What are you proud of but have no right to be?

[Workreturner]

Things I’m proud of but actually have no business being proud about....

My children are never ill (touch wood). Winters come and go and my two don’t so much as get the sniffles.

My children eat incredibly well, will devour a plate of veg happily.

My son is an exceptional sportsman. My daughter is incredibly popular and well liked by children, adults, teachers.

I had a very privileged childhood. Private school, beautiful home, very wealthy father.

(Why the heck am I “proud” about this? Had bugger all to do with me. But there we go, I freely admit I have no right to be proud of any of this list).

I have lovely thick healthy hair

Things I am proud about and perhaps can justifiably feel pride:

Returned to work after 9 years sahm to a good well paid job

Single mum of two young children and no family support network whatsoever. And I do well at balancing without without getting (too) stressed

A wonderful group of friends that I have kept from school, work and made since having children

I’m very fit and run 4/5 x a week

I would love to hear others.

If you’re proud of it, jusiftifed or not!

My dd’s beautiful hair (mine is a thin, limp disaster and she’s got hair I’ve always dreamed of having).

My very neat c-section scar.

My dh’s job

My marriage, our second, and our perfectly blended family. After 17 years, from when our youngest was 2 and the eldest 14, the 7 of them are all very close. They're all great kids too. We all laugh alot and people gravitate towards us. Our home is considered a great place to be. After miserable upbringings ourselves, DH and I are incredibly proud of how it all turned out.

People say my scrambled eggs, chocolate brownies, roast potatoes and other cooking is/are the best they've ever tasted, and often get asked for the recipes.

My children have always slept, they slept in their own cots/beds with no hassle.
My spag bol is their absolute favourite, nobody else’s will do.
I have a lovely home.
I can ride a motorbike pretty darn good.
My children are not scared of anything, fast rides, meeting new people, adventures in the tree tops.
I have lots of friends.
I’m pretty good at tomb raider.

My DS is a really beautiful baby. People stop us wherever we go to comment on his huge blue eyes, long curly eyelashes, and cheeky grin. He looks like he should be on an advert.

I'm not his biological mum 😂

My kids are good sleepers.
I have fantastic hair.
I have a beautiful engagement ring - people comment on it all the time.

Can we rename this thread 'let's have a great big boast fest'???

Knew it wouldn’t take long for someone to come along and bring it down...

That I’m naturally very strong. I build muscle quickly and am very powerful for my size. I work a bit at it at the moment but it’s mostly genes. My Mum and Grandma are / were strong too and in my wankier moments I like to think of how I’m part of a line of strong warrior women - utterly bonkers!

The fact that we beat the Nazis, and fought on when the odds were stacked against us. Obliviously I had no part in WW2 but still feel proud. The flip side of that is that I feel shame when the UK does something I feel is wrong or fails to act when I think we should. Very silly, really!

That I have a welcoming, comfortable and fun parental home to go back to with family who shower my DS in love and warmth. Absolutely not related to anything I’ve done, but I’m proud of that nonetheless.

Interesting thread!

Come on, ItsandTarts - there must be something you're irrationally proud of?

Come in and join the unjustifiable boasting party...

Absolutely loving these

Haha sandsnake yes - the fact that we beat the Nazis!

I'm proud of that, too ("we" not including me or any of my actual ancestors, obvs).

Three out of four of my births were just amazing. I was high as a kite. I've never taken Class A substances, but if they make you feel anything like giving birth made me feel, I completely understand the attraction.

And it's difficult to say much about this in RL because it sounds revoltingly smug.

I was v. smug - and publicly so, in all the mother and baby groups I attended with pfb - that pfb slept through the night at 8 weeks, and slept for 14 hours a night by 11 weeks. And in my pfb-ness, I actually thought this was a tribute to my parenting. Frankly, someone should have slapped me hard. Mind you, pfb took revenge by turning into the non-sleeper from hell when she hit two .

DS has stunningly beautiful blue eyes and long, silky eyelashes.
I have small, unremarkable grey eyes and weedy lashes. I am both proud and envious.

That my baby (6mo old so still time for all this to change) eats everything we've put in front of him. And the fact he smiles at everyone, nowt to do with me as I'm a grumpy cow.

Also, I think this one is maybe a bit justified I'm proud he's had exclusive breastmilk for the 1st 6 mo of his life but isn't breastfed. He wouldn't latch so I started expressing, and haven't stopped yet. It would have been so much easier to stop.

I'm a teeny tiny bit proud that I gave birth with only a few puffs of gas and air at the pushing stage, and that I was initially told I couldn't need to push as I claimed because 'women at the pushing stage just aren't as calm as you' and then it turned out I did indeed need to push. This is particularly unreasonable because a) obviously you don't get to pick your births and I must have ended up with an ok one, even though it felt pretty awful to me b) I am still furious that no one would believe I needed to push and c) I wanted pain relief and no one would give it to me and then they said it was too late! I did feel like a superhero for a few days afterwards though.

I feel really proud of the fact my 5 year old has never had a McDonalds or other fast food. I know that is a stupid thing to be proud of, believe me!

I’m proud of our financial status. I’m proud we don’t ever struggle. Can buy whatvwe want. Can go where we want. Kids privately educated blah blah.

It’s not something I can shout out about though.

I'm absurdly fit and healthy. It's sheer luck, but it feels like an accomplishment. I have to guard against a tendency to view illness as a moral failing.

That my kids have been fantastic Sleepers from birth

My 2 year old falls asleep at 5:30/6pm-8am.
9 year old Likes to read a Book for an hour before bed then Happily goes to sleep for 9

I find myself feeling proud about how well my DH parks - his van not a little car either!

My DD was Mary in nativity (despite me taking her out of religious assemblies so I had to keep that pride quiet!)

My children have really stunning complextions and eyes - neither from me...they are also sporty and my DD very academic...nope not me.

I write brilliantly in my job I really do. I write assessments but really should be a writer as I can write any scenario in positive or negatively light. I am acutely aware as a social worker that it should be my evidence that makes my assessments...But it's not, I write a pretty good novel.

@Scoleah

Me too
But my almost 9 year is asleep by 7.15 to fine 9
Nah nah

“To gone 8”

My hair.

I have thick red hair and super long eyebrows and eyelashes.

I hated it as a child and couldn't accept a compliment, especially as my parents had no idea where it had come from.

I have no influence on how thick or fast it grows or its colour, but only now am I realising just how lucky I've been considering the thin, limp, brown hair many people have.