Have you ever reached a burn out in your job?

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Exactly that?

I think I have, i'm ready to crack.

In a nut shell - I work in a high demand job, little pay and I often have to cover for other people (whom earn more money than me), its also customer service based and the demands are just sole destroying.

Its getting so bad that when an inbound call comes through I feel like i cant even speak, we have meetings today for the 2019 horizon and I can even bring myself to go. I just have no interest. My heart pounds when I have cover the front desk as nearly every customer we get is a complaint or speaks to me like utter shit.

I feel like crying before going to work and on a Sunday I'm a mess. I have never had this before in a job. has anyone else? I feel like I have just hit a wall with the job and.

Long term I will look at retraining (possibly into further education teaching or senco) but for now I’m taking a well earned break from stress!

I worked in a charity for ten years. I loved my job to start with, but after finding cuts and increased caseloads it was impossible to do a good job and the volume of work was unmanageable. I used to wake up and wish I’d get run over on my way to the station so I could have a bit of time off. It got to the point where I needed antidepressants and I was signed off work for a few months, and I didn’t go back.

I’d started to feel that perhaps something was wrong with me and that perhaps I was just useless at being a grown up who gets on with going to work, but now I know that my working conditions were just not acceptable. I took on a trainee position in a new sector after leaving, and despite the terrible pay it’s the best thing I ever did. I LOVE my new career, I’ve never not wanted to go to work, and I managed to work my way up and earn more than I did before and though it’s busy and I have deadlines to meet it’s not the same kind of stress.

@Zofloramummy** that's really good to hear . It gives me confidence to actually go. ahead and do it ... it wont be easy money wise but I need a quality of life.

I dont think social media helps me, I see my cousins in high flying careers, on at least £40k a year and I'm in my job where i can just about pay bills and they live a life of luxury in a job they love. I ned to stop comparing myself and give my head a wobble! xxx

No but a colleague did (law).

She was working ridiculous hours (would go home at 10pm regularly through the week, but sometimes 1am and then be back for 8am), over doubling her targets, never seeing her family, not eating properly, and taking far too much responsibility and pressure.

She just snapped one day and ended up taking 5 months sick leave. She's back but under the supervision of a therapist, and has had to entirely shift the way she views life and work just to make it manageable. She's doing really well now she's back but is constantly paranoid that it's going to happen again so it's really damaged her ability to take on fun pieces of work that she once would have relished, even if they're relatively small and not that time consuming.

She's much healthier now but gets no joy from her job at all, and is fast realising she never really did. Just an adrenaline rush. I think more than anything this has caused her a lot of sleepless nights.

I hope you find a way to make things work for you Op, you aren't alone!

Yes I'm head of a performing arts faculty in a private school. They have nearly finished me off, it's the worst job I've ever had and if it wasn't almost end of term I would be going off sick imminently

I did a customer services job and it messed up my mental health and self esteem for years. I would recommend just leaving, don't do it to yourself anymore.

If you are that on the edge, go to the doctors and get signed off and then spend that time looking for something new. It's not something I would normally advocate but knowing how ill it made me when I had to do this kind of work you can't hang around any longer. People might judge but forget them, if you are feeling like crying before work it just isn't worth it.

14 years in A and E so burnt out that I hated the whole human race pretty much. Crying o the drive into work and absolutely hating my life. I jumped into another job that paid the same to get out but was not what I wanted to do. However, it meant I could get the mortgage I wanted and then get the job I have now and also took a £10,000 pay cut.

I look back and thick 'how the fuck did I stay in that job so long'. I'm incredibly happy and love my job now despite it being a major steep learning curve. Just that feeling of not having heavy shoulders and constant high stress levels was worth the pay cut.

I used to when I worked as a care assistant. Every morning my stomach used to fill with dread and sickness about the thought of going into work, knowing we are going to be short staffed, verbally abused by the residents and team leaders who sit on their backside doing nothing except medications. I changed jobs (took a long time to find one!) but now I feel so much better! The only thought I get is I CBA but I don't get the dreaded sickness feeling

Justwinging, that does sound very similar to the place where I used to work. the monet people become team leaders they just seem to all of a sudden become lazy and so bitchy, no "support" for the support staff.

