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Do you judge people who have had sex with a lot of people?

89 replies

abacucat · 09/10/2018 13:54

Please be honest.
How much would it have to be for you to judge negatively?
And does it make a difference to your judgement if it is a man or woman who has had sex with a lot of people?

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mostdays · 09/10/2018 14:32

With women I would assume it is to do with low self esteem or traumatic childhoods though.

Hmm
HarrySinger · 09/10/2018 14:32

I judge people who judge - especially men!

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abacucat · 09/10/2018 14:33

I am talking about when it gets into the hundreds.

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Surfinbird · 09/10/2018 14:35

Only if they are meant to be having exclusive sex with me. Otherwise I couldn’t give a fuc

NotANotMan · 09/10/2018 14:37

Not at all!
I might be a bit wary of a potential partner who had a number in the 100s just because I might think they might miss the casual life if I expected monogamy but I certainly wouldn't judge them. Sex is fun, sex with new people is fun. If all is safe and respectful then there is no harm in many partners at all.

Doghorsechicken · 09/10/2018 14:42

Yes I would judge them

LuggsaysNotaWomen · 09/10/2018 14:43

No, bit jealous that I never had the self confidence to be so free with my sexuality though.

ForTheLoveOfDoughnuts · 09/10/2018 14:44

No. Not at all. I'm of the opinion that everyone is different but sex doesn't have to be about love. It can be about enjoyment. Try before you buy etc Wink

Yerroblemom1923 · 09/10/2018 14:45

I guess I would judge in a negative way, kinda goes against the old fashioned "saving yourself for THE ONE" type theory....on the other hand I'd probably also be a bit jealous as they're obviously drop dead gorgeous! Lol

WhatToDoAboutWailmerGoneRogue · 09/10/2018 14:45

I don’t judge them; as long as it’s safe and consensual there’s no harm done. I do feel really sorry for them, though, that they’ve either not found love, it took them a long time to find love, or they’ve lost love.

LuggsaysNotaWomen · 09/10/2018 14:47

The hundreds?

I wouldn’t judge persay but I would wonder if they had poor boundaries and emotional issues, just because being intimate is a vulnerable act and a person allowing themselves to be that vulnerable in a seemingly compulsive way, signals issues for me.

But I’d be more worried than judgemental about them and it is not a moral issue for me.

headinhands · 09/10/2018 14:49

No. But I'd judge your good friends gossiping about it. Yuck. How would that be of any interest to them?

Original poster
abacucat · 09/10/2018 14:50

I love how people on MN make things up. No one is gossiping about anything.

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Dljlr · 09/10/2018 14:50

No, not really, but I'm a bit envious I suppose. I've had little experience in terms of numbers of partners and I wish I'd enjoyed myself more when I was younger and had more opportunity. I wouldn't judge a prospective partner either; I think I'd probably be happy they obviously enjoy sex, which isn't always a given!

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 09/10/2018 14:53

If it’s safe, consensual and honest, no, I don’t care a jot.

donajimena · 09/10/2018 14:55

I know people who haven't had a huge number of partners who have cheated. The friends I have who have been monogamous have had an awful lot of fun whilst single. Obviously there will be those who cheat and have lots of partners but I am thinking of my close circle of friends.
I judge the ones who cheat. Not the ones that whoop it up when single.

Sleephead1 · 09/10/2018 14:57

no I don't judge but have been judged and I couldn't care less if they want to judge me then I don't want anything to do with them anyway. I havnt slept with hundreds of people but if people have so bloody what how is that anyone business

Enb76 · 09/10/2018 14:59

I do feel really sorry for them, though

Why? Maybe they had a lot of fun. Not everyone is looking for someone to love, not everyone feels that "the one" is a concept they want to buy into. I don't feel sorry for people who have only slept with one person.

Why would you judge a person by how many people they've slept with? Low or high? Sleeping with only one person your whole life doesn't somehow make you morally superior to someone who's slept with 500; just a lot less experienced.

Sleephead1 · 09/10/2018 14:59

in mt expirience men who havnt slept with many people ( but want too ) can sometimes be judgemental

RomanyRoots · 09/10/2018 14:59

makes absolutely no difference at all, why would it?
it's in the past.

Gileswithachainsaw · 09/10/2018 15:00

No i wouldn't.

What 2 consenting adults get up to and how many times they get up to it us up to them.

I don't need to psycho analyse people to find some trauma to justify having sex Confused

AngeloMysterioso · 09/10/2018 15:00

As long as they’re not cheating on anyone and being safe about it, what’s there to judge? Sex is a lot of fun Grin

headinhands · 09/10/2018 15:02

I love how people on MN make things up. No one is gossiping about anything.

My mistake. In your second post you said about it 'getting talked about between good friends'. I see now you mean you and a close friend having a giggle about yours or hers past escapades and not you and her talking about someone who isn't there.

MistressDeeCee · 09/10/2018 15:08

No, I don't. Is it a numbers game? Whatever number I may feel is 'acceptable' shouldn't be relevant anyway. & I have no specific number in my head for that.

How would you know how many a person has slept with anyway? You only know what people choose to tell you.

I can't imagine sitting down having that convo with a mate.

I do know DP had a very active sex life in his younger days. Slept with loads. I don't care. I wasn't exactly an angel anyway.

DianaPrincessOfThemyscira · 09/10/2018 15:10

No.

I might be a bit envious.

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