Find out or have a surprise?

[Bunnymumma]

DH and I have been planning to find out the sex of our bub all along, but have both suddenly thought that maybe a surprise would be nice. Our nursery is going to be all white and green, so no 'gendered colour' issues to worry about at all.

What did you all do? We kind of think that it won't change anything by knowing, so shall we just keep it quiet on Monday or find out? x

I'm finding out, but mainly for practicalities and to prepare all the other kids

@BirthdayKake That makes sense. This is our first, so maybe a bit of mystery will be ok!

I don't get the surprise thing... whether you find out at the scan or birth, it's still a surprise!

Find out when it arrives, it's nice to have an extra suprise after all the birthing is done.

It's a surprise whenever you find out. I find it massively bonding to know the sex and name them before birth.

I’ve done it both ways and either way is fantastic but I liked having a surprise just a tiny bit more.

So I vote surprise.

I liked knowing, made everything more real for me and I felt more connected.
TBH I cant stand people who dont find out, Its a surprise regardless, and you equally cant wait to meet your baby even if you know the sex.

‘I cant stand people who dont find out,’

REALLY weird comment.

Didn't with my first. Did with my 2nd and 3rd.

Have to say there was nothing quite like seeing my firstborn for the first time and finding out baby was a boy.

Of course meeting my other 2 baby's was equally as special, but the "surprise" was a wonderful part of the experience. That said I was 99% sure my first was a boy and I'd have been floored if they had told me I'd delivered a girl.

For practical reasons we found out with DC2 and DC3 (we moved when I was pregnant with DC2 and room sharing was an issue with DC3)

It doesn't matter what you decide though, meeting your baby for the first time is always such a life defining moment (whether you know the sex or not)

MessyBun247 yawn..is it literal o'clock?

I didn't find out with of mine and it was amazing having that discovery moment. I vote surprise.

I cant stand people who dont find out

I know what you mean! I find it a little bit precious to be honest!

I found out. I didn't like the thought of the sonographer knowing and not me. Even if they'd forget it within 5 minutes.
It also made name shortlisting easier.

You'll be getting a surprise though.At the scan! A lovely 'early' surprise.We were convinced we were having a girl and found out was boy at 20 week scan so we were blown over lol

Turns out I have less than zero willpower so I found out with all three. For me, it makes it more real but some want that moment at the birth and that's fair enough!

Surprise x 2 for me but each to their own.

@onlyFools that is a seriously aggressive comment! You do know that finding out is a relatively recent phenomenon? Personally I find people who find out pretty odf

When I had my Dd, finding out the sex in advance had just been introduced in our maternity hospital. I was absolutely adamant I didn't want to know. DH felt the same!

Wouldn't have changed that moment of discovering we had a dd for the world! 🥰

I always say each to their own but I still think finding out takes away some of the "Magic". but I'm very old fashioned with things like this anyway

Oh you wouldn't stand me then, surprise surprise surprise.

Due date with 2nd today, didn't find out with first and don't know with second. Like the extra surprise after giving birth and with my first midwife got husband to look and see and tell me which was lovely.

a seriously aggressive comment

‘I cant stand people who dont find out,
What a bizarre comment

I vote for a surprise! We didn't want to out but then had to have harmony test so found out then. We didn't tell a single other person that we knew so it was a surprise for everyone other than us! Don't get me wrong I don't think it would have made much of a difference but I think if we have any more we wouldn't find out if possible and have a real surprise next time

I had no choice but to find out - the first image on the screen at our scan looked like something a teenage boy would draw on a bus shelter. The sonographer moved the probe quickly and spent the rest of the scan trying not to laugh, and she was so relieved at the end when we confirmed that we'd wanted to know - she said that she always told parents it wasn't a 100% guarantee but that in our case there was no need for that proviso. I found that I bonded with him much better once I knew - he suddenly became a little person rather than an anonymous bump.

Oh also I was always aware I would get told which it was, and they'd be wrong which would impact what I'd bought, name, bonded etc

also finding out being a relatively recent phenomenon is because of the technology.