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Worst day of our lives- my poor baby

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CarbieDoll · 19/08/2018 17:38

Accident today my stupidity caused toddler cut his head open- been in hospital all afternoon it looks horrific poor baby. They’ve glued it twice and we need to see plastic surgeon on tues to see if he needs stitches.
My poor baby boy I feel so desperately sad for him and sick with guilt.

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bertiesgal · 19/08/2018 22:02

Been there.

DD (age 3 at the time) approaching me with that scream (you know the scream) and her hand covering her right eye. All I can see is blood pouring down her face.

By some miracle the eye wasn’t involved but she did end up with a nasty cellulitis and still has a wee scar.

For ages my heart broke that we’d been given this little baby and she’d ended up injured under our care.

I’m so much more philosophical now.

I also had to deliver a child back to their parents knowing they’d need stitches due to an injury they sustained in our house.

I’m a medic so mum was grateful for my assessment but it happened in my living room-still sick at the memory!

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CarbieDoll · 19/08/2018 22:32

Cannot sleep at all feel so sick hopefully things will seem better in the morning if I do get to sleep in the end.

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Puzzledandpissedoff · 19/08/2018 22:43

Don't try to force it, Carbie - you've had a shock and I'd be surprised if you did doze off straight away

Just find a place to sit quietly and take it gently (and remember that if DS was poorly or in pain he'd probably be awake and yelling!!) Smile

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CarbieDoll · 19/08/2018 22:46

Thank you I’m next to ds now he’s sleeping really nicely. I just feel so awful keeps replaying over in my mind poor ds. I feel quite panicked and sick.

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Hissy · 19/08/2018 22:55

You’ve had an almighty shock, what you feel is completely normal, he’s in the right place and tomorrow you’ll have a surgeon look at him, it’ll be better then (((Hug)))

My 8yo was burnt to 13% of his body because I gave him a steam inhalation to clear his poorly bleeding nose/sinuses.

I felt utterly awful, the guilt was crushing! The staff all said how it was an accident and to please not blame myself

A few years on and he’s fully recovered, very little scarring.

Thinking of you and your LO. (((Hug)))

It will get better, it will be ok

EyeDrops · 19/08/2018 22:56

Another 'from the child' perspective - I have a small but noticeable scar on my forehead from cutting my head open at 18m old. I'm sure my parents felt awful at the time.

I cannot remember it. I also quite like having a scar! It was very cool when Harry Potter came out. It's a talking point. I have no negative feelings about it.

Your boy will be fine Thanks

kikibo · 19/08/2018 23:08

Join the club.

Our DD (almost 1) woke up while the guy from the water company was here this afternoon to try and fix a leak we'd discovered. DH got her out of bed and had her while I dealt with the guy downstairs in the cellar. He joined us with her, put her on the windowsill because she's quite heavy, then guy left, and we were discussing what to do. One moment she was on the windowsill, the next I see her fall off head first onto the laminate flooring...

Thankfully the only thing she did was scream... and then eat. She seems fine.
I cried.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 19/08/2018 23:09

he’s sleeping really nicely

Of course he is; he's safe, well looked after and has his much loved mum next to him Smile

Off to bed myself now, but when you next see the doc, why not get in a mention about how awful you were feeling? Believe me they see this all the time and with a young child they're well aware they're "treating the whole family" as it were

From experience I'm absolutely certain they'll be able to put your mind completely at rest Flowers

WhatAnAbsolutePenis · 19/08/2018 23:09

Head bleed like a bitch don't they?

OP when DS was about 16 months he was stood on my bed and fell off hitting the back of his head on the metal corner of my gas fire. The damage it did to his little head was horrible. It kept playing over and over in my head afterwards.
Another time (same child) he was about 2 and he was on my back in the Ergo and I let him down and mistakingly thought his feet were touching the ground. I let go and his slipped face first, his top teeth went through his top lip, the skin was hanging down and there was a hole that went right through. Again I felt fucking awful.

And don't even get my started on what my boys have done to each other 🙄

OP I really feel for you.
Don't worry too much about the GA, it isn't as bad as you think. Flowers

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CarbieDoll · 19/08/2018 23:20

Thanks all I definitely up for the foreseeable as tired as my eyes are my brain or body can’t switch off yet.

