What are you proud of but have no right to be?

[Workreturner]

Things I’m proud of but actually have no business being proud about....

My children are never ill (touch wood). Winters come and go and my two don’t so much as get the sniffles.

My children eat incredibly well, will devour a plate of veg happily.

My son is an exceptional sportsman. My daughter is incredibly popular and well liked by children, adults, teachers.

I had a very privileged childhood. Private school, beautiful home, very wealthy father.

(Why the heck am I “proud” about this? Had bugger all to do with me. But there we go, I freely admit I have no right to be proud of any of this list).

I have lovely thick healthy hair

Things I am proud about and perhaps can justifiably feel pride:

Returned to work after 9 years sahm to a good well paid job

Single mum of two young children and no family support network whatsoever. And I do well at balancing without without getting (too) stressed

A wonderful group of friends that I have kept from school, work and made since having children

I’m very fit and run 4/5 x a week

I would love to hear others.

If you’re proud of it, jusiftifed or not!

I’m super proud of what an amazing person my eldest son is turning out to be. He’s just got everything going for him and he’s gorgeous.

I’m a pretty shit mother so I don’t really feel I can claim credit

My kids are hilarious. Nothing Like to do with me at all. They are always making other people laugh.

They are all stunning too. They don't get that from me or their dad so I'm not sure where it comes from.

I'm a grafter. I work hard and will work late and take work home to finish a job. Unlike some of my colleagues. They are probably much happier and less stressed than me but I'm still proud of being a grafter.

I was proud today when my Romanian Rescue dog very gently picked up a childs toy they had dropped from a pushchair and very carefully offered it to the mum who was sat on the park bench and hadnt noticed. She was gushing about how well trained he was and I was standing their agreeing and being all proud when actually normally he is a bastard of a dog! Bless him!

DH earns several hundred grand a year.

I earn nothing myself. I don't help him with his work. I can't stand people who judge others by their income.

Still feel weirdly proud in a way I don't quite like...

@Dixielandia

I get it
Used to feel same with my ex, also very high earner

I didn’t like that I did, but couldn’t stop myself feeling it a bit

Workreturner Yes - I used to feel baffled and annoyed by people who were very self-important - regardless of their own achievements (or lack thereof) - when they had a high-earning spouse.

Now I find myself turning into one of them. It's not a pretty mindset.

Up until a few months ago I was very proud of reaching 45 with no fillings!

I’m very proud the my tits didn’t move anywhere after 2 kids and I can not wear a bra when I’m feeling lazy

I also feel proud of how well me and my exh co parent. I realise this isn't always possible and is totally dependent on how much of a dick your ex is but whenever I hear about warring divorced parents I feel happy that me and my ex don't have those issues!

i’m really proud of my excellent memory for song lyrics - specially rnb/pop songs of the late 90s and 00s never did anything to cultivate it other than listening to hours upon hours of radio 1 as a kid

tried desperately not to be but was also internally very proud that DD was always the first in my group of friends-with-kids to hit all milestones, to talk, and to grow long shiny hair (whyyyy would i be proud of this!?)

again, nothing to do with me, but very proud of DH for starting his own company almost 10 years ago completely on his own and getting us into a position where I no longer have to work and we are able to buy a house

Hopefully I won't jinx things by writing this but a continually unblemished driving licence since passing my test in 1996.

Several of my pets have had life threatening illnesses but miraculously pulled through because of my dedicated care and love.

Being overweight but still attractive - men chat me up and flirt. And most importantly, a DH who loves me.

Living in a large house in a naice area.

No major health issues (again, hope I haven't jinxed this)

Boobs. Definitely.

@BitchQueen90

Me too. But we do have the right to feel proud of that

I can fry eggs perfectly. Perfectly runny yolk, non-rubbery white. Just perfect.

@BeeFarseer I'm seriously impressed by your malteaser suspension skills!

Did anyone else used to get the baby to kick Maltesers off your tummy when pregnant?

I'm proud I stood up to my abusive parents and confronted them about their behaviour to my dcs . I haven't seen them for five years and they have no access to my dcs. It was heartbreaking and I was very ill after. But we got through it and I have struggled through some serious and bad things and even though I wish I had a supportive Mum and Dad I have never gone back.

Well starlight45 you have every right to be proud of that!!

DS is very attractive and has always been

I'm attractive.

I am a fast reader. I read the 7th Harry Potter book in five hours. It's something I take much pride in lol

I'm kind of the opposite of all this. I don't ever feel misplaced pride but I do feel shame for things I didn't invent -
Brexit
Windrush
Slavery
Grenfell

I'm proud of my dd's musical and artistic talents. I always think most talents and good looks and so on are simple luck and nothing to be proud of since they just happened and even if you put in a lot of effort its still good fortune that helped you get started, but I am still proud of her

I am proud that when they did cottage loaves on Bake Off most of them weren't as good as mine, even though I have a limited skillset and wouldn't last 5 minutes on there without bursting into tears.

I am also proud of a lovely big birch tree in my garden.