What incidents from childhood do your family bring up about you growing up that you don't agree with

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My parents always seem to bring up things which I remember as one off incidents but to them are completely character defining of my whole childhood.

Now my DC are getting older they will always roll out the family "legendary" story of one time they asked me to tidy my room as a teenager for some pocket money and my reply was "I don't want the money" - delivered with a follow up line along the lines of how I was so lazy I couldn't even be paid to tidy my room.

It seems to define my whole character for them even though it only happened once!! So annoying!

Please tell me other people have this too? I wasn't a perfect child but certainly not a bloody lazy one and we used to do loads of jobs around the house.

I was apparently spoiled rotten as a child and teen.

Supermarket value brand sanitary towels, men's cheap bic razors, new trainers only when the soles were literally worn away on my current ones, yeah I was so bloody spoiled. I get so angry I don't even reply when they bring it up.

I lost a key to my Granddad’s house when I was 14.

My mum frequently comments “well you know what you are like with keys” because of this, even though I am 40 and have yet to lose another key!!

(Although my mum is wonderful and this makes me laugh and eye roll rather than upset me.)

Oh my god the keys thing, yes!

If you try and defend yourself as well it makes you look like a mardy child, but if you say nothing it makes you seethe with annoyance!

Loads, my mother insists that I was horrible and never ever listened, because when she said "fine, you can go!" Or "fuck it, do what you want!" I took that for a given. She says it was clear that she didn't mean it, and I took advantage , knowing I could manipulate her. I was a CHILD. I didn't understand the nuance or martyrdom then.

She also insists that when I left at 14- after we argued and she told me to get the fuck out of her house, she didn't want to see me again - that I was self absorbed and ran away no mother, I listened to your direct instruction!

I too lost a key when I was about 14 and my dad went batshit and changed all the locks in the house just in case someone had shadowed me home from school to check where I lived

I also ONCE overslept about the same age and my mum will still come and wake me up if I ever stay at theirs “because I wouldn’t like you to oversleep that time you....”

And there was one very small occasion involving tipping a Monopoly board over which has defined me as the sore loser of the family and even now the family won’t let me play it

In defence my siblings are also painted as goody-two-shoes-know-it-alls and lazy-gets respectively

I was an awful baby, never slept, was really sick all the time....never would have had another if I'd been the first....
Maybe I had a dairy allergy?! Like my son fuckers

My mum was just reminiscing (otherwise known as putting me in my place) the other day how I was always the one to get nits. I got it once and I caught them off my sister.

I was always selfish...my parents tell me often. Hurtful

Yes, me! When I was about 10 I went through a phase of liking dolphins - I think off one birthday I asked for dolphin related things (a poster for my bedroom wall, a dolphin notebook, etc). This dolphin liking phase lasted approx 4 months.

My family have taken this to mean that I have a dolphin OBSESSION. Every Christmas/birthday since then I get given dolphin cushions, dolphin mugs, dolphin calenders, dolphin shaped soap, dolphin shaped candles and various other dolphin tat.

I am now 39, I live in a house with zero dolphin related items anywhere in it. My family visit, they see the inside of my house and the lack of dolphins Yet I know that come the end of this month there will be a pile of dolphins under the Christmas tree for me as they know how much I love dolphins .

I feel I am somehow being trolled by them but because I've been brought up to receive presents graciously I can't stand there and scream that I no longer love dolphins and haven't for the past 29 years!!!

Sorry but the Dolphins has made me lol Why do they get us so wrong!? Poor you!

I may be wrong but I think sometimes when the same things are brought back up a lot, it's because they don't have many other stories to tell, which is quite sad really.

There's always that one person that says "remember that one time when ..." and you think "yeah because this story is brought everytime you say "remember that one time when...". If that makes sense?

I think you must be in my family OP

When I was 10 we had a family holiday to Italy and I was sunburnt to the point of having blisters all over my body. My mum insists to this day that it's because I refused to put suncream on because I wanted a tan I've never been inclined to have a tan, and even if I did say this surely it's up to my parents to put cream on me anyway at 10! So I burnt very badly. She was even telling people on the holiday "it's because she wanted a tan" and I thought at the time "huh?? No I didn't".

My family have this policy whereby if you do something once then that is the measure of your character for the rest of your life. For example, I laid in until 1pm at age 17, once, and now I'm forever branded as lazy, "lies in until late afternoon that one". I'm now in my 30's and they still say it.

