Are you happy?

[Thisnamechanger]

I don't know if this is something you ever really ask people in RL.

Are you happy?

Most of the time I am reasonably happy, yes.

My life is perfect.

But I’m bi polar and atm I’m not happy at all.

Do people not spend at least a bit of every day miserable, though? Even the happy ones?

I find I don't like many people really is that normal

I would say I am largely content in my life but have my ups and downs, and it of course all depends on how happy my unhappiest child is! I am trying to find a tool in life to recover from anger/annoyance quickly or float above it all, if I could crack this then my life would be wonderful!

for all those not having a great time at the moment, I hope it passes soon and things improve

Weirdly I was thinking the same thing today...

^ that was to Oak

Couldn't stand anyone today.

No. It is highly unlikely I will ever be truly happy again. Losing your children even though they are alive and safe will do that to you.

Right now, no. With the exception of DH and DS.

But I'm taking steps to change things, and in the new year and long term I'll be much happier. Lots of volunteering, a degree, retraining and self care to squeeze in though.

Interesting topic. Yes to whoever “said as happy as my unhappiest child”.

Do you think someone’s happy is another person’s discontented and that sometimes it’s a matter of perspective?

I am generally contented but then I have a greyhound and you can’t be miserable for too long with a hound.

And I’m sorry for all who are truly unhappy. I hope you can all find some peace.

Never really have been, never will be. Accepted it now.

Do you think someone’s happy is another person’s discontented and that sometimes it’s a matter of perspective?

I expect so but also depends on what you're used to. For example, today was a fairly normal day - I did think (very briefly) about jumping noff the railway bridge on the way home but I also had a nice piece of fish and glass of wine. I know that sounds like I'm being flip and reductive but that's quite a normal day for me - for some I expect the bridge but would traumatise them - for others I guess the fish would mark a distinct high point.

Not at all reductive. Its way better to have something nice to eat or drink. When I’m feeling low I think its better to treat myself. (Wanders off to run the bath...)

Yes although I have a 12 week old and fed up of housework and feeling like I'm chasing my own tail. 🤪

In all honestly no I haven’t been happy for years but people would never know I am very good at pretending

I am very good at pretending

Why do you think people do this so much?

No I am not happy
I have a good job and am well respected (I think) and married with gorgeous dc but I am desperately lonely.
I like where I live (it's a lovely home) but don't really fit it. Mil and fil are quite dependent and my own parents are selfish and demanding.
Dh is s good man but we have no fun really together I suppose I am bored.

In the big scheme we are healthy with all we need so I shut my mouth and get on with it all

For me I’m too embarrassed to tell people I guess that and I don’t want to be pitied. People who know me say I’m very positive ect and it’s one thing I’m proud of about myself is no matter what I have going on in the background I can keep my head up and carry on but don’t think it’s done me any favours over the years if I’m honest!

don’t think it’s done me any favours over the years if I’m honest

I expect you're right there. Wouldn't it be good if we could be a bit more honest with one another about feeling gloomy.

Absolutely 100% agree I think it will be my New Years reloution.

Being happy is overrated - it is just a temporary state of mind which is sometimes quite nice but it be especially useful to feel like that all the time.

Happy people don't invent stuff, they don't write sad love songs, they don't challenge inequality...

The as happy as my unhappiest child quote rings true.

Have an appointment tomorrow re ongoing MH shit for one of mine.
Currently embroiled in refereeing the seven headed monster of school transport v the major arse of my other ds.
And the humble rhinovirus has wiped the floor with all of us over the past week or so. Dh has been hit particularly hard and I can barely summon a smile about his dressing gown of doom because I'm more than a little worried about him.

And the laundry. The fucking laundry.

Had my hair cut, this morning, and sat string at a ghost with two black eyes because I slept so badly, last night and my sinuses are blocked.

Not particularly. But I felt alive on the beach yesterday. One day at a time.