Anyone else hate having a larger chest?

[caddywally]

I don't know if I will ever go through with having a reduction but I am so, so sick of my boobs and I have been ever since I hit puberty. They were always been bigger than my peers' and attracted comments throughout school and now seem to have settled at around 34G, which I appreciate isn't all that big compared to some people.

I absolutely cannot, for the life of me, find a bra that is comfortable. I make do during the day but can't bear to wear one inside the house or I can't relax. The problem is, when I do take my bra off, I can feel them hanging off my body and pressing on my stomach. The feeling disgusts me and I want to rip them off. When I'm lying in bed or curled up on the sofa I feel these heavy sacks hanging off my chest and getting in my way. I have backache most days and the feeling of relief when I hold them up is immense.

I dress like a frump and have done since I was about 13. I can't wear a anything with a low neckline, a high neckline, backless, too tight, too baggy, with thin straps. I hate leaving the house because it involves getting dressed, and that involves finding something to stuff my boobs into. They have been saggy since they appeared so I've felt like an old woman since I was a young teenager.

I feel so jealous when I see women with small boobs because it's something I will never have, and have never had basically since I was in primary school.

Thanks for listening to my rant. I'm feeling particularly down about it today and feel like I want to go and claw them off. Anyone else feel similarly?

Not a massive fan of my 32H's but I've learned to support them and what clothing suits me. There's a lot to be said for a correctly fitted bra. Are you sure you're in the right size?

There isn't anywhere near me that does proper bra fittings (other than M&S and Debenhams, who I've heard aren't that fab at bra fittings) but I have done a lot of reading around online and tried to fit myself. Some bras are definitely better than others, but I can still feel them when I'm sitting down.

Yes! I feel exactly the same. I'm about a 32gg. I absolutely hate them. I look fat, frumpy, clothes don't fit. I wear a size 12 bottom and have to get a 16-18 top. My back and shoulders ache constantly. Sometimes I rest them on my arms just to give my shoulders a break and I can actually feel the blood rush into my shoulder muscles. Bras and swimming costumes are expensive and uncomfortable. I have permanent marks on my skin from my bra wires (properly fitted.)
I would have a reduction in a heartbeat if it was financially possible. I wish reductions weren't classed as cosmetic on the NHS as it's really much more than that

Yup, me too. Size 10/12 on bottom, thanks to boobs, I’m a 14/16 on top. Small world problem and shallow of me, but I’d like smaller boobs and my clothes would sit nicer.

I'm a 34F and wear a soft bra at home, it gives very little support but enough to stop it being uncomfortable. Clothing wise I wear v necks, cross over tops & dresses (usually doctored so they don't go too low), scoop necks too. Anything high necked or chunky knit wear makes me look enormous.

I'm not sure if I'd have a reduction if I had the money as I'm a bit scared of surgery in general. If someone could guarantee I'd wake up again, I'd 100% go for it.

I did manage to get them down to a 32DD when I lost weight and got down to a slightly underweight BMI, but it was so difficult to maintain and I ended up gaining weight back, and boobs, back again.

Mine don't shift regardless of how much weight I lose. They've been huge for years and just never changed :(

bagsofbats Does the soft bra have cups? I've tried one before and I ended up getting a squished uniboob that felt just as uncomfortable as not wearing one!

I feel your pain! I absolutely hate having a large chest. I am now a 32 J 😫😫😫 it's ridiculous and makes me look so matronly. Even when I lose weight they don't really get much smaller!

keepingbees Did they change size at all after having kids (if you have any)? I haven't had any yet but wonder if they'll get bigger again. I think I'd want to throw myself off a cliff if they got any bigger!

I hear you.

I was a DD by the time I was 13, having to fend off pervy blokes when I was barely a teen wasn’t fun.

Now I’m 36, I’m around a 34HH but I hate my boobs so much. They’re so revoltingly saggy, but then they always have been. My nipples point downwards which upsets me a lot. It affects my sex life with my husband because I feel so disconnected from them.

I’d have surgery if it was offered, but I would have to lose weight first. I’m really fat at the moment.

Plus, I just hate the way that even if I was thin, with big boobs I either look tarty or frumpy. Seems to be very bard to balance it out. I want to look chic. And I don’t. Ever.

I hate having big boobs too. I get sore underneath, and can't find any bras to fit properly. :(

I wear a maternity bra at home. A royce one. Its fugly as fuck but supportive and comfortable.

Losing weight as you know makes a massive difference. Not only to the size of the damn things, but also how bras fit. I don't think its physically possible to properly support them and have them not look like a shelf for anything longer than about 8 hours when you are big.

I need to lose a stone if not 2. Am currently a 36hh. I feel much better at a 34gg or g. Which would make me around a 12/14.

Weight loss is much less drastic than surgery but bloody hard work to maintain.

Oh yes and my boobs and belly are the last place I lose weight. They get flatter and flatter but not actually any smaller.

You can't beat Bravissimo's PJ tops for relaxing around the house bra free. They keep the boobs from hanging down your front.

In fact have a look at Bravissimo's clothes in general. They're great for those of us who are enormo busted.

The best place I’ve found for my 34Gs are independent shops. Also expensive bras, it really really does make a difference. Currently on my second pair of Prima Donna bras (1 to wash, 1 to wear). They are £££ but feel comfortable all day. No poking or digging, and when cared for properly last along time.

Yes, I hate them too. Just uncomfortable and heavy. I can't bear the feeling of not wearing a bra, I even wear one in bed. But it's so hard to get one that is comfortable.

DianaPrincessOfThemyscira I'm apple shaped so the weight comes off my boobs and belly last, hence me having to lose about 5 stone last time to make much of a difference! I look like an egg on legs.

Frouby I agree. It is so much easier to find a bra that fits when you're smaller and don't have excess fat rolls. I'm not massively overweight (maybe about half a stone) but my body just felt like a much more comfortable place to be when I was smaller.

I’m a 32F, and a size 10. I’ve got very good at dressing to ‘hide’ my boobs over the years- nothing more revealing than round neck tops, etc. I find things like not being able to wear clothes with a button fastening very disheartening.

That sounds difficult OP, I'm "only" a DD and I find that difficult enough. Exercise is painful and I wear an underwire bra 23.5 hours a day, even to bed.

I hate having huge boobs too, but Bravissimo has helped a lot - bras, clothes and Swimming costumes from there just fit, it’s been a revelation!

34JJ here and felt like you until I discovered Panache Tango bras and underwired Speedo swimwear, both through bravissimo. Changed everything, so supportive

@Myshinynewname Same experience then!

I hate my beasts too, before children I was a 34dd then I got pregnant and breastfed and with each pregnancy and breastfeeding they got bigger and bigger. Even losing weight doesn't shift them. Now my 4th baby is 1 and I'm still breastfeeding and they are a 34hh and I hate them. I would go for a reduction too, even thought I'm really scared of surgery but I really for once want to feel good about myself.

I'm a similar size to you, and definitely recommend Rigby and Pellor if you can get to one (and afford what they sell - I paid £60 for one bra). I've also used Bravissimo - cheaper, but the result wasn't as good.

For me, a bra that fits properly makes a real difference. I rarely spend much on clothes, but comfortable bras are the exception!