Mind you in my family your worth is measured by how early you get up, I could murder someone and they'd be less disappointed in me than if I got up at 9am.

There was a family story about dbro. Always told about dbro. Then one day he had a teenage strop about it not being him, and dm backtracked and said "well it was either you or Witch".
Since then they always say it was me, even while commenting that it was out of character for me and would be much more like dbro

I was apparently spoiled rotten as a child and teen

I find it odd when people criticise children for this, surely it's a failing on the part of the parents when it's true?!

My family always say I’m not funny and can’t take a joke. It’s because I was teased relentlessly by them all and it used to be so overwhelming I would occasionally burst into tears out of frustration! So now they always bring up how I cry when they make jokes.

Jokes on them! I’m a hoot, but they wouldn’t know, I keep all the good jokes for people who appreciate me and my humour!

The dolphins one made me really laugh! It does make me wonder if I’m guilty of doing the same things with some people’s presents too!

Oh god @ClickyJoints my friend has exactly the same but instead of dolphins its Eeyore! She liked Eeyore as a child for about a year and now aged 31 she still gets Eeyore crap bought for her, despite having no interest in him whatsoever. She once had a new boyfriend and on their first Christmas, before seeing him on the night she text him complaining about all the bloody Eeyore stuff she'd got yet again. When she went to his he'd bought her a giant £100 Eeyore teddy bear - he'd asked her mum for advice! She was

That I used to cheat at cards.

No, I was just fucking good at it.

Oh my goodness it has made me so happy that other people have this.

My mum told me my entire life that I was a horrible baby (and had ruined her life). I was clearly very unwell, but she has put it down to my character. And tells me all the time. It’s an awful thing to say to me as clearly I couldn’t control it.

Oh god my mum thinks I'm obsessed with Eeyore too! For like a summer my friend and I went through a Winnie the Pooh phase (she liked Pooh) and it's stuck. I'm now 37 fortunately I can pass the soft toys onto my DC.

My friend has this with those hideous “me to you” bears and has zero interest in them. She went to her own hen do last year to find they’d themed the whole thing around the bears cos of her supposed love for them

I can't go on a night out without my mum asking me 'did you get drunk?' because apparently I am still a student at 48. Also supposedly I always get up late (even though my family also moan when I phone them too early in the morning).

Mum says they made sacrifices to support me through uni, actually I lived on my grant and loan and they gave me £450 during the whole 3 years. But of course that £450 was 'bailing me out'.

I have a 'dolphin' too, only it's a unicorn in my case. Went through a phase as a teen and my mother and sister (and others) would buy me unicorn figurines. After a while my mother banned people from buying them for me, then got one for me for the next occasion as she couldn't think what else to get.

This phase was about twenty years ago. Last Christmas, what turned up among my presents from my sister and mother? Lots of unicorn things. Why????? I did tell my mother a few months ago that I really didn't appreciate them, but she told me I had to still like unicorns for this Christmas. Great!!!

More recently, a few weeks after my nan died I had to go to a wedding, which was near to where I'd spent the previous year living, so I decided to go back for a few days. The previous few months had been tough and I really needed a few days on my own (am an introvert). My mother, who'd I'd spent the whole summer with up to this point wanted to meet me up there but I said no. Maybe I was being selfish, but she had options of other places to go (such as my sibling's) and if she'd come with me the whole purpose of me going (to have time on my own to grieve) would have been lost. A few years later, after I'd moved away, a cousin asked her if she was going to visit me. Her response - I'm not allowed! All because I'd asked for a few days on my own.

That I can’t be trusted with pets because my mum “always” ended up looking after them while I flounced off. The reality: three years caring for a pair of incestuous former lab mice; my mum had to top up their water and add pellets twice when I was off on school tours.

Her response - I'm not allowed! All because I'd asked for a few days on my own.

@TimeIhadaNameChange I hate when they say things to other people that aren't true too because it winds me up that other people would believe it!

One of my DC has a November birthday so I get pestered from early summer on what they want for their birthday. I always say it's not worth me asking them too early as it's bound to change so I can either tell you 3/4 weeks before (which I think is ample time to get a gift!) or just get a surprise.

Mum bought a gift I said DC liked and when it was opened up in front of everyone people were asking about the toy and saying "oooh what does that do" etc... and showing an interest.

My mum then made a point in front of the whole family of saying "Oh I don't know know, we were just following instructions" [gestures to me] making it sound like I had told her she HAD to buy this bloody toy! It was only an idea I gave her because she was constantly asking me! 😩