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Say here things you can't say in real life

497 replies

squirrelnutkins1 · 10/12/2018 19:34

Interested to hear things people really wish they could say in real life, but can't, for whatever reason.

This is a safe space..... let's offload!!

OP posts:
tranquilitybasehotel · 11/12/2018 08:09

If you didn't want to get pregnant and be a single mum from day one you shouldn't have told him you were on contraception when you weren't!

Ahhhhhh that feels better to have finally said what I've been wanting to for the last 5 months!!

Witchofthenorth · 11/12/2018 08:15

L

You are manipulative controlling compulsive liar. You fuck up everything and you're boys need to be away from you. You are a shit mother who always prioritises your drug taking over you're children. I hate you and I hate what you are doing to them. And stop with the cervical cancer shit, you don't have it, you can't even tell us when your appointments are and you don't have an oncologist. Your Facebook posts make me want to stab you, fake woe is me shit. Your an attention junkie. I fucking hate you!

That feels better....

Belini · 11/12/2018 08:20

In the last 9 days I've lost my job, my car & my boyfriend of 7 months has gone back to his ex. I'm a single parent no extended family, I just want to give up. I feel broken, rejected & betrayed by everyone

samanthajonespr · 11/12/2018 08:22

Mum, your judgement and controlling manner make me feel like a horrible mum to my little boy. Even after I crawled my way out of my 2 year PND hole, you still do it. And he's not "ours", he's MINE. Me and C brought him into this world, not you. I'm 15 weeks pregnant and I already am making bad parenting decisions for this baby as well according to you! I love you but you need to back off before you drive us away.

Greyeye · 11/12/2018 08:24

The woman in my town who has bullied me for years still scares me, even though I have finally had the courage to stick up for myself.

I hate having to walk past her house every day.

scissorsandpen · 11/12/2018 08:32

Soon to be EX P : Thanks a lot you utter wanker. You were only able to do your well paid job as I looked after the kids. To sa you would have sorted something if I hadn't is utter bollocks. Now you are leaving and able to retire soon, have shares and a great pension. I have no fecking pension and can't afford the house and am too bloody old to start again. You utter fucking prick.

To my ex friend and so called friend group you are a conniving bitch with a drink problem and you and your sycophants can fuck the fuck off.

feel marginally better

TinyTear · 11/12/2018 08:37

M
Just fuck off and leave me alone, I don't give a shit about you, get the hint
J
I want to shag you and kiss you and I think of you when I shag DH
I
I would love some recognition sometimes, give me some credit and don't set me up to fail

therapysupport · 11/12/2018 08:41

I think that you abused me and I don’t want you around any more . I am frightened to say no to you . All I ever wanted was to feel safe , cared for , loved and supported and to not have to be the adult but you willingly removed all those things and let me become the caregiver . I can’t let myself think about it because I get upset . You ask why I get anxious and take panic attacks . It’s because you set the alarm off twenty seven years ago and I can’t turn it off now . I have to question what else you did to me and I feel physically sick at what I instinctively believe happened to me .

—

You hurt me every single day and I never did anything wrong . I never complained or spoke up for myself . I was just me . I tried so so hard to fit in but i couldn’t do it right . Did you ever think , that actions and words remain in memories ? That fifteen years later I’d walk down the street and remember , and feel so stupid , so small , so worthless ? Always wondering if everyone else thinks the same . Unable to keep a friendship going , because the trust isn’t there . Do you ever remember ? If I saw you now would you remember the day you sprayed whipped cream in my hair ? When you took my bra off in music class ? When you pinned me to the wall and assaulted me ? When you shouted my name , fifty times in front of half the school ? I can’t bear to hear my own name now , as I do remember and I so wish I didn’t .

DoingMyBest2010 · 11/12/2018 08:53

Your child is a fucking disruptive brat and annoys all the other kids in class with her 'ooohhhh you've made too many mistakes, oooohhh I'm the smartest, oooohhhh that sounds like a boring weekend'. I wish you'd taken her out of school like you said you would. I'm fed up with her overshadowing my child's primary education. And your husband is a twat. He's ignorant, rude and quite honestly, pig ugly.

