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Would you leave baby alone?

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Mississippilessly · 28/11/2018 10:10

I have agreed to go and pick up a parcel for a friend tomorrow. DS is 10 weeks. I am going to have to take my DH so someone can stay with the baby - the parcel is too big for me to take him in. This seems crazy. Could I lock the car and run in? I have only just thought of itm

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HauntedPencil · 28/11/2018 20:42

You were all having a lovely time earlier having a go at OP.

Redsky has been rather unpleasant on this thread and it's little surprise her posts have the reaction they have got.

Mississippilessly · 28/11/2018 20:42

throw shade. Proper lol.

Yes. I am sticking up for myself. Hope that is ok. If you would like to come round and ask my DH how I have been today feel free.

Christ alive you are patronising.

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Pebblesandfriends · 28/11/2018 20:43

No you can't leave a baby in the car alone. You can ask for help.

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Nicknacky · 28/11/2018 20:45

Oh and one of my daughters accidents happened when she was alone in a room with my husband in the kitchen. We didn’t have the “authorities” involved for that one either.

AuntMarch · 28/11/2018 20:46

If your car is in sight that is not the same as leaving the baby alone completely unsupervised.

I can only assume some posters are super human, given that they must not be taking their eyes off their DCs long enough to sleep.
Even in nurseries the statutory framework states that children should always be in sight or hearing of adult, and usually both.

HauntedPencil · 28/11/2018 20:49

I feel saddened that Dream was so disparaging for my suggestion earlier that she was just here for a fight, however has now used the term "throw shade"

I hope it's ironic.

bookswinebookswine · 28/11/2018 20:51

Tell your friend no?

TulipsInbloom1 · 28/11/2018 20:53

Id just leave the baby at home with dh. Feed before leaving. Feed on return.

frogsoup · 28/11/2018 20:54

Haha, yes Capri Sun. I got a detention for skiving the last day of summer term in 1991, and what is more,
young lady, its on my 'permanent record' Grin I still weep to this day about my poor, sullied record.

bumblingbovine49 · 28/11/2018 20:57

Where I pick up parcels the car would be parked outside the door and the counter is right by the door. The car would be visible through the door. In fact it is about 5 steps from the car to the counter In that situation I would leave the baby in the car

AuntMarch · 28/11/2018 20:57

....you can't breast feed while driving anyway, can you? Not at 10 weeks anyway, hard to balance them between one knee and a boob and keep your eyes in the road.

Caprisunorange · 28/11/2018 20:57

And I bet it gets brought up in every job interview you have frog! You’ll be nothing with a sullied permenant record young lady

HauntedPencil · 28/11/2018 20:58

I'm doing a FOI request for mine.

Anyone know where they keep all our files?

Mississippilessly · 28/11/2018 20:59

Aunt i wedge him in with a pillow. Works a treat

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dream2 · 28/11/2018 20:59

All the LOL for 'Throwing shade', disappointing most of you didn't understand the reference!!! 🙈

HauntedPencil · 28/11/2018 21:00

It's easier on a motorbike, you can pop them between the handle bars.

I bet on a motorbike you could ride right on in that post office.

EwItsAHooman · 28/11/2018 21:10

they would pull out that file

That imaginary file again.

Are there multiple copies of it for every single agency involved to be able to view it at will? I'd wager a big fat no.

One of my child sees a multi-agency medical team on a regular basis and I had to sign all sorts of permission forms to allow each agency to share records with the other agencies. Also had to sign forms for them to request records from agencies no longer involved. Every time a letter or a report is produced by one agency I have to give permission for it to be shared with the others.

The agencies involved include school, SALT, neurology, child development, paediatrics, OT, dietician, physiotherapy, CAHMS, sleep clinic, school nursing team, SEN support from the LA. None of them has access to the others records.

There is no joined up file that all agencies have access to.

In the last couple of years we have had some of the following hospital visits:

  • DS fell down a flight of stairs at the leisure centre and wouldn't/couldn't bear weight on his leg. I wasn't with him at the time, I sent him up to use the loo while I waited at the bottom with my other DC. Thankfully no break but he was badly bruised and sore.
  • three days later DS fell down our stairs at home while trying to demonstrate (unasked) to DH exactly how he came to fall down the leisure centre stairs, cut his head on the cabinet in the hallway when he hit it so back to hospital
  • DD put a bead up each nostril, I got them out but then she announced she also had one in her ear and I couldn't reach that one so had to go to the walk in to have it removed
  • my other DS was running with the hosepipe, unsupervised in the garden while I was making sandwiches for lunch, I could hear then but not see them. He tripped on it and cut his arm on the edge of the flowerbed, needed a couple of stitches
  • DD tripped over another child at dance class, head first into the mirror and had a huge egg on her forehead. She had a nosebleed a few minutes later, in hindsight almost certainly due to the impact, but one of the staff took her to A&E and rang me to meet them there (I wasn't even on the premises when it happened, total neglect)

Then various trips to out of hours or the walk-in when they've taken ill and haven't been able to wait until the GP is open. We've also had a couple of incidents of swallowed objects and non-food items, mainly the DS I mentioned above who is a chewer and sometimes accidentally eats things he shouldn't.

None of them have been identified as being at risk, no one has been to investigate me, no concerns have been flagged.

The absolute most follow up I had was when the health visitor rang me to have a laugh about "quite the weekend you've had!" when DS fell down the stairs twice within the space of three days.

Mississippilessly · 28/11/2018 21:13

I am really hoping DS doesnt end up with my co-ordination, otherwise we will have reserved spaces at A&E

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Orangesox · 28/11/2018 21:16

Clearly the only sensible option is take baby in with you, kindly ask someone to help you to the car with the parcel... goodness me what a palaver!

Most places are more than happy to oblige, although I’m a little confused why said item can’t be put out for redelivery at a time when either your friend will be at home, or when you can be there with baby to take delivery of item? Presumably friend lives closer to you than the parcel depot?

HauntedPencil · 28/11/2018 21:17

My DS could trip over his own shadow.

Caprisunorange · 28/11/2018 21:17

Tbh I’m amazed people are even suggesting that. I’ve never been in any kind of parcel depot where staff will help you carry your parcel to your car Shock

Mississippilessly · 28/11/2018 21:19

Orange there is no palaver. I asked a question and all hell broke loose and then it was suggested i dont love my child enough. I was pretty chilled about the whole event.

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GrumbleBumble · 28/11/2018 21:19

Ewalts when mine fell down the stairs aged 10 month (I was running his bath the stairgate was closed I'd checked it had click shut but in the wake of the incident we found to my horror that a small finger poked in just the right place opened the gate) I got a follow up call from the health visitor that went "I got back into the office to be told I'd missed I call from A& E reporting that one of the babies on my list had fallen down the stairs and I said I bet it was mini Grumble." She told me not to feel guilty (I did) and said I bet this isn't the last time I have to call you (it wasn't). He dyspraxia diagnosis surprised neither of us!

Orangesox · 28/11/2018 21:22

Parcel depots help me carry parcels out all the time Hmm I use a walking stick, I can’t carry a box that requires two hands to pick up, equally can’t sit in all day on the off chance a parcel will be delivered... most of the time I don’t even have to ask, they just offer Blush

HauntedPencil · 28/11/2018 21:31

When DD was tiny, I went to get a cake from M&S bloody hell I was besieged with help from the staff. They just wanted a squish.

About 5 minded her while I ran my cake out.

I didn't check it they were DBS checked but there was 5 over 60s and there was CCTV so I think it was fine.