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Worst day of our lives- my poor baby

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CarbieDoll · 19/08/2018 17:38

Accident today my stupidity caused toddler cut his head open- been in hospital all afternoon it looks horrific poor baby. They’ve glued it twice and we need to see plastic surgeon on tues to see if he needs stitches.
My poor baby boy I feel so desperately sad for him and sick with guilt.

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Pissedoffdotcom · 19/08/2018 20:43

Oh god if i had to recount the amount of times DD has had accidents that i hated myself for i'd need a gasket of alcohol! I promise you every parent does it. DP recounted the other day how his dad was carrying DPs newborn son in a carrycot from the hospital & dropped him...he apparently bounced then rolled down the path. He's 28 now & perfectly fine! DD is 6 & survived going face first down the stairs twice apparently none of us learned about communicating who she was with as well various other things - she was always covered in bruises from one scrap or another. It's like a right of passage as a parent one i'm dreading with 8 week old DS

Your bubba will not think anything of it & surgeons can do amazing things if it comes to that. Big un-MN hug

freakinbananaspiders · 19/08/2018 20:45

Most people have a tale to tell for every child. It just seems horrific when it first happens. Our four year old still has a V shape when she frowns where she banged her head on the toy box. It came up massive like an egg and we rushed to A&E. If only we'd not added her name to it (the toy box) 😬 Don't worry the next time it happens will be easier xx

Hushnownobodycares · 19/08/2018 20:45

These things happen, OP. He won't remember.

I'm still consumed with guilt about the day dd (then18 months) was fannying about on reins by sitting unexpectedly. She went to do it again. I tightened my grip on her hand to keep her upright, she somehow twisted round and dislocated her elbow Sad Sad. She's now 25 and in a very responsible job. Doubt she's aware it ever happened.

youarenotkiddingme · 19/08/2018 20:46

I caused ds to fall face first in the floor at 2yo.

He cut his frendulum and lip open and he had to have the front tooth removed at 4 as it was dying.

I felt dreadful at the time.

Mindyou - I'm not sure I felt much better when people asked ds why he had his tooth out (and a gap for 3 years) and he'd reply

"Because my mum dropped me on my face when I was 2" Grin

He didn't care or blame me. I've stopped feeling dreadful.

And my mother thought it marvellous because she then felt better for letting me fall face first off a changing table at the same age Grin

You're a fantastic mother because you care. But accidents happen.

EllenJanesthickerknickers · 19/08/2018 20:46

In the 1950s my mum was gaving her hair permed at home with a strong smell of chemicals. My dad poured my sister a glass of 'lemonade' which she drank down. It was white spirit which has been stored in the lemonade bottle. She was unconcious for a week and has scarring on her lung. She's now in her 60s but it could have been a lot, lot worse. My dad was so over-protective over us all after that. Accidents happen and sometimes they can be caused by carelessness but they are still accidents.

Pinkkahori · 19/08/2018 20:53

When my dd was just walking (about 14 months old) we were vising friends. I spent the whole visit making sure the stairs to the open plan upstairs living area was blocked off and keeping an eye on her.
Just minutes before we left she fell....
And not down the stairs I so carefully guarded but over a mat and hit her eye on the edge of a coffee table.
I've never seen so much blood and it seemed to be coming from her eye. I was practically hysterical. We took her to A&E. She had a tiny cut beside her eye but was totally fine.
She still has a little scar but it's barely noticeable.
Hope you both feel better soon.

MyDarlingWhatIfYouFly · 19/08/2018 20:53

On the day my DS learned to crawl he ate a washing liquitab - we'd left the box on the floor, unworried because we thought he was non-mobile. It was awful. Luckily he was vomiting a bit but no lasting damage. The doctor in A&E told us that if he'd rubbed his eyes it could have done serious damage, it was over 3 years ago and I still beat myself up about it constantly.

Massive hand hold, these things happen although I know you will be torturing yourself for a long while. You are absolutely not alone!

Puzzledandpissedoff · 19/08/2018 20:54

@AnnieAnoniMoose I see your unsecured car seat and raise you:

Baby placed in car seat
Straps checked
Count up of other stuff needed - all present
Baby fidgets - straps checked again
Pile all equipment into car and drive off

Realise baby's been left behind

Flashinggreen · 19/08/2018 20:54

youarenotkiddingme DS2 knocked out one adult tooth and one baby tooth. Thankfully his adult tooth was put back in by DH And is still there nearly 4 yrs later, he’ll probably lose it at some point though...

PurpleCrazyHorse · 19/08/2018 20:55

DS fell backwards out of the caravan door while we were on holiday last week. He tripped over a bucket we'd left near the door which he'd moved to right in front of it. I just saw his legs disappear down the steps. He's got a nasty bruise right on his back that looks awfully suspicious (where he ended up wrapped around the handrail).

I actually feel more awful about putting DD firmly down on the naughty mat and catching her bum on the pointy corner of the skirting board. She screamed and had a deep bruise. I felt bad because I was probably being a bit more forceful that usual as she was uncharacteristically playing up and resisting the step and I was quite cross. PIL were there to witness it too!

