What incidents from childhood do your family bring up about you growing up that you don't agree with

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My parents always seem to bring up things which I remember as one off incidents but to them are completely character defining of my whole childhood.

Now my DC are getting older they will always roll out the family "legendary" story of one time they asked me to tidy my room as a teenager for some pocket money and my reply was "I don't want the money" - delivered with a follow up line along the lines of how I was so lazy I couldn't even be paid to tidy my room.

It seems to define my whole character for them even though it only happened once!! So annoying!

Please tell me other people have this too? I wasn't a perfect child but certainly not a bloody lazy one and we used to do loads of jobs around the house.

I'm a total drama queen according to my Mum because I was basically a typical stroppy teenager. I'm in my late 30s with a mortgage and two kids and yet any problems I might have are dismissed by her as me being a drama queen. I don't bother talking to her about anything serious now.

My DM will often say how I was a lovely girl until I was sixteen and then turned into an unmanageable nightmare.

The truth is that at sixteen I developed severe depression and started self harming. Nobody tried to help me. I just wanted to die.

The last time she brought it up was when reaccounting the tale to my four week
old, premature DD whilst we were in NICU. I pointed out the truth of it and she put DD down and left!

Oh, that I had planned to marry my mum's friend's son - i was then 4, he was 5.
it was that said friend once asked "Fish, will you marry Johnny when you grow up?" I apparently replied Yes to that. Adults made a big hoo-haa about it and still remember up to this day. And i'm like -- really? did I even know what "marry" meant at age 4?

I have to listen to this from my in laws about my DP it really bugs me. Last time they were telling me the same story yet again about a falling out they'd had (he was an adult and not a stupid thing to be annoyed about) I actually said why don't you tell me a positive story about him and they went quiet!!! And they wonder why he struggles with showing any emotion towards them

Mine are a bit trivial but recurring:

I used to like Blackjack sweets (amongst others), Bourbon biscuits (amongst others) and After Eights (again amongst others). Aged under 10.

What do I receive for birthdays/ Christmas/ any occasion? ....you've guessed it.

My DSis was a secret bully and so I would have to pipe up and speak out in the company of grown ups (think along the lines of 'you're adopted', ' you don't look like mum and me' etc). I would say it, and God bless my DGrandma, she was the only one who believed me. Needless to say my DM and DGrandma did not get along, and there would be periods of up to 3 years where we didn't see her. My DSis still says stuff when it is just us. And I am still known as the 'brazen one'. When i needed help due to bullying at school and then later at work in academia, my DM was like 'well you don't need my help, you've always spoken up'. I just needed someone to believe me and accompany me to see the head of dept. Thank God for my DH.

My dm always told me I was an awful toddler, impossible to manage, constant tantrums etc. Much of this appears to be based on one incident when aged 2 they took the sides off my cot and I kept coming out of my room so apparently they put the stair gate across my bedroom door and I stood at it and screamed till I fell asleep.
Then I had ds. Who to me was pretty good but did obviously engage in some toddler behaviour. Suddenly I got "Ooh he's very badly behaved isn't he, you never behaved like that!",

"you always were a fussy eater" BECAUSE I HAD PROVEN ALLERGIES! The 'hilarious' thing about this is that my mum actively managed my food intake so I didn't get ill, but she still maintains to this day that I was and am fussy

Not so much something that is brought up, but something that is completely ignored in DH's family. MIL was caught out cheating on FIL, left family, blanked her own children on the street, and essentially kidnapped youngest DC from babysitter to keep her close.
Now all we hear is what a lovely childhood everyone had I still can't quite understand how all the children have welcomed her back into the fold, and just try to keep out of it all.

I was another "fussy eater" and my siblings "ate anything"

Actually I was far more likely to try something unusual and even more likely to like it.
We had a very "straight English" diet with not a huge variety. But we had brown sliced bread or mashed potato almost every meal. I really don't like either to a point it makes me feel quite sick. Mum was quite aware I didn't like either.
I remember my grandparents taking us out for a posh meal, and looking in delight at the huge menu and swithering between trying something new or something I knew I liked but didn't get at home.
My dsis chose something we got at home and my dB announced he didn't like anything and why couldn't we have gone somewhere with sausages.
Yet I was the fussy eater.

Oh my goodness! I thought it was just me who had these issues! My DM loves to remind me (and all her friends) how good she is at getting up with me children when we stay with her, as I am so lazy and need a lie in! I have maybe taken her up on her ‘offer’ 5 times in about 8 years! Usually, I’m up clattering about with the kids from about 7am and she finally gets up about 10!!
She is also surprised every time I mention eating pork, as I don’t like it apparently! I didn’t like it up until I was about 12. I’m 37 now!

On two occasions during our childhood I wasn't nice to my sisters. I "forced" one to eat something she didn't like. I'm not sure why (was I told to get her to eat something while our parents were out?). She claims it scarred her and no longer eats one component of that dish but still eats the other
On another occasion I copied something I'd seen in a cartoon and pulled their ponytails / grabbed them by the ears type thing. I was about 9 so it probably wasn't too sore but obviously not acceptable.

These are the only two stories ever told about our child hood. They were even mentioned in speeches at my wedding. My mother clutches her pearls and gasps every time.

Apart from that I was not mean towards them and we obviously had arguments etc. That these two incidents stand out show that they were totally uncharacteristic. In my adult life both my sisters have been horrible to me - to the point of making me cry with vicious words by one and ignoring me for months for a perceived slight by the other (I'm still Low C with her). But these stories still come up every year. What about the times I read them books, played with them, shared my clothes and toys, bought them things, took them places? Nope. Forgotten