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Worst day of our lives- my poor baby

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CarbieDoll · 19/08/2018 17:38

Accident today my stupidity caused toddler cut his head open- been in hospital all afternoon it looks horrific poor baby. They’ve glued it twice and we need to see plastic surgeon on tues to see if he needs stitches.
My poor baby boy I feel so desperately sad for him and sick with guilt.

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TheConstantMoaner · 19/08/2018 17:42

Oh poor baby. Sad

But accidents happen. Don’t be so hard on yourself.
Hope he’s better very soon.

Bringonspring · 19/08/2018 17:44

I had something similar with my toddler. I felt the same as you (which is of course is a normal reaction). Even with diligent baby proofing Accidents will happen unfortunately and you just have to try and catch them as best you can.

Crunchymum · 19/08/2018 17:45

Don't beat yourself up.

Accidents happen.

Everyone has their tale to tell. DC1, I forgot to put the brake new pram and 14mo toppled down concrete steps face first (ambulance job but he was fine) DC2 pulled hot iron onto herself (a&e, several visits to Drs for dressing change but thankfully no scarring!)

Both incidents still make me feel awful even many years later when I think about it but it does get easier with time.

I have DC3 and I'm being extra careful with her Shock

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CarbieDoll · 19/08/2018 17:45

He seems ok imnhimself but every time I look at him my heart breaks it’s huge cut all across his forehead looks so sore honestly horrifying my poor little man

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CarbieDoll · 19/08/2018 18:26

A hand to hold anyone please I feel awful

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InMemoryOfSleep · 19/08/2018 18:28

@CarbieDoll you won’t get anyone on here saying anything other than ‘I’ve been there’, because it’s happened to everyone! You can’t blame yourself, we do our best all the time and sometimes things just happen. He probably won’t remember it, and if he does he’ll remember how you looked after him and loved him. Get yourself a Brew and give him a big squeeze, you’ll both be fine.

endofthelinefinally · 19/08/2018 18:37

These things happen OP.
We moved into a completely empty house, the furniture van hadn't even arrived. DS2 toddled into the downstairs toilet, tripped over his own feet, cut his head open on the edge of the toiletand gave himself a black eye . There was nothing else in the place that he could fall over or into.
A week later, when I took them to DS1's new primary school for the first time, another parent asked me how DS2 got his black eye.
I was utterly mortified and guilt ridden.

glintandglide · 19/08/2018 18:37

Oh god OP you poor thing

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CarbieDoll · 19/08/2018 18:41

This is worse as it’s entirely my fault I caused this accident I feel so sick my poor boy will be scarred forever

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Singlenotsingle · 19/08/2018 18:45

I'm sure he won't. They can do wonders these days with plastic surgery for scarring. Try not to worry.

DrCorday · 19/08/2018 18:45

CarbieDoll you may feel responsible but remember, a really shit parent wouldn’t give a crap how he is, or be at the hospital right now sorting him out, and would be moaning her bag off that she’s had a wasted Sunday afternoon.

You are a really good parent for getting him there, stroking his tears away, cuddling him, talking to him to make him laugh and taking him to see the consultant this week.

He knows you are his world and that little boy wouldn’t want any other mummy other than you.

Don’t forget that

Borisdaspide · 19/08/2018 18:47

My now 3 year old had an absolutely horrific looking cut on his lip/chin at 18 months old. I remember sobbing in the hospital about how he'd be scarred forever. You can't see a thing now, they can do marvellous things in plastics, honestly.

SanJunipero · 19/08/2018 18:47

Oh, you poor thing Thanks Accidents happen, no matter how careful you are. Your reaction is showing just how much you love your little boy, and that's what matters. I have a scar from where I feel down the stairs as I toddler, and of course I don't blame my mum - she took her eyes off me for a second. These things happen. Sending you lots of love.

CruCru · 19/08/2018 19:04

Do bear in mind that, even if the cut looks terrible now, it may not be noticeable long term. Small children do an amazing job of healing (and the nurses know how to patch them up).

Have a sweet cup of tea and a biscuit. Your child will be okay.

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CarbieDoll · 19/08/2018 19:23

Thank you all. He’s been an absolute superstar as has my little girl who stayed quite calm. Just keep replaying it over in my mind as I pulled him up and he slipped on the wet floor and fell forward entirely my fault.
I just hope this is enough to hold it otherwise he’ll need to be given

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CarbieDoll · 19/08/2018 19:24

General anaesthetic and the stitched

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girlandboy · 19/08/2018 19:36

A hand hold here too.
You'll be surprised at how any scarring will disappear with time. And that's what you'll have to give it....time.

I threw my newborn across the floor so hard he disappeared under the bed (I tripped while carrying him)
I trapped my daughter's hand in the door twice, and her nail fell off...twice.
My friend hit her toddler in the face with a frying pan!

Have a cup of tea and give him another cuddle for your benefit

AnnieAnoniMoose · 19/08/2018 19:37

Aww lovely, ACCIDENTS happen. Most of the time we are just bloody lucky ‘nothing worse’ happened. There for the grace of mother luck go ALL of us.

Get it off your chest and explain more clearly what happened.

...whatever it was, your ‘mistake’ wasn’t as serious as one of mine, I was just luckier than you. I did, what many others have done too, diligently strapped the baby into the car seat, made sure the straps were firm enough (yadda yadda) put her into the car, got to our destination (40 mins from home, including a motorway) this discover I hadn’t strapped the car seat into the car 😳. I was just very, very, lucky. As most of us are at times.

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CarbieDoll · 19/08/2018 19:40

We were at changing rooms getting ready to go in and as I pulled up his shorts he slipped forward and banged his on the tiled floor cutting it open. I feel like absolute shit.

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yawning801 · 19/08/2018 19:41

There's a reason why it's called an accident, it happens to everyone at some point. You're only human. Hand hold here.

WooYa · 19/08/2018 19:45

Oh CarbieDoll Smile I did this to a child at the nursery where I work - gave them 2 black eyes and ibwas horrified... when I explained to the child's mum she laughed then said don't worry about it Grin accidents happen! He will be fine Thanks

Sickoffamilydrama · 19/08/2018 19:47

I've slipped over given my middle one a huge black eye when she was about 9 months, dislocated the same one's elbow by stupidly swing her with my husband.... I should know it can do that!

With my youngest when he was just toddling I blocked off this nasty rose bush with loads of boards as high as his neck that was by our patio only for him to somehow flip himself over the boards and land face first in the bush, when he was right next to me. Honestly he looked like Freddy Krueger had been at his face, you can still see faint lines a year on. Yes I felt awful and the rose bush got chopped down but it was a complete accident.

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 19/08/2018 19:49

OP, it was an accident, your baby is fine.

Count your blessings, there is worse.

CatPatrol · 19/08/2018 19:50

If this is the worst day of your life, especially regarding your child, then I, undoubtedly like many, envy you.

YourDaughter · 19/08/2018 19:53

My husband was running down a hill with DD(4) in Wales. Going way too fast and she tripped. As she was holding his hand she couldn’t put her hands down to protect herself. Landed smack on her face and split her top lip open pretty much down to her teeth. Hospital were amazing, magic glue and steristrips later she is fine. Slight scar, but once the redness goes you’ll barely see it.
DH beat himself up for a long time. He was going too fast with her and stopped her protecting herself. But he didn’t mean to hurt her, was just having fun doing an everyday activity. Just like you. DD still adores her daddy and is very proud of her scar - she shows it off most days Grin. Guaranteed your son will be the same. Flowers and Wine for you

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