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Is your man comfortable with periods?

106 replies

littlemisscomper · 08/09/2018 19:12

I couldn't think how to phrase the question, but I was wondering how people's partners cope with the thought of periods.Would you feel embarrassed asking him to pick up sanitary products for you, or would he feel embarrassed buying them? Is he generally thoughtful with making hot water bottles/buying surprise chocolate/fully understanding that you might not feel like having sex or does he seem oblivious to how it affects you? Can you openly talk about periods or is it a taboo subject? I've never had a long term relationship and it's not come up in conversation with any of the guys I've been with, so just wondered what the general male attitude is towards the subject!

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m0therofdragons · 08/09/2018 19:55

Yes. I have times of horrendous periods and flood occasionally. Dh copes fine with finding knickers soaking in the sink. We have 3 DDs so he has to really.

Littlechocola · 08/09/2018 19:57

He’s as fine with my bodily functions as I am with his.

Ohyesiam · 08/09/2018 20:03

Once when
I was young I was talking to a friend about ways to pick good men. Mine included The Invertinrate Clause, ie that he needs a backbone.
She replied that hers was if they could deal with normal bodily functions. She’d had a fling with a guy who made her feel very uncomfortable about her periods.
Turned out later that he was gay, so that could be a pointer for you op.

Twenty years later and I’ve never had a bf who is uncomfortable with any aspect of periods.

Touchnotthiscat · 08/09/2018 20:07

He's great. He tends to buy my Sanitary stuff more than I do, so he knows exactly what I need. They don't sell big old tampons in my Tesco anymore so he pops off to the Spar to get me some 'Orange and purple' Love him. I suspect he buys himself choccie too. He's also excellent with fetching hot water bottles.

Crunchymum · 08/09/2018 20:07

My DP is absolutely fine about periods and fully understanding when I don't feel like sex for any reason

LongSummerDays · 08/09/2018 20:08

He's understanding but doesn't want to know any specific details. He'll bring chocolate, pain killers, wine...

EggWallace · 08/09/2018 20:13

Totally fine. I was once comparing the prices of some pads out of curiosity, and he said ‘you don’t have to economise where your fanny is concerned!’

He’s funny my DH.

DiveBombingSeagull · 08/09/2018 20:14

Totally fine. He is divorced with teen DDs so needs to cope with periods for them.

I use a mooncup but he went to buy sanpro for my DD a few weeks back when she needed some.

Passmethecrisps · 08/09/2018 20:14

He is absolutely comfortable with it as I would expect an adult man with two children to be.

He buys sanitary products often choosing much better ones than I would. He introduced me to the world of nighttime pads which I always felt were pointless.

I had an almost constant period / very unpredictable periods for three years while I had the impant. He never ever once complained and only ever seemed concerned about my welfare

Topseyt · 08/09/2018 20:16

He's OK with it. Not bothered.

He would get sanpro for me if I really wanted him to, but I prefer to get it myself.

BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou · 08/09/2018 20:29

DH is great. He has bought mine and DDs sanpro in the past. Fetches hot water bottles, rubs backs etc. Certainly doesn’t faze him....

Rebecca36 · 08/09/2018 20:39

Mine bought sanitary products for me, he liked doing grocery shopping and would pick them up then. Don't think he was overly keen at first (bit shy) but after a while he didn't mind.

0hT00dles · 08/09/2018 20:45

My DH is fine with periods. If I need something, he’ll nip out and get it, although I generally have a good stash in the house. Don’t do chocs but if I wanted a hot water bottle, he’d make one. We don’t do sec during periods as I just couldn’t. Since having dd2 my periods are now horrendous anyway so no way we could without it looking like some sort of crime scene😂

He’s always been good with them to be honest. Always happy to see them coming😂 except when we were trying obviously

HurricainBiancaDelRio · 08/09/2018 20:47

i am now thinking should my hubby be bringing me surprise chocolates as this is something i could get behind

FlamingJuno · 08/09/2018 20:51

DH works with animals and doesn't turn a hair at any bodily function or excretion . He was morbidly fascinated at the sheer amount of blood it is possible to lose and still live during one particularly unpleasant episode with a fibroid .

myusernameisnotmyusername · 08/09/2018 20:55

Mine would but me chocolate if I said I wanted it and he would and has bought me sanitary towels as long as I tell him what I use. He's generally good with it. He would be happy to have sex and it strangely is the time I feel most horny but I am too squeamish about it so we don't.

