What has your ex contributed to school uniform this year?

[surlycurly]

Hello all. Just wondering how other people do new school uniforms. For 5 years we have halved it but this year my ex announced he's not contributing. He's saving his money for his forthcoming wedding. He bought DS a stationary set and that's it. DS starts high school this year. I've paid for new everything for them both (DD already at high school). ExH earns two and a half times what I do. What about you?

Not in your situation but my partner splits everything with his ex.
One of them will do the shop and the other will transfer their half over. It all depends on who has my stepson on the days the school shop is open.

We have my stepson week on week off so we have our own set of shirts and trousers so it's only the blazer, bag and sports kit that goes back and forth.

Fuck all. He's in Mexico. He hasn't even sent DD the traditional Mexican shoes I asked for 9 years ago.

Thanks @Handsfull13 - this is how we've always done it in the past re splitting the total. He's not out my maintenance up but has stopped splitting all the extras like Christmas, holiday clothes etc. And now school uniforms.

My ex is about to bugger off to Norway... I have concerns about the monthly contributions for the kids then if I'm honest.

Sweet FA.

Diddly squat!
When we split two years ago it was around this time and we halved it completely.
Last year I didn't ask and I don't really know why but nothing was offered.
This I have dd starting secondary but ds also needs all new including blazer. I messaged exh to ask if he could make a contribution and was told 'sorry I have no spare money'.
I would love to know what he thinks would happen if i said the same. I don't have any 'spare' either but I have had to find it.
He seems to think the paltry maintenance he pays covers stuff like this.

My ex sent me £60. This is no where near half when school shoes alone for them both cost £30 each!

DS is starting high school so has needed a ridiculous amount of stuff. Football boots, PE kit, Rugby kit, blazer, jumpers, stationary etc etc. Not to mention the trip that is mandatory at the end of Sept, the trip is free but you need to provide sleeping bag, mat, plates, cutlery, walking boots and more. We aren't campers so have none of this stuff.

I've had to just buy them both 2 shirts and trousers at the moment and will buy more as and when I have the money.

He doesn’t give anything specifically - I suppose some of the maintenance he gives contributes towards it. I pay for any trips etc as well.
I don’t mind the money part but the having to think about it part would be nice to have help with. He ends up not needing to worry about it in any way

Mine never did any of it. He did pay half for a school trip to Spain once, suddenly had no money when it came to new clothes and spending money he had already agreed to though. That was tough.

Mine has committed to several trips I can't afford to make him look like the generous benefactor. I then have to pay for all the new clothes/ gear etc. And spending money. But he's the hero that paid for the trip (even though it means I'm the one taking them and picking them up. He paid for one behind my back and my daughter missed a massively important family birthday- I went nuts with the school but didn't pull her from the trip and I'd then have been the bad guy).

Nothing. He's always 'between jobs' this time of year. I gave up asking for a contribution many years ago , I just save for and expect to be paying for it all.

I'm sorry that so many other parents have similar things happening.

Nothing. Apparently it’s ‘not his problem’

Nothing. But I get no child maintenance either, so no great surprise.

What a dick I'd just say to him your child still needs uniform.

Zilch.

He prefers buying them expensive casual clothes then picking fights with me over anything they lose or damage.

I ignore. Kids have the measure of the man.

What a lot of idiots there are out there. I suppose I'm just furious because mine has been so dismissive of the kids since he met his new woman. Whatever I thought of him personally, I never thought he'd be like this with his kids . That said, I'm in a better position than some of you. High fives to all of you doing it completely solo

Ex never paid anything towards Dd1. I used to save a but all year to get her uniforms. My family also helped me out.

Fuck all.

He hasn't done anything yet but he is on holiday with the kids. He usually donates towards school shoes. I don't really expect anything as he pays maintenance but is always helpful when he pays a bit towards.

A grand total of £0.

Also had the bombshell that he's no longer paying maintenance, so it's a new battle through CMS to look forward to!

My ex refuses to help he says that's what his maintenance is for. He refuses to help with school trips or anything else. He's an arse

Nothing. I wouldn’t give him the satisfaction of even asking him. I just save up out of my maintenance.

Nothing but get £30 a month so sure that covers all my Ds!s expenses🙄

Oh, actually, I'd forgotten. Mine found a new wrinkle last year.

Kids with him for summer hols. I teach abroad. He proudly announced he'd get them school shoes, then bought ones that completely flouted the rules, despite kids pointing out that they wouldn't be allowed them & asking for appropriate ones.

I sighed & took them to buy suitable shoes.

Ex then did a big rant at me, because I teach at their school, for 'making up stupid rules' & at the kids for being cowed by my fun sponge tendencies & not rebelling & insisting on wearing the unsuitable ones.

I'm not, for the record, actually in charge of the uniform policy...

Half the cost of shoes (need school shoes, plimsolls, and forest school boots so not cheap) but nothing towards clothes