Would you leave baby alone?

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I have agreed to go and pick up a parcel for a friend tomorrow. DS is 10 weeks. I am going to have to take my DH so someone can stay with the baby - the parcel is too big for me to take him in. This seems crazy. Could I lock the car and run in? I have only just thought of itm

And ew - say if someone then reported you for leaving your child at a petrol station - or the school notices your child is coming in a bit unkept - then they would pull out that file and see the pattern and investigate you properly.
This is how the new hubs work - they are multi agency and cross authorities designed to pick up more than one thing

Nick- my kids are under 4. I agree when older you teach them safe ways of working.

There is no such file ffs!!!!

your child in intensive care not mine

Delightful.

red My youngest is 4. She’s in the kitchen with us every day.

"Tbh it gives me a sense of security that so many of you do these things - it’ll be your child that ends up in intensive care not mine."

That is VILE. A child could choke on a fucking glass of water, you know that? And actually it'll be your child at greater risk, ultimately, because when inevitably you are distracted, your child will be the one who grabs a hot pan or runs into the road because mummy thought a hermetically sealed environment was somehow safer than teaching them to deal with risk. But a hermetically sealed environment does not exist, no matter how deludedly you try to create one.

Miss and op - which is fine. You do your own assessments. I have had a child in intensive care - hence why I would do everything to avoid it again.

If you don't want your children to pull pans of boiling water on them the normal sensible response is to make sure that the child can't reach a pan handle and educate them on the dangers, the bonkers reaction is to ban them from the kitchen during cooking.

Your children will grow up unable to assess danger for themselves which in itself could be dangerous

Why don’t you just leave baby at home with DH?

What you are taking about has nothing to do with what this thread is about.

No, I seriously doubt that buying petrol is taken into account. I have friends who are child protection social workers that do it.

People are telling you they've had advice about Ofsted about it.

Stop making things up.

And I do teach them to avoid and mange risk themselves - it’s a really big part of being a parent.
But leaving a baby in car because you can’t be bothered to unbuckle them and carry them in with you - completely preventable risk imo

@Redskyandrainbows67 children under 14 are banned from petrol stations round here (outside of the car) abs taking baby only works if you have 1 - a toddler and newborn twins is a different matter.

Re post office and one baby, I'd use a sling or enlist help from a friend.

Mother - I’d use a pay at pump with that amount of young kids

That is fine if you prefer it but there is no safety issue from paying at the counter. None.

The not letting them in the kitchen whilst you’re cooking makes no sense tbh. It obviously means you’re leaving them unattended whilst you cook, Which is exactly the thing you’re so against

capri Very good point. Red puts herself at risk of being prosecuted if any thing happens by her own viewpoint.

Capri - it’s open plan I can see them at all time

OP, I feel for you.

These threads tend to attract twats, pious twats, smug twats, bullshitters, and insecure holier-than-thou types.

We all have to make judgement calls. You will make the right one for you, whatever that is. Your baby will be fine.

Seeing as you are now worried, I'd suggest parking at the door and taking baby in, and trying to get someone to help you. Or bring your DH and make it a trip with lunch etc.

And actually, it's not because people "can't be bothered" to unbuckle a baby.

Maybe at some stage you could hold a conversation without resorting to being provocative.

Of course it is. I'd say a good half of the posts you've made on this thread are utter bullshit.

Tbh it gives me a sense of security that so many of you do these things - it’ll be your child that ends up in intensive care not mine

Why would you say that - why would you even think it? What's the matter with you? Seriously. I worry for the mental well-being of anybody who thinks it's acceptable to say something like that.

I've had my kitchen removed, it's too risky. I strap my children upright and spoon tiny amounts of purée into their mouths to minimise choking risk.

Really - because I have been in intensive care with my child already. As I have explained. We were there from a virus but I’d say 50% of the other child were there from accidents - I’d never want to be back there because of something I hadn’t done to take care of my child.

red You really need to stop being so sanctimonious.

And as I talked to those parents - each of them thought that it would never happen to them. But it did.