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I'm poorly I fancied just grilled salmon - & DH went and got?

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KatyMac · 19/10/2018 13:59

OK I am poorly, I have been off my food

Last night about 10pm I suddenly fancied grilled salmon, mustard brown suagr and soy sauce glaze

No salmon in the freezer

DH went off (to play tennis - important that, not work!) and I asked him to bring some salmon in for me to cook

Came home with no salmon, I'll do a big shop when I collect DD from the train later

I suggested I might need salmon sooner, would he like to do the big shop now or just pop out (5 minutes in the car) to get me some salmon and some nice bread to eat it with

Big discussion ensued & eventually he went

& brought back precooked (can't be heated up again) salmon

We have never had that before ever (important DH only buys what we have had before) never looked at it in the shops or considered it. So it's not hot, it's not marinaded in what I wanted and it probably has things in I'm not allowed (not technically allowed soya sauce either but......I needed a treat)

May I have a temper tantrum?

(can't drive or walk far otherwise I'd go and get my bloody salmon, which tbf I'm not sure I want now after all the discussion)

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FingerlingUnderling · 19/10/2018 14:58

The HRT situation is shit for you OP and people should never underestimate the impact of sudden surgical menopause. Cake Flowers

MixedMaritalArts · 19/10/2018 14:59

When one is ill it is perfectly acceptable to expect to receive the level of care you yourself provide for your family under the same circumstances: end of.

toastedbeagle · 19/10/2018 14:59

This reminds me of when I was pregnant and nauseated and all I could stomach was chicken super noodles. My DH duly walked to the shop and purchased them and then offered to cook them. All well and good - BUT - having been to a catered hall at uni for 3 years, he had never made them before. He cooked them and then DRAINED them, thus pouring the delicious chickeny broth down the drain.

I'm not ashamed to say I wept openly for over ten minutes.

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toherdoor · 19/10/2018 15:08

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Missingstreetlife · 19/10/2018 15:09

It just feels like they can't be arsed, oh that will do. Food is symbolic of care. Normally would just fend for myself, but feeling fragile makes you want a little attention.
Once when I had some mobility problem, we were having take away, asked mine to get fizzy water. I don't drink alcohol, trying to cut down on sugar so didn't want soft drink.
He came back with wine and beer for himself but thought I could have tap water. I cried, felt so uncared for, made him go back before he could eat, his food got cold, good.
It's not that you can't live without it, just they are so selfish. Need a wife, husband doesn't fit the bill.

Ifoundanacorn · 19/10/2018 15:10

You are hard work Op, I am going to tell you this instead of your darling husband who clearly doesn't have the courage to tell you to your face.

FFS you are not dying even though you are doing a very good dying swan routine, get in the bloody car and go and buy the sodding salmon yourself.

I can tell you now you are causing a few choice words to be said - mainly by dh I would expect Grin

idontknowwhattoput1 · 19/10/2018 15:10

A few months back when a friend was having chemo she was really of food when she finally wanted something they didn't have it in and her DH had there 4 kids, she didn't moan though but when she told me I dropped it of for her. So it depends what you mean by 'unwell'

HappyEverIftar · 19/10/2018 15:15

When you really fancy something and what you get isn't what you wanted, it can be disappointing I'm with you on this one OP! The disappointment is disproportionate.

speakout · 19/10/2018 15:18

You sound hard work OP.

abbey44 · 19/10/2018 15:20

Love the cough linctus = maracas.

What I can't get my head round is just how many people can't see it's not a totally serious thread. Jeez...lighten up!

legofriendly · 19/10/2018 15:22

This is Mumsnet where a significant proportion of people are unhappy with their lives and deal with it by kicking others rather than solving their own problems. Didn’t you know?!

Weezol · 19/10/2018 15:22

It's simple - if you can't get them housebroken and trained in the first year, don't marry them.

Aprilislonggone · 19/10/2018 15:22

Wanting to make salmon fish cakes I wrote a list for dh (the shopper!), instead of water cress he got salad cress. Apparently not his fault there are 2 types of cress!
An ill woman wanting particular food is totally acceptable op.
Sympathy to your situation.

mingebags · 19/10/2018 15:24

It's no wonder people elsewhere on the internet rip the shit out of this website sometimes.

Missingstreetlife · 19/10/2018 15:26

Ifoundanacorn, read the thread, she had surgery, she can't drive

florriepeck · 19/10/2018 15:27

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Luxury!

leeloo1 · 19/10/2018 15:27

"@Ifoundanacorn - You are hard work Op, I am going to tell you this instead of your darling husband who clearly doesn't have the courage to tell you to your face.

  • FFS you are not dying even though you are doing a very good dying swan routine, get in the bloody car and go and buy the sodding salmon yourself"

Shock Hmm

That's so uncalled for! Did you miss the bit about sudden surgical menopause (so I assume hysterectomy) and no driving allowed?

FFS learn to read and while you're at it then learn some compassion!

DaffodilPower · 19/10/2018 15:28

I'd leave now, before it gets any worse and he ends up coming back next time with tinned salmon.

Hugs for you and your poor DC x

vampirethriller · 19/10/2018 15:29

Yesterday I really wanted mince pies. 38 weeks pregnant and don't fancy much. My parents and brothers are visiting and my brothers went to buy wine for everyone, mince pies for me. They came back with wine and nothing for me because they ate the bloody pies on the way home. I went to bed early sulking. YANBU

leeloo1 · 19/10/2018 15:30

I was so cross with some previous posters, I forgot to say @KatyMac I hope you're feeling better soon and that you now have the salmon you wanted. Was dd on a train because she's coming home to visit you? Hope so, so you have some sympathetic company. :)

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KatyMac · 19/10/2018 15:33

Thanks god I didn't write this on Monday - the laughing would have split my glue!

No I am still the proud ower of my uterus but they took out a largish cyst, my ovaries (2) a single fallopian tube (the other lost years ago in an incident with an ectopic) and rather a large amount of scarring and adhesions (which unsurprisingly has left me feeling quite considerably better)

He went back to Asda to get my new antibiotics and bypassed the fish counter! He's pretty good really but my tolerance is low atm Wink

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KatyMac · 19/10/2018 15:34

Thanks Leeloo she lives with us now (between jobs) and will sort him out!

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Chalkhillblu3 · 19/10/2018 15:37

First world problems...

DontDribbleOnTheCarpet · 19/10/2018 15:37

OP, I’d love to have your problem. I’ve been widowed for nearly 27 years, ever since my kids were babies, and if I ever wanted salmon I had to go and drive a 20 mile round trip to the nearest supermarket to get it myself.
I know you feel peeved, but personally I think a little counting of blessings wouldn’t go amiss!

While I'd sympathise with anyone who was bereaved, competitive suffering is very annoying. Can nobody now feel aggrieved about anything until it has passed the Worse Off Than Babdoc test?

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