Do you judge people who have had sex with a lot of people?

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Please be honest.
How much would it have to be for you to judge negatively?
And does it make a difference to your judgement if it is a man or woman who has had sex with a lot of people?

How would you even know? It's not like you go about asking folks this?

Makes no difference to me at all

Nope as long as no one is getting hurt

Nope

Bluntness It is the kind of thing that sometimes gets talked about between good friends.

I couldn’t care less.

Yes I judge them but not necessarily in a bad way - eg I have lots of friends who had traumatic childhoods and then sought solace in shagging for a period. Totally get that and I'm sure I'd have done the same.

Being honest I would judge a woman more harshly for this than a man. I know that's not ok.

Equally some of my friends shagged loads of ppl as they were total babes and all the boys wanted them! I judge them in a jealous way!

No, not at all.

What's 'a lot' to you anyway?

I would judge them. I'd be envious of the lucky gits, and wish I could be more like them.

No but I would think twice before sleeping with them. A bit academic since I’m married but you get the drift.

I have shagged quite a lot of people. Nobody knows my circumstances and I don't accept anyone's judgement.

Well mostly I wouldn't know. But so long as everyone was safe and consensual I wouldn't care. I would judge infidelity, because I can't stand it but otherwise consenting grown adults can do what they like.

Why op - are you judging or worried that you're being judged?

Only if I was going out with them or the kind they had was not legal or ethical

I have -ahem- been round the block a few times 😁 So wouldn't judge at all. Presumable fun was had between consenting adults so nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about.

@EmeraldVillage What drift is that?

I have no idea how many people any of my friends have slept with.

I don’t care either regardless or make or female.

If it was a really huge number I might feel a bit sorry for them because it’s not usually a sign of happiness (in my experience). I would never comment though.

I think it would have to be literally into the thousands before I thought any judgy thoughts tbh. I just don't know where people get the time!

Yes I do judge when it get into the hundreds. With women I would assume it is to do with low self esteem or traumatic childhoods though.

I don’t think just with women OP.

Bluntness It is the kind of thing that sometimes gets talked about between good friends
I'm glad my friends don't talk about this! I'll stick to topics such as films, mountains and travelling thank you very much!!!

No judgement from me. I just assume they’ve had fun.
Ime, men can be very judgemental of women in this way though. I’ve experienced this, usually from men with much less ‘history’ and stemming from their own insecurity.

Yes I do.

Lucky buggers.

What do you class as "a lot"?

What might be a lot to one person may seem insignificant to another.

Personally, I have no idea how many people my friends have slept with but if I did I can't imagine judging them for it. They are my friends for other reasons.

The only reason I’d be judgy is if they were hurting others (eg infidelity or ghosting) or if they were “collecting” conquests rather than just shagging for the fun of it.

All I meant was that I don’t plan on sleeping with anyone else given in married. Therefore it is rather theoretical.