Would you leave baby alone?

[Mississippilessly]

I have agreed to go and pick up a parcel for a friend tomorrow. DS is 10 weeks. I am going to have to take my DH so someone can stay with the baby - the parcel is too big for me to take him in. This seems crazy. Could I lock the car and run in? I have only just thought of itm

sylvanian that is pretty irresponsible. They can choke 9n spoons. You really should be feeding it to them in your mouth. Like penguins.

Glad I have helped someone today.

Who the hell asks a new mum to make a 90 minute round trip to fix their fuck up for them anyway

But the only way to keep babies out would be a gate on the kitchen. So they’re not really being supervised are they? It’s not like they’re 3 or 4 and can sit mesmerised in from of miraculous ladybug whilst you cook

Like penguins 😂

But what caused your child's virus? Was your risk assessment up to scratch?

Did you wash their hands enough?

Did you allow them out, to mix with other virus-laden humans?

Did you get all the right medical attention at the first sign of illness?

No-one would really suggest that a parent is responsible for a child becoming ill, but it doesn't feel nice, does it? A bit like when you wish accidents on other people's children. Please be more thoughtful, and more kind.

I can imagine that was a scary experience but you cannot eliminate any possibility of accidents.

I wonder if you are projecting that on it this thread. Many accidents happen through no real fault of the parent.

It's also completely irrelevant really to the point of this thread.

You do seem to be going out of your way here to try to make other people feel bad/guilty over perfectly reasonable questions and choices.

Most of us on here actually do think it will happen to them, that’s why we risk assess and make sure our children know how to deal with risk themselves as they grow up.

😂 thank you Mississippilessly, I feel bad now. How could I have done that. I guess I just don't love my kids.

But leaving a baby in car because you can’t be bothered to unbuckle them and carry them in with you - completely preventable risk imo

Except you've simply switched one risk for another.

I’d use a pay at pump with that amount of young kids

Surely they wouldn't be in the car at all given you don't take any preventable risks.

You continue to leave your children alone in a car and I’ll take mine - each to their own.
And yes is the answer to the above - if I hadn’t been so viligent and cautious my child would have died.
Hence you do what you want with your kids. I’ll do the best I possibly can for mine even if involves a bit of extra hassle taking them with me.

That's not what you said. And I don't think that's what you meant either.

And I honestly don't mean to be patronising, but your children are all under 4. You're a relatively inexperienced parent yourself, yet you're lecturing others. You literally have no idea what might happen in the future; every parent has to weigh up the different risks with a whole bunch of parenting decisions and believe you me, with the best will in the world, you won't get it right every time and other parents would have done differently. A bit of humility wouldn't go amiss.

I had to take my youngest to hospital as I thought she had swallowed my earring.

And then she cut her fingers playing with a snow globe that I thought was plastic but was glass and it smashed.

So this file that we have? I don’t even hear from the health visitor, never mind SS.

And that’s only two of our medial treatments. She was in the emergency department on Monday night for a neck injury!

Things happen no matter how careful you are.

Nick I do agree. It’s a case of being sensible isn’t it.
Your health visitor and gp is informed of every a and e visit you do.

Congratulations red. You are clearly a better parent, who loves their children more than most people do. They are very lucky that their lives will be perfect.

I thoroughly chew my kids' food before regurgitating it into their mouths. The school aren't too pleased at lunchtime for the 8 and 6 year old, but they'll learn. Know better, do better right?

red yes they are. But don’t scare new parents by telling them the authorities will be involved.

If that accident happens because the child has been left alone then yes the authorities will be

Of course your GP gets told when you go to the hospital. It's not so they can summon the child catcher, it's so they have all info relevant to medical care.

Wow OP!!! You have changed your tune from Weeping into your Pillow to now actively taking part as what only can be described as Pack Bullying, so insulted were you earlier at the comments that were made at you but now you'd happily throw shade at Red?!!!! Welcome to Mumsnet 2018!!!

Stop trying to scare people.

And also stop pretending it's "concern"

It's pretty clear no one here is risking anything.

Pack Bullying, my arse.

You're following circular logic there.

Risk assess-minimal risk- child left alone. If an accident happens, that doesn't mean the parent was automatically wrong because something happened, otherwise no-one would ever risk assess anything, as what would be the point? You can't account for the unexpected, hence it being unexpected.

Pmsl at "throw shade"...you go girlfriend.

I was surprised I didn’t get a visit from anyone. But on the bright side it made me keep my house tidier for a couple of weeks.

I don’t really understand why we are supposed to be scared of the NHS/ local authority holding “files” on us. As long as it’s factually accurate and stored safely, who cares?

It reminds me of that threat in school “it’ll go on your permanent record!” Like being given detention in 1989 by Mrs Foster for not going your geography homework will haunt you forever.