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Mummylin · 11/10/2018 12:00

Thanks for reminder Becca rushes to get first pick of comfy sheltered branch !!!
Settles in with fleecy blankets etc !

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Becca19962014 · 14/10/2018 21:27

Wow that vehicle is impressive!

I went out for some milk and found it very cool outside, turns out my neighbours gave all their heating pumping out and the buildings like an oven. I've had a note asking me to close my window - it's 20c in my room!! No chance of me closing it without being even more ill. I need the air!

Blackladybug · 14/10/2018 21:50

pinkheart haha not to worry. No we didn't need to stay in, she's been much better today thankfully. We've had an indoor day too watching films.

Aw curtains that car is seriously impressive! I'd go for the ice cream I think but then again I'm not a fan of malt loaf.

Becca really hope you feel much better soon, my DD was so ill with it though she's improving now. Been raining a lot here, was such a downpour earlier!

sneaky haha 4 loaves for 5p!

lin you are so organised! I've not really thought about anything for Christmas yet! Though it'll soon come round I'm sure

Today's been mostly ok. Tomorrow I get some time to myself which I'm really looking forward to. Got to wait in for the gas man so doubt I'll actually do much, maybe read or watch tv, possibly even have a nap.

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Mummylin · 14/10/2018 22:02

ladybug I'm not usually organised, but my dh going to have operation the week before Xmas so I need to be this year, and i only have stuff because my gd got it for me from where she works ! And she got double discount, which was only until wed. !

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SneakyGremlins · 14/10/2018 22:11

Toothache Sad

PinkHeart5914 · 14/10/2018 22:19

Awesome car Curtains

Oh sneaky Toithache is the worst

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Mummylin · 14/10/2018 22:24

Whisky or brandy swilled around tooth will help if you have any.

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SneakyGremlins · 14/10/2018 22:25

Allergic to alcohol so that might make it worse!

I do have saltwater though. Through poking and yelping it appears it's more the gum than the tooth!

ThrowThoseCurtainsWide · 14/10/2018 23:08

Anbesol is amazing for toothache. Not to be confused with anusol... Wink

I'm now up to 1000 words for my tribunal opening statement. Going through the DWP's response and picking out all of the places where I have evidence against what they are saying.

After that I think it's back to my original appeal letter and cross reference evidence to support each of the descriptors with pages of stuff that's in the paperwork bundle. It's literally hellish!

Becca19962014 · 15/10/2018 21:58

I hope you're feeling better sneaky
I'm still not well.

ThrowThoseCurtainsWide · 15/10/2018 23:26

I am so close to being ready for the tribunal now. With everything I tick off my to do list my stress levels are going down, but my anxiety about the actual day is rising. So far everything has been within my control, and I have (almost finished anyway) prepared to the best I my ability. But I have no real idea what will happen on the day and I'm terrified about that!

Sorry to hear your still I'll Becxa. Any improvement at all? Are the new antibiotics working now?

Hope you're okay too sneaky and all other owls are perched happily Flowers

Becca19962014 · 16/10/2018 00:00

Not really. I was due to have an MRI this week (suspected brain tumour) but was forced to cancel as I cannot lie flat! My throat closes up.

I totally failed to get through to the mh social worker today about how distressing it is for me. They're obviously bored of me and I know annoyed I don't do more. My functioning is non existent almost as all I really do is get taxi to get meds (when I can afford it) and porridge is all I'm really eating.

Feeling horrible tonight. Depression, anxiety and, I'm really finding out I'm a nasty person. I had someone (stranger) complain at me today about how lucky I am that I don't only have mh problems so people will help me when I struggle and I snapped at them. Where I live there's a lot more accommodation options if you only have mh issues as well as free help from charities. There's nothing for mixed physical and mental health.

Becca19962014 · 16/10/2018 00:02

Sorry, I shouldn't be complaining to you when you've got far worse things going on. See what I mean? I should be far more concerned about what's going on for others but instead I'm just a selfish blob.

This weekend is the six month anniversary of my godmothers suicide and it's haunting me that I cut ties with her before her death.

ThrowThoseCurtainsWide · 16/10/2018 00:21

Goodness has it been 6 months already? It still seems so recent. It really haunts me that I cut ties with a friend before her suicide, but then I remember the times we did spend together and the moments we shared. That are what's important.

