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Is your man comfortable with periods?

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littlemisscomper · 08/09/2018 19:12

I couldn't think how to phrase the question, but I was wondering how people's partners cope with the thought of periods.Would you feel embarrassed asking him to pick up sanitary products for you, or would he feel embarrassed buying them? Is he generally thoughtful with making hot water bottles/buying surprise chocolate/fully understanding that you might not feel like having sex or does he seem oblivious to how it affects you? Can you openly talk about periods or is it a taboo subject? I've never had a long term relationship and it's not come up in conversation with any of the guys I've been with, so just wondered what the general male attitude is towards the subject!

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dementedpixie · 08/09/2018 19:20

Yes dh would buy sanitary products as he does the main shop on a Saturday anyway. I talk about periods and dh knows I have mine now. He doesn't do hot water bottles or surprise chocolate but then I don't expect or need them either

IsTheRainEverComingBack · 08/09/2018 19:23

Mine is perfectly fine with it. Can buy stuff if need be, doesn’t panic about stained pants on the occasion that happens. I have no problem discussing it with him. We don’t have sex during but that’s fine, my periods are light and only last 2-3 days.

welshweasel · 08/09/2018 19:23

Yes DH is totally fine with periods, as I’d expect! He will buy tampons, be sympathetic when I’m feeling rubbish, rub my back etc. We don’t have sex when I’m on but that’s a joint decision, neither of us are bothered. His teenage daughter lives with us and is v open about all things period based too so he has no choice!

ifoundthebread · 08/09/2018 19:27

Absolutely fine, obviously he doesn't want to know details but if it's a crampy month then he's happy to get me a hot water bottle, painkillers, rub my back. If I need supplies picking up I have to Google a pic to send him to make sure he gets the right ones. He's not interested in sex during that week and that's fine with me as mine are very heavy and would look like a murder scene.

Kittykat93 · 08/09/2018 19:29

Of course he's fine. I couldn't be with a man who couldn't deal with natural body functions!

betrayedandwobbly · 08/09/2018 19:29

STBX was absolutely fine, would shop for sanpro, bring painkillers, be solicitous, step up if I went cpback to bed for an afternoon.

He was a shit in many ways, but good re periods

Djnoun · 08/09/2018 19:30

Yes, he's absolutely fine with it. I had a tampon that was missing the string. I got it stuck and couldn't reach it. He cheerfully pulled it out for me.

Dhalandchips · 08/09/2018 19:31

My ex used to stick his fingers in his ears, close his eyes and go 'la la la' when sanpro adverts came in TV.
In a word, no. When I bled for six months with a fibroid, he said he felt 'rejected' because I didn't feel like a shag.
He's ex for many reasons, this is just one of them.

Gardeninginsummer1 · 08/09/2018 19:31

Absolutely fine. We have had sex during although I'm very short and light flow. He also helped me change pads after I'd had a section and couldn't bend to pull up/ remove pants. He'd take the pads away as well and bin them.

NorthernSpirit · 08/09/2018 19:31

My OH is absolutely fine.

He’s divorced and has a teenage daughter (who stays with us) who he chats to about periods and has been shopping for sanitary products with her.

Thank goodness times have changed. My own mum couldn’t even talk to me growing up in the 80’s about the subject!

peachypetite · 08/09/2018 19:32

I really suffer with mine, there is absolutely no way in hell we would ever have sex when I'm on! He is understanding and we talk about them quite a lot since I'm undergoing scans etc to see if there is an underlying cause.

Hedgehogblues · 08/09/2018 19:33

My partner is fine with periods, I wouldn't be with someone who wasn't, especially someone who didn't understand that I don't want to have sex during them

ElspethFlashman · 08/09/2018 19:35

Doesn't give a shiny shit. Is also completely relaxed about other bodily functions.

Mind you, he had no idea of how much gynae stuff women went through and that's been a learning curve. He knew about periods but pretty much thought they were an afterthought for us women. But I had a lot of heavy bleeding womb lining issues so he got quite the education.

He now knows about period poos and everything!

Never once minded when sex was off the cards. No big deal. But then he's a man, not a manchild.

bourbonbiccy · 08/09/2018 19:35

Yeah my hubby is happy to pick up anything I need, on most occasions if I ask him to get my tampax, he brings in a choccy bar or a tub or Haagen Diaz ice cream. We don't have long winded chats about my periods, but he knows the top level info he needs to, I don't really want him thinking of the "goings on " down there lol I suffer with really bad pains and I am really heavy when I eventually do have a period. We don't have sex during my period due to how heavy they are, which is fine. But yeah, he's great.

GummyGoddess · 08/09/2018 19:35

He's fine, he's shopped for sanpro, washed my mooncup and not flinched at washing and hanging out my reusable pads.

After I gave birth he spent two days following me with a cloth and wiping up blood that got on the floor for me, I did have a pad on but kept flooding.

Chocolatecoffeeaddict · 08/09/2018 19:37

He's fine, I talk about my periods with him and he's not embarrassed. He's very sensitive to my needs when I'm on as I've had a few problems with my periods since recently being sterilised.
He does get sexually frustrated when I'm on my period if I don't feel up for sex, as we both have very high sex drives, but he doesn't push the issue. We have had sex during my period, which was messy but he wasn't bothered.

HollySwift · 08/09/2018 19:38

DH reached peak husband recently when he picked up the exact towels I wanted without being asked when I came on suddenly. He resents them showing up every time I’m horny As do I, but he’s supportive and brilliant.

MissMogwai · 08/09/2018 19:38

My DP has no choice as there's me and two teen daughters who have 'synced'. Poor sod has got no chance.

He will happily go for sanitary products, although needs a picture if we deviate from the norm. He's always good for chocolate, brews and hot water bottles if needed.

Heavy periods mean sex is a no go, plus bloating, sore boobs - no thanks! But to be fair he keeps a safe distance from me for that week and I don't blame him.

VimFuego101 · 08/09/2018 19:38

DH insists on calling them 'Aunt Flo' and is apparently unable to say the word period, but other than that he's OK.

Bluntness100 · 08/09/2018 19:41

I buy my own sanitary protection, I'm quite independent like that, and I don't need surprise chocolate, I'm not a child or ill.

My husband wouldn't ever pressurise me into sex, and if I have my period he wouldn't want to.

I really don't get the question. I'm a grown up. As is he. I can manage my own menstruation.

So does every woman I know.

EggysMom · 08/09/2018 19:42

DH insists on calling them 'Aunt Flo' and is apparently unable to say the word period, but other than that he's OK.

LOL - my DH refers to sanpro as 'fingies'. When we're doing the weekly shop, we'll go past the sanpro aisle and he'll ask whether I need any 'fingies' .... but other than that, he's good about it

Heatherjayne1972 · 08/09/2018 19:49

No. The ex would say in a disgusted voice ‘oh the decorators are in then... that’s no sex for week’- grumpy sulking
Wouldn’t let me put Sanitary products in the trolley and he wasn’t prepared to pay ‘for that’
Totally ignored any cramps - not once ever brought me painkillers/ hot water bottles etc

One of the many many reasons he is long forgotten

Op real grown up men are not like this at all

TokyoSushi · 08/09/2018 19:49

Yep, totally fine. It's been 18 years and I'm still not sure he understands the exact goings on but will help with buying stuff etc if necessary.

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 08/09/2018 19:51

He's wonderful. He'd be more than capable of getting supplies in whatever form I needed them and we can talk about them; he's very understanding. He's probably more comfortable with them than I am.

He's a keeper!

topsyanddim · 08/09/2018 19:54

Are you a DM journalist?

Why do you ask?

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