DoneLikeAKipper · 11/12/2018 09:06

That announcement about your pregnancy was done to maximise the hurt it would cause. It worked, I won’t lie, but only for a moment. Now you have a lifetime of hurt ahead, because you are having a baby with a cheating, horrible man who convinced you to terminate two other wanted pregnancies. All those ‘friends’ who are gushing over your ‘good news’ and can’t wait to be ‘auntie’ will be nowhere to be seen when you are exhausted, have no help and you’re begging him to do one night feed as he tells you to fuck off again. You know he will, you know he will be utterly useless as a father. This time though, there will be nowhere to run to. No one will take you in, just for you to take the piss and go back again without even a word of thanks. I feel so sorry for that baby. I have a horrible feeling that the past will repeat itself.

iLoveFoood · 11/12/2018 09:30

Move the fuck out of my way

PawneeParksDept · 11/12/2018 09:40

This is a past one but I still wish I could say it

Look, the reason that your friends back away from you and drop you is nothing to do with the fact that they are shit people or that you are.

There is something actually wrong with you or you wouldn't do the things you deny you do but deep down know.

Your parents should've got you a diagnosis years ago and it's not your fault your DM didn't care and your DF was in denial

It's not your fault but you need access to the right services so you can manage it as best you can and lead a normal life.

I know you know this but no one can tell you, you won't hear of it

User02 · 11/12/2018 10:35

I would love to say this to your faces. I would be shouted down screamed at and possibly physically attacked.
You all had a go at me one way or another because I was a single parent.

NO. 1 - I look at your life and think I am so lucky that I didn't have to worry about my non-existent husband getting drunk and letting the family see the level of alcohol involved in your husband's life. We know that your husband can't be taken anywhere but he is going to be drunk. You never saw that in any blood family member.

(No 2) All you ever wanted was to be with one daft man after another. You didn't think anything wrong with these men not even when they tried to get money from your family. You didn't care when females, including yourself, were hit. If you didn't get money or whatever you kept your children back from your own family. Then you took up with another man. He thinks he has married into people with Assets but we are astute. You are still keeping children back if the family don't react suitably to your demands. You owe a lot of money but not one penny has been paid back. Your friends are still attacking family members and you just don't see it as wrong. when you have females who hit older persons you really have sunk to unknown depths. You never saw anyone in the family so fond of alcohol as you and your males are. Some of them are also into drugs.
No 3 - I thought having seen the carry on of others you would have done better. You started well, liked nice things. Then you met a man He stopped you going to college. You gave us his sob story. You work all hours. He drank and took drugs. He worked sometimes. At least he was almost civil to people. You replaced him with another man. This one drinks more and takes a lot more drugs. Since he showed up you don't let people in your house. It is your house! Why do you let him dictate. You owe money. Having seen the distress caused by No 2 keeping children back you have now started that tactic. It is emotional abuse to child and older people. Your choice.
No 4 - I know that you are at the back of a lot of stuff. I don't accept your "poor me" game You have lied your way through your entire life. You are not a nice person. You are causing harm to children, but that was always your way. You used children in attempts to gain control. You control nothing!!

I wish I had the courage to give them that face to face but at least this way I got it off my chest. There may come a day when I do have the nerve to tell you what I really think of you in your attempts to avoid being a single mum. I am glad that I had the nerve to be a woman alone and it made me strong. I am still strong despite all the nasty derogatory remarks.

Imonaonehorseopensleighhey · 11/12/2018 10:41

I don't know how much more I can take of feeling like this. I don't want to get out of bed. I don't want to answer the phone or open the door. I don't want to visit my mum for Christmas. I'm tired of my children having constant problems that I don't feel mentally strong enough to deal with. I'm tired of not being good enough. I'm fed up of not sleeping. I wish i could be locked away in an institution and not have to worry about it all anymore.

bottleofbeer · 11/12/2018 10:48

Mum, me and my cousin fell out because he's been insidiously nasty to me for four years, nothing I could ever pin point without looking petty but enough so the whole picture made it clear he has a problem with me but won't tell me why. After offering my hospitality to them at xmas and the invite being ignored (again) I snapped and said my long overdue piece.

