Have you ever reached a burn out in your job?

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Exactly that?

I think I have, i'm ready to crack.

In a nut shell - I work in a high demand job, little pay and I often have to cover for other people (whom earn more money than me), its also customer service based and the demands are just sole destroying.

Its getting so bad that when an inbound call comes through I feel like i cant even speak, we have meetings today for the 2019 horizon and I can even bring myself to go. I just have no interest. My heart pounds when I have cover the front desk as nearly every customer we get is a complaint or speaks to me like utter shit.

I feel like crying before going to work and on a Sunday I'm a mess. I have never had this before in a job. has anyone else? I feel like I have just hit a wall with the job and.

Yes, I had been in a job for over 10 years which had always been stressful but a change in management tipped me over the edge. Filled with anxiety, crying all the time, stressed constantly. Culminated in me giving birth 9 weeks early. Can't know if it was the stress but I blame it. Had massive anxiety attacks whilst on maternity leave about returning and eventually decided not to. I'm in a much better job now and so much happier.

Yes, me. I have never been as close to a complete breakdown as I was this year. I handed my notice in and left, with no new job lined up. Now I’ve started my own business, something I would never have had the guts to do otherwise!

Bottom plasters . I spent 30 years in Oncology and Palliative care Nursing and I am now a benefits adviser for a cancer charity. I love my job and can still use all my Nursing skills and knowledge and communication skills. good luck with getting out, you wont look back. my only regret is not getting out sooner. my life has been changed so much for the better.

Well done on the bravery of no job to go to and setting up your business. These things must be meant to be xx

Its so sad to see how many of us are NHS workers. I used to be so proud of working for the NHS. Now I'm just knackered.

Thanks OP, but it was self preservation rather than bravery! I was desperate and saw no other option.

I really hope that the stories on here that turned out well give you a bit of hope and that 2019 is the year your life turns around for good

A lot of bosses dont understand how demanding peoples jobs are, they don't generally see the effort put in they just see the finished result and money in the bank.

I reach burnout regularly in my job but when I feel its too much I take a long weekend or a week off.

NHS too. Completely burnt out. If I didn’t need the money I would be out but 4 kids who might need put through uni, mortgage to pay ......

I couldn’t even consider moving elsewhere

Yes - I was (see username!).

The following book is excellent. Short, practical, human and well-evidenced. It helped me understand what was going on, and that itself was very helpful. Particularly relevant for conscientious types, as your (our) natural instincts work against us in this case.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/1847092357/ref=cmcrrothrmbbbdcrbtop?ie=UTF8#cmmcrcarousellimages_section

Ex-teacher here

The stress made me physically ill. Like some PP, I resigned with nothing to go to. It's worked out brilliantly for me, but I really had hit rock bottom.

Sounds like you're the one who needs to call in sick tomorrow. Get signed off while you consider your options.

@Zofloramummy ... please can i ask what your job in NHS was ?

Its my 20 yr anniversary this year and im off sick with stress . I cant tell you how ill it is making me .

I have started to look for TA / pastoral roles as im in mental health and will have transferable skills .

Its just that my pay drop about £700/-£800 ... but i cant carry on in the NHS , im so scared that im literally digging my own grave to an early death while im again very literally trying to stop other people from dying by suicide

I dont want to die early and leave my DC for a management structure that is so ruthless and devoid of compassion.

@Babyroobs can i ask what you do now ? I need to leave mental health nursing, it is destroying me.

@OrangeSamphire what was your NHS role ?

@malteserhound iv been off sick from my nursing for 2 months now with stress / anxiety/ low mood .

for your recovery.

Yes! I've been there and it got so bad I quit without anything to go to. Luckily I had a new job within a month. I actually had a mental breakdown due to this job, so please please look after yourself and don't let a job ruin your health, it's not worth it. I hope you find a much happier job in 2019, life's too short to dread Mondays xx

All I can say is that no job is worth forfeiting your health for. I'm now in heart failure brought on by years of ridiculously stressful work that culminated in complete burnout, reduced to being incapable of talking without crying.
Please, please, please don't risk it because it is never worth it. My life will never be the same again 😢

Another senior NHS worker, love my team, my work, but the stress, the blame culture, the mental abuse from Director level is beyond normal. I had a melt down last week, I'm normally so professional, but the emotional abuse and gas lighting is massively taking its toll. I've got health problems, don't know if they are connected or if I'm struggling to cope with the steaming shit pile of political pissing up the wall because of the health issues. Whatever I do I can't win.

I work with such awesome, intelligent, caring, passionate people. The sort of people that really do make the world go round.

Last week however I was done, I now know that I can't please the Directors ever, if I follow their instructions to the letter - they will still find fault and blame. All I can do is to ensure that I do my best for the Patients, the hospital, my staff...for as long as I can manage.....in reality I can see my CV being dusted off next year.

Yes, I did.

I was part of the team building the new, railway across London

I was at work about 70 hrs for weeks on end

It was shit.

@screamingTuesday i could have written your post .
Im a ward manager, currently off sick .
I can never ever go back to it ... youve hit the nail on the head when you talk about gaslighting.

That is 100% how i feel at the minute all the time , that my seniors are gas lighting me .

Yes I did and I wasn't supported. Wish I had done less but I loved the job. It's not worth virtually killing yourself for a job though.

I replaced the NHS with teaching, burnt out in the NHS and leaving tea hing next year - it can't come soon enough.

@burnedout thanks for that book. I have just read it and it helped loads

@Bottomplasters Just read it just now? That was fast! I'm so glad it helped.

NHS mental health here, too. Just dusted off my CV. Will get out next year - increased workload, extracthings added to my job description with no consultation, no equipment or training budget, no desk, no colleagues.

@ifonlyoureyeshadsouls I was a lead occupational therapist for a county. I dropped £20k for the job I have now. Fortunately I’m a single mum so I’m also claiming UC. It isn’t ideal as I’m mortgaged so can’t claim housing benefit but it’s enough to supplement my salary. I also love the job as a TA! I’m in a secondary school and the kids are great.

Most importantly I leave my job at work and drive home stress free.