I'm poorly I fancied just grilled salmon - & DH went and got?

[KatyMac]

OK I am poorly, I have been off my food

Last night about 10pm I suddenly fancied grilled salmon, mustard brown suagr and soy sauce glaze

No salmon in the freezer

DH went off (to play tennis - important that, not work!) and I asked him to bring some salmon in for me to cook

Came home with no salmon, I'll do a big shop when I collect DD from the train later

I suggested I might need salmon sooner, would he like to do the big shop now or just pop out (5 minutes in the car) to get me some salmon and some nice bread to eat it with

Big discussion ensued & eventually he went

& brought back precooked (can't be heated up again) salmon

We have never had that before ever (important DH only buys what we have had before) never looked at it in the shops or considered it. So it's not hot, it's not marinaded in what I wanted and it probably has things in I'm not allowed (not technically allowed soya sauce either but......I needed a treat)

May I have a temper tantrum?

(can't drive or walk far otherwise I'd go and get my bloody salmon, which tbf I'm not sure I want now after all the discussion)

I have learned to be very, very specific over the years.
DH has bought me red wine when I never ever drank it (I asked for Chardonnay, he read cabernet and his dyslexia filled in the blanks, plus he doesn't drink wine so doesn't notice the difference in the bottles!), cooked me a steak even though I don't really eat red meat, bought back fish and rice from the shop when I asked him to get chicken and pasta...
But sometimes he gets it really right - hello 26 portion birthday cake in a flavour that I love and he's not bothered by!

It's rotten feeling ill and not being able to have the only thing you feel you can eat. I hope you feel better soon.

I'd like a recipe for honey and soy grilled salmon please? I promise to only use raw salmon.

:)

I have a load of stories of things idiot ex did like this. Bringing tea instead of peppermint tea, getting satsumas instead of oranges, cooking different things than planned, cooking things in a stupid way (claiming my way was 'wrong', yet his way ended up with raw or burnt food, which was never his fault). Food is a very emotive issue!

Sorry OP but you sound very entitled. 10pm just have some toast like the rest of us!

Hope your recovery goes well Katy Mac

You’ll have to become one of those partners who have to ‘coach’ their OH around the supermarket on videolink.

I think it would have been nice of he'd been thoughtful. When he forgot I'd lower my expectations ams give him the consideration he gives me, and if that's not tolerable. ...

I think death is usually instantaneous if you heat something that has “do not heat” written on it.

Yes, op, toast only at 10pm. Get with the programme. 🙄🙄🙄

I know MN is a bit of a dodgy place at the moment, with a huge number of nasty people wandering about making threads messy, but the sheer number of utter cunts congregating on this quite small thread is simply depressing.

Hope you’re on the mend soon KatyMac.

"This reminds me of when I was pregnant and nauseated and all I could stomach was chicken super noodles. My DH duly walked to the shop and purchased them and then offered to cook them. All well and good - BUT - having been to a catered hall at uni for 3 years, he had never made them before. He cooked them and then DRAINED them, thus pouring the delicious chickeny broth down the drain"

Wait. What. You are meant to drain super noodles, aren't you?! Am I doing it wrong?!

I totally share your pain katymac and all I can say is, he's telling you who is, listen. Wrong salmon is all kinds of red flags. Run for the hills.

Is that better? 

Can I make you a suggestion - order your big shop online! Asda at least will carry it right into the kitchen and they deliver up to 11pm (here at least) so it can arrive when dh or dd is home.

Hope your recovery is going well.

As for emergency food, there's a company food who for a £3.50 plus 50p a mile fee will fetch up to £40 worth of shopping/takeaway food 24 hours a day and we are not even in London, great for extraordinary situations like craving post surgery

Katy - I’ll have words with him! He needs to look after you all the looking after and running round you’ve done for everyone over the years.

Come on folks - she’s been in pain for goodness knows how long, had a major op & now has various other ailments alongside. (I can’t comment what surgical menopause is like but I bet it’s a valid reason for being a bit over emotional).

I’d be blooming angry at the wrong salmon too. It’s not that much to ask surely?

I am now wondering if my divorce was a mistake. XH was a miserable twat and unfaithful, but he was very good at accurate shopping and would never have drained SuperNoodles.

Hmmm. Maybe I should have been more tolerant.

If in London use etefy, they will deliver in an hour, no delivery charge
Local minicabs will sometimes pick up for small fee (they are used to bringing alcohol to lazy problem drinkers) my brothers wife used to get a big bar of dairy milk for 50p charge.
Cook food do v nice frozen dinners incl some salmon but have to book delivery. A taxi might pick it up.
Be well

Ginger and soy also good. Put salmon on piece of foil.Chop ginger/spring onion or garlic optional, fry till soft, put on top of salmon, drizzle on soy sauce or lea and persons, lemon optional. Wrap loosely, fold ends to keep moisture in. Bake 15 mins, mark4/5, open carefully because it will be steamy. Grill for a minute or two, or put back in oven without foil if you like it crispy. Roasted chopped veg(peppers, tomato) or green beans go well. Any carbs ok. Use houmus as a dressing instead also nice

When ds was about 8 months old (and a complete non-eater) I had a bug which had left me vomiting for 24 hours. Having not eaten or really drank anything all day, dp went out to get some bits. He returned with one of those sugary double lollies (amongst sone real food) and my heart leapt with joy, just the thing I fancied for my empty, sore stomach.

Then he gave to the baby to gnaw on.

About 18 months later I explained to him why I seemed so angry that day. (I did wrestle it from baby and ate it, ds not surprisingly was "caning it").

YANBU.

My husband would have gone out at 10 and cooked it for me too!

LTB. Nothing worse than getting close enough to a craving to ruin it, but not close enough to satisfy it.

I wanted baby leaf salad so desperately and DP came back with iceberg!!!!!!!!!!!! WTF??!!

She didn't send him out at 10pm, he was out anyway and she asked him to bring back some salmon with him. So he merely had to pop by the shop on his way.

Ex used to drain super noodles. I have no idea whether you are supposed to or not, I wouldn't eat the muck.

Not interested in the salmon not desperate to hear more about the maracas

But if you don't drain supernoodles, how do you prevent them from dripping all over your pyjamas top when you eat them?

You mop it up with cheap white bread with lashings of butter....works best with bbq beef super noodles

By shovelling them in while you hold the bowl under your chin. Or by making them into a sandwich... Obvs!