MismatchedStripySocks · 08/09/2018 21:02

My husband is fine and will buy ST’s etc. Only trouble is I have to tell him the exact brand or he comes back with the ginormous night time ones whereas i’m Always quite light.

MistressDeeCee · 08/09/2018 21:02

OH buys mine when he does the main shop. I'm 55 so he's a bit FFS WHEN are they going to stop/laughs at thought I could still "technically" get pregnant..those are our jokes about periods. But it wouldn't bother me if he ignored the whole thing tbh - it's my body my period I can deal with it I wouldn't think any less of him if he didn't get involved. Only if he couldn't bring himself to buy my Tampax, that'd annoy me and I'd have words

Theweasleytwins · 08/09/2018 21:05

Dh has brought me surprise chocolate occasionally

Never brought me sanpro because we always shop together

I have changed pads near him but discreetly i guess although not different than if he wasnt there🤔

Babdoc · 08/09/2018 21:06

DH used to buy tampons for me back in the 1980’s. It was maybe less usual then, and he said that an assistant in Boots looked askance at him one day. So DH beamed at the lass and said “It’s ok, they’re not for me. I haven’t got a nosebleed!” She apparently was mortified and hastily put them in a bag.
DD’s partner is similarly laid back. He was shocked to discover how expensive sanpro is, and to DD’s huge amusement he started singing “ Handbags and jam rags” at the supermarket checkout!
DD now uses a mooncup which they both refer to as a jam jar!
I’m glad people have lost the embarrassment that used to surround the subject. I remember when they weren’t even allowed to advertise on tv, and girls often had their first period without knowing what was happening. Some were terrified that they would bleed to death. So much for “the good old days”.

Aria2015 · 08/09/2018 21:08

I've asked my dh to buy tampons and sanitary towels and he's never batted an eye. I tell him when it's my period or about to start but I don't suffer any ill effects from periods like cramps or moodiness so it’s a non-event really. I do occasionally gets headaches on the first day and he picks up the slack at home but he does that whenever I'm unwell so not special period treatment. I'm not embarrassed about talking about it with him, just not much to talk about in my case. He doesn't seem uncomfortable either, I think he just accepts it as a natural thing that happens once a month.

goldhen · 08/09/2018 21:09

My OH often buys my sanitary products along with chocolate. The cashiers must think he’s so nice He just has no shame. He once bought lube (post baby issues, sorry TMI) and herbal sleeping tablets at the same time from Boots. Didn’t realise til I mentioned how bad it would have looked and then shrugged it off. I’ll never get over that!

elQuintoConyo · 08/09/2018 21:14

DH has bought stuff if necessary, but i am quite capable of buying my own. And my own bloody chocolate. He did buy lots of maternity pads after we had DS as i could barely walk for 2 weeks.

He has two sisters so has never balked at the sight of tampons and pads and the like. He was fascinated with my mooncup (that i cannot use anymore, sniff).

I don't suffer cramps or pains so no backrubs necessary.

I couldn't be with a man who was squeamish about periods, much too immature.

Pinkstars2501 · 08/09/2018 21:15

Mine is really good. I get horrendous cramping, to the point where the pain is so bad I can’t stand up straight. He’s always on hand with a hot water bottle, back rub and painkillers (not that they touch it). He tries really hard to just be helpful because mine are so bad, not heavy, but the pain is like contractions.

I haven’t ever asked him to but my sanitary protection tbh, mainly because it’s far easier to just grab what I know I want. I imagine he would if I asked, I’d have to be specific about it though lol.

WooYa · 08/09/2018 21:16

DH is fine talking about them and will go to the shop etc, but he can't say the word 'period' he calls it 'the situation' 🙄😂

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