I did love the support worker role as no day was the same and it was rewarding, its just the staff that made it so hard and the people above!

night shifts petrified me as we were so short staffed and some of the residents very very violent. xx

My profesion is pretty well paid but I'd sell it all down the river to do a job that didn't make me physically and mentally sick with nerves. In fact I will do just that if I can just last another 6 months! My family depend 90% on what I bring home so have to suck it up for a bit longer.....

I used to teach and the last year was just horrendous. Not sleeping Sundays. Getting called into surprise meetings that made me cry. Felt sick all the time.

I took a paycut to leave for another publ8v sector post then was promoted onto more money than I got teaching after 6 months. 2 years later I've been promoted again. Have flexibility and really enjoy the work. Best thing I ever did

NHS here too and I've been hating my job for about 5 years. 'Compassion fatigue' is real and it does not feel good. I arrive at work every Monday morning with my heart in my boots and just dreading the week ahead. And the system is getting worse, not better. Senior managers seem to be more disconnected from the actual frontline workforce all the time

The good news is that I'm changing jobs next year. Still NHS but not patient-facing and in a role where I will hopefully be making a difference, not just fire fighting all the time. I'm hoping to find work enjoyable and fulfilling again, and not to feel the weight of the world on my shoulders all the time

Big hugs to everyone experiencing burnout. It's a real thing and it's hideous

@Lottapianos - fire fighting is exactly what it is.

This thread has helped me feel less alone. I feel so broken by my job

@needsahouseboy what do you do now ?

Its such a relief to know that others have taken substantial pay cuts for a better quality of life.

It makes me feel less guilty about doing it .

Why is some one on more money than you texting you re their sickness?

I’ve worked for more than 20 years in field sales. My most recent job had me driving around 3000 miles a month, 12 and 13 hour days. I hit a metaphorical wall at the end of Oct. signed off sick for a month then decided to leave my job which offered pretty good salary and a company car.
I am currently jobless and carless but starting a new job in jan. office based, less money but much less stress and my mental health will be in a much better place

Me! Currently off sick with stress and anxiety, 5 weeks so far. Unsupportive manager who has a serious lack of empathy.

A constant 140+ bpm for days was enough to tip me over the edge, though it had been building for the last 2 to 3 years.

I've joined a union, which I never thought I'd do. It's like we've gone back in time with bullying, harassment and discrimination and middle/top managers not wanting to know about any of it.

Really want to blurt out what I've been through as it makes me so sad yet angry, though would be too identifying.

People just don't give a shit any more.

I reached that point and went back into education, with an access course first then onto uni. I'm now in my second year, work two days a week and I'm so much happier.

@chuffnstuff me too - it would be too identifying though.

I cant even try to make sense of what theyve done to me , because it makes no sense

@IfOnlyYoursEyesSawSouls isn't it just awful :(

I've given everything and I mean everything to this job and feel totally stabbed in the back.

Some 'customers', not the right word, have been so angry on my behalf, even though I. haven't shared the half of it and said they would write to top. I said do it, but it won't make any difference.

I've actually written an open letter in the third person about how I've been treated these last few years, it's quite a War and Peace effort. Not sure it will ever go anywhere, but I have my moments if wanting to send it anonymously to one of the senior female Execs!

I fear we are in a world where it is all about the externally facing PR and 'Ethics' and 'Values' and in reality it couldn't be further from the truth.

'I feel so broken by my job sad'

It's a truly hideous feeling. No one should ever have to get to that point

Yet it seems to be happening everywhere and more so than it used to.

We seem to have gone from , in my experience, a softly approach, probably a bit false, but there was a shift somewhere to just downright bullying and discrimination.

Hi OP

Your situation sounds rubbish, and I hope you can find something soon. I’ve dropped a PM to you with an idea (feel free to search my history - I’m not a recruitment bot!) x

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