Flashinggreen · 19/08/2018 20:56

Wow EllenJanesthickerknickers

EllenJanesthickerknickers · 19/08/2018 21:00

I know, flashinggreen can you imagine how hard it was to forgive himself? He poured it out and gave it to her. It could have killed her. He was a lovely, lovely man.

Flashinggreen · 19/08/2018 21:01

That week while she was in a coma must’ve been heart breaking.

EllenJanesthickerknickers · 19/08/2018 21:04

It was before I was born so although I knew about it, it wasn't until I had my own children that I really understood.

youarenotkiddingme · 19/08/2018 21:11

Oh yes! I left 4 week old ds at the side of the road in his car seat and drove off.

Had his pushchair, baby bag and all that paraphernalia though Blush

Actually - I'm clearly not fit to be a mother Grin

mommybear1 · 19/08/2018 21:22

Handhold OP I hope you're little man is better soon please don't blame yourself accidents do happen ThanksCake

mumsastudent · 19/08/2018 21:25

my ds had a season ticket at a & e from 4 onwards! :) he was an active little boy - funny thin is he was severely asthmatic so when I took him for his asthma check the nurse takes one look at him & says "Oh good his lungs must be getting better!" we had been through the reception before & every time someone looked at him I went into the spiel "he fell over we were waiting for the bus etc etc" which probably makes us sound more guilty! so....I dc broke arm, he managed to dent his head several times & his next up ds shut his fingers in the carboot it didn't even break his fingers - I thought we were going to discover 4 fingers in the car! fell backwards on a little mothercare chair & dislocated his elbow I could go on! Hasn't changed much age twenty something fell down stairs carrying iron/ironing board & lost part of his tooth (daft bat IQ plus plus! practicality 0!) You weren't being a bad mum you just cant keep your eyes on them all the time - accidents happen - its a sign that your dc is healthy!!! & adventurous!

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CarbieDoll · 19/08/2018 21:27

Thank you all for your messages I really appreciate it and I’m sorry if I’ve caused any upset obviously worse things have happened to others it’s just this is the worse injury I’ve ever seen and it’s my baby. There was so much blood we were both covered everyone panicking just the whole thing has been awful and I’ve got wait until tue to find out if plastics are happy with how he’s healing we might need to go through it all again but worse as he’ll need GA.
anyway thanks for the hand holding xx

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DeltaG · 19/08/2018 21:28

My DS (6 months) rolled head first off the bed this morning onto the ceramic tiled floor; he screamed the place down at first but seems fine now. DH and I are feeling terrible though. Feeling your pain OP.

youarenotkiddingme · 19/08/2018 21:35

You haven't caused any upset.

Hopefully in years to come you'll look back, like we do, and remember the accidents fondly as part of your story.

And be reassuring another parent on here that's we've all been there.

Try and get some rest - you sound utterly exhausted and overwhelmed. Everything seems worse when your tired

PrincessIsAUnicorn · 19/08/2018 21:35

Thanks and Wine for you op, accidents happen, try not to blame yourself. DS has a tiny mark on his arm, when he was about 3/4 months old, he was having belly time, my DM had made us some lunch, DM put her cup of tea on the floor (without thinking, plus DS wasting crawling at the time), I asked DM to pick up her tea, and just as DM was about to pick it up, somehow DS had turned and shuffled forward! Then tipped the contents out on to his arm (no idea what I did with my plate!) but obviously did the right thing regarding taking the heat out of the burn. The blister was huge on his tiny little arm, but it is no bigger than a two pence piece now.
With regards to plastic surgery, my DNiece's finger tips got trapped in a fire door, the tips were held on by a tiny bit of skin (so flopped open) you wouldn't notice it now, the only time you can is when she's had her hand in hot water.
So don't beat yourself up too much about it

LunchBoxPolice · 19/08/2018 21:37

Happens to the best of us.
This evening me and 4 year old ds were lying down doing selfies on the bed and I dropped the phone on his face.

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CarbieDoll · 19/08/2018 21:46

He’s asleep I’ve had another cry and now I’m going to get some sleep now too for a bit.

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Puzzledandpissedoff · 19/08/2018 21:48

There was so much blood we were both covered

At the time it really feels as if it's never going to stop doesn't it? You're trying to calm them down while feeling anything but calm yourself and the whole thing just seems a catastrophe because he's yours

With children healing so well I'm sure there's every chance nothing else will need to be done, but try not to worry too much even if he did need a quick GA to tidy it up. Since he's not in any way ill the risks would be infinitesimal and children are only given very gentle anaesthetics - really only enough to keep them still/pain free rather than thoroughly "knocked out" as we tend to think of it

You'd probably feel like a wet rag but he'd be racing round the place before you knew it ... and that's in the unlikely event it was even necessary

0h · 19/08/2018 21:52

I'm very lucky as I've not been around for all my DCs 'big' injuries. They're very considerate and bleed/break bones when at school/clubs. Grin

I do then have the guilt about not being there to immediately comfort them. 😭

There's no beating Mum Guilt!

Hope you feel okay soon, OP. Head wounds are a bugger for bleeding like hell from even a tiny cut and all that blood is just terrifying.