced ears. Just because a child is asking for something doesn't mean they have to have it does it?

I had to wait until I was 15 and I accepted that. Almost all my friends were a similar age too.

I also think earrings on a young child look really tacky

littlemeitslyn · 19/12/2018 08:21

Why would you 'massively regret '? Leave them out and they'll heal over!

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