Now your sister, his mum won't speak to me despite him laying into me SO nastily my jaw hit the floor. Yeah I get it you don't want to fall out with her but telling me I have to expect it because she'll stand up for her son hurts. I'm your daughter, stand up for me, maybe?

Imonaonehorseopensleighhey · 11/12/2018 10:50

Man up, you're ill all the time, I get it, but life has to go on. Its getting me down. I wish I'd never met you. I love you but you're not good for me, you make me ill. I should have stayed and made it work. I miss the old times. My life is so much smaller than it was. I have no support anymore. I hate my life now.

NotAColdWomanHenry · 11/12/2018 11:23

MrStarkIDontFeelSoGood, wow if it wasn't for the "J" I'd swear you've met my ex! :o

Needadoughnut · 11/12/2018 11:25

I sometimes feel like running away and never coming back. I love my life but hate the things I can't change.

trinitybleu · 11/12/2018 11:28

Stay at home til you are properly better please, Wendy. We don't want to catch your "horrendous, continuous" diarrhoea, thank you very much. And the respite from your lack of table manners, whinging and racism has been bliss.

Incognitojustforthispost · 11/12/2018 11:42

To my stepdad:
You are a monster. I hate you and I hate what you did to me. I so so wish you had died when you were first diagnosed. But no, you defied all odds and are still bloody here, making everyone's life miserable. If I cry at your funeral (although I am sure you are bloody immortal and will outlive all of us), they will be tears of relief.

To my sister:
I wish you had a better life with a better partner. Someone who deserves you. Not the absolute fuckwit who makes your life a misery and means you can't really celebrate a family Christmas.

To my soon to be ex-colleague:
I worry about what you are planning. There is a small boy caught in the middle of your "life-plan". If you weren't workshy and lazy and determined to remain a pampered princess, this small boy might be going to a better home.

To my wonderful hubby and children:
I love you will all my heart and I so so wish that my completely fucked up teenage years wasn't blighting my ability to be a good wife and mother.

That is all Sad

JayKayCeeDee · 11/12/2018 11:50

FIL you're boring. Stop knocking on my door without an invite . I am not answering the fucking door in 2019. Go and mither someone else.

BIL you're lazy and I'm not looking after you like you're family do. Grow up

Bil and SIL sorry for what you've been through but you're odious. I'm not coming to your house to be ignored. Fuck off boring twats

Cousin you're not the only one who goes to work. You're selfish and inappropriate. Where's your kids and husband? Oh you haven't got any well stop asking others where there's are then!

Friend you used me as a counsellor and then fucked me off. I'm not arsed with you anymore. 2019 you're not going to be in my life

princessspotify · 11/12/2018 11:50

M you are a bully with serious mental health problem. you found my weakness and exposed it over and over. I believe there is a special place in hell for you.

Skinandbones · 11/12/2018 11:52

Number 1, get your self bloody sorted, have some money left at end of the month and the living room isn't your walk in fucking wardrobe. If nan was here she'd be kicking you arse.

Next, just because you can't see what's wrong with me doesn't mean it doesn't exist, no I'm not been lazy, I just haven't got the will to sort the house out, i just don't know where to start.
And don't go through the bin bags and take the stuff out I've thrown away.

I'm sorry for letting you down.

I'm sorry for dumping on you.

I really wish you were still here, how could I not see you but still love you more than mum.

RosieRoo4 · 11/12/2018 11:55

Mother in law to be - yes I’m a single parent to a disabled DC and I’m not the virgin princess you want for your son but I’m the best he’s going to get because he’s not exactly perfect himself. Please stop your passive aggressive jibes.

MrsExpo · 11/12/2018 12:09

Dear Prostate Cancer,

Fuck right off and leave us alone.

Regards ..... Mr and Mrs Expo

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