And don't feel bad about posting about what you're struggling with. We're both going through really tough times, it's not a question of who is suffering more. The tree is all about support for everyone regardless. You're all helping to prop up my branch, and we're all helping to prop up yours.

I feel bad too that every single post recently has been about this sodding tribunal. It's pretty much all I've been thinking about, but at the same time it's getting repetitive. But then I count myself lucky that I'm not physically ill right now, and my heart goes out to those of you that are. We're all different, it's impossible to quantify suffering or to put it in some sort of rank order. But we all deserve our place in this beautiful tree and it's here for us to say what we need to and be supported. This is our tree and we can all use it as we see fit Flowers

Becca19962014 · 16/10/2018 00:38

On Sunday, yes it'll be six months.

Thankyou for your kind words. After I posted, for some stupid reason I googled her name and her inquest came up. Really stupid thing to do as it has all "the details" of what happened, and, how she was failed by everyone. I have reported where it's been cached because I know her family said no reporters at the inquest and that was ignored and every reference to her death online on Facebook etc has been removed as well. It's like they're trying to remove her from existence. Even in death and her funeral (which was delibrately more about her activities than her) her mh was glossed over and viewed as something to be ashamed of. People still say she's better off having done what she did as she was hurting so much.

I've not really seen people since then that we both knew, either her death was brushed under the carpet completely or, viewed as ending her suffering or, worse, I'm being told it's been so long I should be over it by now. Six weeks after she died my social worker told me how much happier I'd been in those weeks. If I try to talk about her I get told either I'm coping fine as I look fine to phone cruse (who were also partly held responsible for refusing her counselling after her parents both died very close together and her mh worsened - mh team decided she was no longer bipolar and stopped all her meds and support as borderlines, which she was then diagnosed as don't qualify for any of that).

Basically googling made everything even bloody worse adn I'm dreading trying to sleep now! But I need to as I'm exhausted.

Becca19962014 · 16/10/2018 00:39

Bugger. Meant to edit that.

Anyway, Thankyou for the cake!!

And do continue posting about the tribunal, we're all behind you!!

Becca19962014 · 16/10/2018 15:02

curtains I hope today went OK for you!!

ThrowThoseCurtainsWide · 16/10/2018 16:18

Just a normal day today - tribunal on Thursday. I've been exhausted though, ended up sleeping for an hour in an office before going to get the DCs from school. Not the most productive of days... Blush

Becca19962014 · 16/10/2018 17:35

Sorry lovely. I got the days confused.
Didn't sleep much at all last night, just had a bit of rest.

Don't worry you've a lot on your mind at the moment hopefully it'll improve after tomorrow.

Becca19962014 · 16/10/2018 17:36

I meant to say before make sure you can differentiate between your pip claims so when you need to close one the dwp don't close both!! That's a common error if someone has two claims at the same time.

ThrowThoseCurtainsWide · 16/10/2018 20:38

Oh I will be making doubly sure about that, don't worry! I'm so so tired and we need to tidy the whole house too. DH keeps saying 'do the paperwork tomorrow' but I have to get it done tonight. Otherwise I won't sleep. If I don't get it done tonight then there will be too muc for my brai to cope with tomorrow and I'm already overloaded

Becca19962014 · 16/10/2018 20:51

I'd need to get it done tonight too or I'd never rest.

PinkHeart5914 · 16/10/2018 22:15

Evening owls

Just flying in so you don’t disappear off my I’m on list.

How wants to see Pinkrabbit, chew an empty toilet roll tube. Tis her new favourite!

You remember I said a while back about my friend having the breakdown and stayed with us for a while when she was released from hospital? Well she’s had some kind of set back and is bad again so she’s staying tonight as she won’t harm herself if others are around. She has been doing well but she currently divorcing her ex dh, a lot of money (hers not his) etc is at stake and I think the stress is building up

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Becca19962014 · 16/10/2018 22:22

I'm going to raid the fridge and then try and get an early night. I desperately need one after last night.

I hope your friend feels better soon she's very lucky to have you there to help her!

ThrowThoseCurtainsWide · 16/10/2018 22:39

Pink you really are an amazing friend.

SneakyGremlins · 16/10/2018 22:42

I wish I had a friend like you Pink.

I try to be that person though, my friends know my sofa is always available if they need it and I'm always happy to dole out a warming meal.

I'm staying up til midnight to make sure my money goes in. Then dentist at 11!