I have had enough of my dcs on this holiday

[MozzchopsThirty]

I've just left dd(22), ds(14) and ds (9) in the room
They seem to think it's hilarious to complain about everything, fight, shout, scream and generally play up
I told them if they didn't start behaving I would speak to airline tomorrow about going home and they all laughed so I've left them

I'm utterly miserable

They sound like dicks. Can you book them onto an excursion tomorrow and doze by the pool?

Do it.
Seriously. It.might.catch their attention.
Have you paid for the 22 year.9ld?
Shouldn't she k ow better?
Pull the rug out from under them.

The 22 year old is an adult but acting like a spoilt child. I am not surprised you are fed up. What is the set up there? Are you all inclusive or self catering? If all inclusive I would spend a few hours away from them doing something you enjoy. Let them fend for themselves for a bit

Could you take the 22 year old for a drink and explain how you feel? Surely at 22 she should have a bit of empathy. If you get her on side it might be easier to reign the other two in a bit

Sack them off I’m sure they can look after themselves for a while. Engage with them once they know just how angry you are and lay down the line. The 22 year old is responsible enough to look after them all

In an ideal world you should call them on it and book flights home. But I know it's not easy to turn your back on something like that.

Mine can be little beasts too. It's hard.

Sorry just saw that the youngest was 9 ! Do you think they are getting carried away with being on holiday?

I can only offer a weak fist bump of solidarity. Mine have been awful. I am a shell of the woman I thought I was. We go home in 2 days and I can’t wait.

I came to dinner
They walked in 30 mins later and sat at another table
I spoke to dd and she said she didn't think I wanted them to sit with me
I said if they can behave normally then I would like us to sit together for dinner

We've had a civilised dinner and played uno

I've checked the flights, there are non available this week 🙄

I can offer sympathy. It's crap. They are being beasts, as mine were a week ago. I'd speak to each separately, book the youngest into a club and the 14 yr old into another - if you can. Speak to the 22 yr old and let them know how miserable you are and why. Try not to use the word 'you' and talk about the impact of the behaviour of all 3 is having and what you'd like to happen. If 22 yr old doesn't make an immediate change, send them home. It'll be a shot across the bow for the others. At 22 they should know better. Next time they pay for themselves and their own room. Sorry they're spoiling your holiday. Beasts.

I feel you’re pain. Then 15 year old ds1 ruined last years holiday and this year, DS1 sensibly said no to a family holiday and as I didn’t want ds2 to miss out, with his agreement I booked for just me and him to come to France for a few nights.

Well so far he has ignored me, been rude and sulky when I’ve tried to speak to him and generally been fairly horrid. We have had words and no doubt will have more. It’s a bit miserable.

I jokingly said to a colleague that I hoped we weren’t a few weeks too late for the holiday as the teen tantrums were not quite here yet and now they are, with a vengeance.

By the way, we did come home early last year, cost a lot to change the flights but it was far too hot for all of us and we were all incredibly miserable. The rest of us probably would have stuck it out but ds1 could not cope at all.

Sadly I don’t have any answers. I think I was the same when I was a teen which helps none at all!

God this is awful for you all. If it is not too expensive - are there not some kind of holiday camps that kids could go to and the parents go somewhere else???!!

Mozzchops - I hope next year you don't take the 22 year old-although they all sound a bit much.

I've told them all I'm holidaying alone next year
I don't work all year for this shit

That's so crap for you op really rotten.

The 22 year old should be on your side, but it sounds like they are ring-leader. Can you take her aside and have a word? Tell her you are disappointed in her behaviour and expected her to have a bit more of an adult approach?

Fwiw, my 15 yr old is being truly horrible this holiday; entitled, ungrateful and rude and having spectacular tantrums when she doesn't get her way. I am ignoring her atm.

I have coaxed mine out of the hosue for a dry run for new school start next week.
It was conducted in silence with eye rolling.
I know this is a stage but I am not sure why I am the one getting this shite. How do we hand it back without losing our dignity or position as grown up?
That is the dilemma at the moment.
Her mood/sulks impact my own state of mind and mood and frankly I am fucking sick of being jerked about.

Its a kind of control?
They have the capacity to ruin a noice communal experience. Is it them flexing their muscle and to boundary them without it turning into war fare?
Either way. I am fuckign sick of it too.

DS2 refused to come out today. First day in the stunning french alps and all he wants To do is lie in bed on his phone😫

I hand a lovely couple of hours by myself exploring Annecy and to be fair he did come up a mountain this evening but he’s not thrilling company.

Never again for me either. Not until dh and I can go alone.

Well, I've been at work but dd has been a brat for grandma. She refused to go her swimming lesson, and by the time she was out the house after a drama it made DS 15 minutes late for swimming.

They are all utterly hideous

Mozzchoops30 how are things going now? Any improvement on relations?
Have you had anytime for yourself?
Is the hotel and that nice at least?

I'm even more fucked off today

Am in constant agony with stomach pain and back pain. Bad stomach every day.
Can't enjoy the food or drink
Boyfriend at home being weird and not communicating
I just want to go home

MozzchopsThirty the pain might be stress related. Is it something your body does when you are stressed out?
Have the kids been entertaining themselves?
When are you supposed to be going home?

I had a scan 2 days before we came away for ovarian cancer. The symptoms have increased whilst I've been away.
Thankfully it was clear apart from a suspiciously missing ovary 🤔 so that needs further investigation

I just feel like nothing is going right. The kids are much the same, youngest goes to football for 2 hours in the morning then they either play in pool or do some activity in the afternoon

We fly home Saturday morning and quite frankly a fatal plane crash would be welcome

My deepest sympathies. Truly horrendous situation for you.
Do you have any decent pain relief with you?
I had gynae issues (full house gynae bingo) which created awful pain and I would retreat into the land of codeine. Only place for me.
You haven't thought enough about yourself in this. Forget the kids and focus on your comfort.
Do they k ow how bad you feel?
Or how worried you are?
Maybe they are acting out cos they k ow you are worried?
It's all pretty shit at the moment.
Can you get comfortable at All?

You poor thing - that sounds awful. I hope that an explanation for your symptoms can be found and fears allayed on that front. FWIW my elusive ovaries can’t easily be seen on an ultrasound scan due to the anatomy being distorted by adhesions - they’re “tethered” (stuck) to other bits of me and not where they are supposed to be. Adhesions can interfere with your digestive system too and cause nausea and pain - I wonder if that is a possible explanation for what you are experiencing?

Anyway I hope things improve for you on all fronts

Thank you so much, it's good to talk on here as I feel so isolated on holiday
I'm not in pain when I'm asleep that's about it
There's been 2 nights when I feel too full for anything other than water
Today it's been bad since I opened my eyes

I have shit loads of painkillers with me including 30/500 cocodamol but nothing seems to ease it

I just want to go home and lie in my own bed