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Vanillaradio · 19/08/2018 23:28

Bless you. My ds had surgery under ga at 16 months and was absolutely fine. Cried a little when he woke up, was demolishing lunch and bouncing around within 20 minutes.
That was for a hand condition btw. The scar on his forehead however is from when he fell head first into a brick wall aged 2 because I thought he was fine running around and stepped back.
Other incidents include him pulling the ironing board down on top of himself because I didn't realise he could crawl that far, that was a near miss. We've all done it.

plominoagain · 19/08/2018 23:42

Bless you . 5 DC’s here and not one of them escaped childhood unscathed ... from DS1 who ran head first into the banister post aged 3 and knocked himself silly with a huge lump on his head needing a fast run to A and E , and then doing it again on the other side a week later , to DS2 who, when I ignored his 2 year old temper tantrum , threw himself backwards off a sit and ride toy straight onto concrete and knocked himself out out - that was an air ambulance visit . Oh and when I managed to separate DS5’s elbow whilst playing swing with him when I tripped over and took him with me . That was dreadful too . It doesn’t make any of us bad mothers . Sometimes it happens to us all . I don’t know anyone who doesn’t have a single mishap tale to tell .

thejeangenie36 · 19/08/2018 23:46

OP I really feel for you. We had a similar incident when my DS was one and a half, fell over and cut his head. There was loads if blood and he was shaking. I was horrified. But he's 5 now, and loves the 'cool', now very much faded, Harry Potter esque scar on his forehead.

ImNotAsGreenasImCabbageLooking · 20/08/2018 00:07

You're still in shock CarbieDoll after all it was a very frightening experience for you too. Honestly, you're not the first parent to have such a thing happen and you won't be the last, plenty of us have had that gut-churning, blood turning to ice feeling as our child is injured while we're right there Sad

When dd was 1 I trapped her fingers between a door and frame, there was blood everywhere, she needed surgery and her nail never healed properly but it could have been much worse. She's nearly 9 and I still feel awful when I think of it but she just rolls her eyes and laughs if I mention it, she doesn't remember it at all!

DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 20/08/2018 00:31

Have some 🍰 OP. We've all been there.Before DD got to primary school she'd stuck a ballpoint through her hard palate, broken her collarbone twice in six months, and did a forward roll over my head and landed headfirst in front of the parish priest. That interval between the thud and the scream...I have never felt fear like it.

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CarbieDoll · 20/08/2018 00:57

Feel absolutely ill cannot sleep I’m a jittering mess keep trying deep breathing to calm myself down b

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Goostacean · 20/08/2018 01:00

Don’t worry, OP, it’s just the shock wearing off- everything is okay and the doctors are best placed to help your little one. Accidents (as has been said ten times already here) happen, to everyone. Please don’t blame yourself, and try to push the replays out of your mind. Big handhold from me!

AssassinatedBeauty · 20/08/2018 01:01

It's alright. Your child is absolutely fine and sleeping happily. It's the reaction to the adrenaline and stress caused by the whole incident. Can you listen to some music that you really like, or listen to a podcast or similar? Something to stop you thinking non stop about it all?

OkPedro · 20/08/2018 01:11

Ah carbiedoll we know how you're feeling Flowers

My dd split her head open when she was two the amount of blood made me weak!
(She had the wound glued and now almost 10 has a tiny scar)
Two weeks after that she fell out the front door hitting her eye on a flower pot
Blood everywhere!
I felt like an awful mother for the first 5 years of her life

JoanFrenulum · 20/08/2018 01:21

This happened to DNephew. He had to have GA and everything. Fast forward a few weeks and kiddo is excitedly telling everyone how he had a big uh-oh and replaying the exciting event; parents are still epically traumatised just like you are now. Try to go easy on yourself--kiddo will be fine.

MmeButtox · 20/08/2018 01:51

I agree with Cat Patrol. Worse things happen at sea... Just be insistent that you are taken seriously by plastics (if you don't feel satisfied pay privately for a second consult rather than risk permanent scarring)

Be calm though - I know from experience that plastic surgeons take great pride in the aesthetics of their work and will strive for an excellent outcome.

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CarbieDoll · 20/08/2018 04:38

Thank you all ds ha done amazingly and slept all night. I’ve managed to get a bit which has helped I’ve stopped shaking now at least. The glue seems to be holding it for now but they did say it would be tues that was the telling time for their decision.

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CarbieDoll · 20/08/2018 09:26

Ds slept so well and this morning seems his normal happy self just trying to keep him from running around etc too much

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youarenotkiddingme · 20/08/2018 10:36

That's great he's doing so well. Children really do bounce back quicker than we think.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 20/08/2018 11:36

Delighted to hear he's doing fine this morning (though not at all surprised Wink) Excellent, too, that you got at least a bit of sleep and that the glue seems to be doing it's job ... fingers crossed for tomorrow!!

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